Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

I would take it but expect that my other half steps up the mental and physical load, and also buy in lots of convenience it’s a huge amount of money for not too much extra work

Most households have 2 working parents.

Or a single parent household who works.

Or a no-kids household where the adults work.

Everyone who works still has to ensure they make proper meals and can run their house.

Take the job.

If you don’t like it, or find it difficult then quit. It’s not the end of the world.

Your OH will step up here surely.

How do you think people who work do it? You’ll be at home apart from 2 days a month and she’s in nursery! Your slow cooker will become your best friend.

You can always leave if it gets too much

Do it and with some of the extra money treat yourself to a weekly cleaner also make sure your hubby pulls his weight so you are not doing everything

Op this is a no brainer as others have said! Take the job and be independent! It sounds like as a sahm you are doing all house and childcare. Obviously when you go back to work your DH will have to share some of this! If he can’t then use some of the £70k for a cleaner and wrap around care. If you keep staying at home it’ll only get harder in the future to return to work. It’s not just money now but your pension and long term independence here
It’s very easy to prep dinners sometimes around wfh. Sounds like you’ll also be able to do pick ups quite easy. But things like washing and cleaning house etc should be shared with DH - wouldn’t he naturally help share burden of this?

@Amivei

Get yourself a cleaner, do some batch cooking at weekends and take the job!!! The worst that could happen is you give it up in 6 months?!

Defo take the job, no brainer, you’ll feel the benefits in so many ways not just financial. But you need to get out of the SAHM mindset. Meals, housework, school runs, will need to be shared. Do not get into the habit of doing everything you currently do, plus work op. Your DH needs to make some changes too. Have those discussions asap!

To be fair, I phantasize about exercising and making healthy meals, not cleaning 😅 I will never be able to be a SAHM or even take a sick day so it will stay as a phantasy.

For comparison iv started a new job all office based (30 min commute each way) I do 10 hour days alternating 3 days a week then 4 and have a nearly 3 year old! We make it work because we need the extra money although I am pregnant again so will be on maternity leave in 5 months time but with a plan to return to work on reduced hours! Your job sounds ideal you can get alot of little things done while wfh and your little girl will be having a great time at nursery :)

This was meant to say will NOT have the capacity…but you catch my drift

No, it’s not ‘pocket money’. They may not need the money but 70k isn’t pocket money regardless or what someone else earns.

I’m not jealous at all, can’t think of anything more boring than doing the cleaning while my only child is out of the house.

Well it is 'extra' money. Depends how much the partner earns. Perhaps it's pocket money? But cleaning all day long whilst 3 year old in childcare seems a bit of a pointless waste of time. Surely, no-ones home is that untidy?

If you posted that you're working full time and exhausted and rushed, everyone would have sympathy. But you made the mistake of posting you're a SAHM and bagged a 70k a year job.

Everyone will tell you to go to work because they're jealous. Hell, I'm jealous. I had to go back to work when DD was 6 months old and it was the most horrible, hardest thing I have ever done.

I'd love to be able to be home more. Any household where both parents work full time is rushed and everyone is tired.

You make it work though. It's shit but there are good parts too. Go for it and see how you get on.

70k is "extra money" 😂

Normal people manage to work and stay on top of life. If everyone else can do it, you absolutely will adjust too.

I went back to work after my 2nd (at 11 months), 3 days a week in the office, 3 hour commute door to door each way. Yes, you read that right. I left the house for the station at 6am, walked in the door at the office after train and tube at 9am. I left the office at 4pm, tube and train and drive home from the station and I walked in the door at 7pm. And I was making about £40k at the time. 😂

Of course you will manage. As they say, if you want something done, ask a busy person! Your dh will have to share more of the load and you’ll get more time for yourself too when you aren’t just tidying and cooking food. It’s absolutely doable.

Hmmm

i’ll bite…

I have so many questions
Why is your child in childcare from 9-4 if you’re a sahm?

I know everybody’s different but why on earth are taking you that long to clean and prep dinner?

Only you know whether you’re capable of doing the job to be honest I smell bullshit anyway because someone who is incapable to use seven hour a day better than to just clean and prep for dinner will have the capacity/capability to hold down a full-time job that earns 70 K imo…but ok

The only thing YABU over is doubting. Take the job!

Im another who cant work out whats taking you 35 hours a week to cook and look after the house. That's a full time job, unpaid.
Look on outsourcing housework as buying time, rather than paying someone to do something you could do yourself. Outsource the jobs you and DH hate the most (mine was ironing) and make sure DH does a fair share himself, including childcare if sick, holidays etc.

What industry is this out of interest? £70k after three years out the game is great

Work expands to fit the time available for it, OP. You've got slack, spending your days slowly tidying and cleaning. If you only have an hour a day you'll speed up. And you have a partner. You could afford a cleaner to help if necessary.

Everyone gets slack when there's not much pressure. You can meal-plan meals: batch cook, look for quick things, prep stuff in your lunch break, get your partner to help.

Sounds to me, though, as if you like your non-working lifestyle. Own it if that's the real issue.

Get a housekeeper who will come in for four hours three days a week. In that time they would be able to clean / do laundry + prep some meals. If you’re paying them £25 hour that’s about 15k a year for someone to stay on top of the nuts and bolts of things for you. You’re still hugely up financially.

try it!