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Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

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Amivei · 27/08/2025 11:00

I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

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shuggles · 27/08/2025 23:04

allusernamesaretakennow · 27/08/2025 13:37

Only fans? WFH and pick hours. I'm not sure the OP is coming back to answer.

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You don't get "offered a job" for Only Fans. You sign up for the website, create your own content, and your pay is dictated solely by how many subscriptions and payments you receive. I'm surprised that there people who think Only Fans is a salaried job.

ProfessorofCunning · 27/08/2025 23:04

Take it. I’m on day 9 of a 15 day run of my two low paid jobs because days off have clashed with work days. My husband was made redundant from a good full time job in April and has only had ad hoc and temp work since despite applying for lots. My DC have turned slightly feral over the summer, but they have had a blast really. Still manage to have home cooked food most of the time, but pizza and pesto pasta do feature. I’m currently sorting the washing out at 11pm having just got home from work, and start again at 9 in the morning. I have just had to say yes anytime there’s overtime work so we can pay the bills. I’d love a 70k remote job. I know everyone’s circumstances are different, but honestly take it.

Glowstickparty · 27/08/2025 22:57

I think you need to consider what you want/need. If you’re not ready, leave it a year if you think other jobs will come up that are similar. In a year she will be at school? But you could take it now try it and see. As others have said use a cleaner etc to make life easier.

CelestialCandyfloss · 27/08/2025 22:56

This is such a weird post. All these comments and yet the OP has not come back at all? 🤔is this even real? A £70k job falls in your lap, your child already goes to nursery and you're conflicted??

TheTwitcher11 · 27/08/2025 22:55

Amivei · 27/08/2025 11:00

I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

Can I have it if you don’t want it? 🤣

Ratafia · 27/08/2025 22:54

I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

Why? What are you doing during that period?

Silvertulips · 27/08/2025 22:53

Wow some of us raised 3 kids, on £20K no cleaner or gardener - all kids now adults! Some woman work full time as single parents and manage. Some woman don’t have any family support either.

Check your privilege.

Askingforafriendtoday · 27/08/2025 22:48

landlordhell · 27/08/2025 11:13

I would seriously have a word with yourself at not being able to accomplish anything g for 6 hours at the moment. That’s a bit odd. The job sounds great. What do you do?

This.

Blueberrymuffinsforthewin · 27/08/2025 22:46

I think if you walk away from this opportunity you may kick yourself in the future. Flexible jobs aren't easy to get and with a salary like that too, surely on the cleaning front it may be worth hiring a cleaner. And maybe meal planning/prepping easy meals for working days.

Ohnobackagain · 27/08/2025 22:41

@Amivei I would go for it and get a cleaner in for some bits. It shouldn’t all be on you!

RoseAlone · 27/08/2025 22:40

Nothing is more important than being there for your child. Work can wait, your child shouldn't have to

ksbeikeb · 27/08/2025 22:38

You do 7 hours of cleaning and meal prep every day?!

Hire a cleaner. Get a meal box. Why is all the household stuff down to you? What about your partner? Once you’re back at work it should be 50/50.

I would take the job, it sounds great.

ActuallyADoctor · 27/08/2025 22:37

Can’t be bothered to read all the replies but assume people are tearing you a new one. Have some awareness about your relative privilege. Take the 70k job. Or not. Sounds like it will be absolutely fine either way 🤷‍♀️

tooclosetooexchange · 27/08/2025 22:36

Do what is best for you OP. A man wouldn't ask himself all these questions.

Split chores with your partner, hire cleaner and spend quality time together not worrying about money. Hope it goes well!

Carodebalo · 27/08/2025 22:34

Omg what kind of job is this exactly? Serious question. I’d love a job like that!

Fireflybaby · 27/08/2025 22:33

Why not hire someone to help with cleaning and cooking couple of times a week. That will give you time as family and keep on top of household and won't break your bank. You will do something you enjoy and your family will also be happy.

HardworkSendHelp · 27/08/2025 22:29

OMG take the job! Or in ten years you will be like another poster today whose husband has her living in an overdraft as she quit work. Pay people to do your cleaning, online shopping etc.

oldclock · 27/08/2025 22:23

Summerlovin24 · 27/08/2025 22:21

I can't get past putting her in nursery full time when you are off work.
Could have had fun with her all day instead of leaving her with strangers

That's a good point, why is she in nursery?

BuildbyNumbere · 27/08/2025 22:21

Take it. No brainer!

Summerlovin24 · 27/08/2025 22:21

I can't get past putting her in nursery full time when you are off work.
Could have had fun with her all day instead of leaving her with strangers

catherinewales · 27/08/2025 22:15

£70k a year that’s not massively needed. Hire a cleaner.

TiredMummma · 27/08/2025 22:10

What the actual fuck. Most people will kill to have an offered salary with those working conditions in this recruitment market OR have the CHOICE to stay home with their kids. What luxury. You are taking a job away from someone else. Why on earth would you not go back to work? Your child would certainly benefit from nursery as otherwise will be less prepared for school. Either way it’s a privileged position you find yourself in.

MyDeftDuck · 27/08/2025 18:40

Batch cooking is your friend…..wholesome nourishing meals that you all like and bunged in the freezer, do a big shop once a month then it’s just a quick top up shop weekly…..alternatively have a delivery.

You have been SAHM for three years and got stuck in your present regime…..that’s easy to change…….go for it! Good luck!

TheBewleySisters · 27/08/2025 17:40

Totally manageable. Or get a cleaner, and share more of the domestic chores with your husband.

Midnights68 · 27/08/2025 17:29

Oblomov25 · 27/08/2025 16:42

I'll starting to wonder at this thread. 💩Incompetent woman who has dd in permanent childcare, doesn't need the money, hasn't worked fir years, can't clean and get an evening meal prepared, gets offered dream job. Hmmmm .....

It does all seem a bit…. unlikely.

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