Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

Take the job

Im fascinated what you do all day!

Yes, take the offer.
You can arrange other things around your DD and job with the help of your partner and outsourcing some tasks.

hire a cleaner. cooking doesn’t take all day esp if you prep night before

That’s what parental leave is for.
And if OP is remote, it’s unlikely they’ll miss school concerts etc because they will be able to flex around it.

Take the job.
if in a year it’s not working out, quit, But if you don’t take the job you’ll wonder what if. Almost fully remote roles paying 70k pa are few and far between.

P.S get a cleaner, and meal prep / get one of those meal prep delivery services a few nights.

OP, 4pm finish is living the dream.

You’ll manage, otherwise do you plan on not working until your child can reliably cook for themselves?!

take the job and try it.

How many hours a week do you think you would need to work?

it sounds too good an opportunity not to try and if doesn’t work out you resign

The more time pressures there are, the more it forces us to do things more efficiently, so don’t see it as you can’t fit in because of how you manage your day now but more of how can you find more efficient ways of doing what you do now?

Take it. You will adapt and remember your child is getting older too. Can husband help more around house. It's not just the salary and conditions which are great, but you will be taking care of yourself with regards to pension and career progression as well.

Absolutely I'd take it.
As much as I didn't mind faffing around at home, I also knew that I didn't want my dds 'normal' to be a home where the mum just cooks and cleans and takes on all the menial tasks. I did not want to be that role model.
It's also super important to have something outside of the children and a job is a perfectly valid something. When I didn't have the time to get everything around the house done, I wasn't expected to. Everyone pitched in
Look at all the women on here who end up in shit situations because the breakup they never expected happened and they have nothing. No current skills, no motivation to make changes because they don't know how to pivot,

It's a great opportunity OP, hope it works out well whichever choice you make :)

Op its a no brainer you need to give it a go. Although I'd be tempted to ask about doing 4 days rather than 5.

The extra tax and childcare costs for 5 days probably isn't worth the stress.

You've had 3 years off work, leave it much longer and it will be very difficult to get back into work at that sort of level.

I'm a sahm and I wouldn't. I've had a lovely summer with my dcs and I enjoy spending school holidays with them, and even though the eldest does activity camps they've often been short days and a bit of a distance away, which would be hard to fit in with working hours. I'd find it annoying to have to be one of the parents who misses primary school events too, and to not be able to ferry my dcs to after school clubs they want to do. Obviously people do make it work, but there are always compromises and I don't really need the money so I prefer more flexibility over my time.

Is your 3 year old already in nursery daily? If so YABU for thinking you need 7 hours/days to cook and clean.

If your three year old is not in nursery full time YANBU for turning down a full time position at this stage. Three is very young and choosing to prioritise spending this time with them is a valid choice.

Get a cleaner and enjoy a spotless house for a couple of days. Then a bearable house for the rest of the week. You do need to be quite disciplined to factor in the dinner before the kids get home. It can get hardcore tbh. I was in a hybrid role where I also went in 2-4 a month. It was quite a challenging role and I ended up having to catch on work after kids went to bed but had loads of flexibility around pick up and drop off. I am now in a role that’s fully remote with occasional travel to the office. It’s much more about doing your hours and showing you can put more in which means flexibility isn’t quite there. However it’s less taxing so overall I am less exhausted. My top tip is get a cleaner, rope DH in and pay for as much conveniences as you can afford because it is hard with young kids.

If you can afford not to work then with some of your wage you can cleaner, nanny, food prep surely. 70k a year

With 70k you can comfortably afford a cleaner and you just batch cook.

Honestly this is a dream gig / amazing deal ... almost zero commute stress and you can do a bit of washing in your lunch hour

Unless you dont plan to ever work again I would take it.

Trying to get back into industries after 5/10/15 years out is hard/ impossible.

You need to speed up and get organised. Did it take you that long to clean and prep before you had a child?

She sounds bone idle but a 70k job just lands on her lap after 3 years off work. Not sure if she can take it because she cant cope with a toddler (whos in FT nursery), working from home and doing house work. Good Lord 😳 Most mums work full time and still manage to get everything else done

I think the OP has been too busy cooking and cleaning to come back.

She will enjoy nursery.
Best of luck.

Is this a wind up? 😳

Honestly OP you will all learn to adapt and 4pm is still a good time to pick her up. Still time for dinner, bath, play and bed. Just make sure the house has had a quick 1 2 with cleaning, wet clothes bags etc out the night more and you’ll be absolutely fine. I finish at 6 and when my DD was that age I would spend an hour once she went to bed doing stuff to be organised. Get showered and still in my bed relatively early xxx

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None of us were born yesterday- can you not see the humor? Talk about staring the obvious.

This. There cant be many £70k jobs out there that remote accessible to someone who hasn't been in workforce for a while ? If there are i want one as there is nothing like that where I am!!!

If you don’t take it you’re insane. Get a cleaner, batch cook, stock up on Cook M&S. It’s very hard to pick up a career after a long break. If you hate it that much you can resign.

A whopping £70k salary is "pocket money."

We have reached peak mumsnet.