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Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

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Amivei · 27/08/2025 11:00

I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

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Cyclistmumgrandma · 27/08/2025 11:17

I would also add that if you are working full time, running the house needs to become a team effort between you and husband not just your responsibility.

Hufflemuff · 27/08/2025 11:15

Also if you can afford to consider not taking a 70k job; you can afford a cleaner and some posh/healthy ready meals. So that will help you stay on top of life stuff.

Honestly maternity leave made me lazier and more lethargic than ever. I found i had more energy for home stuff when my brain was engaged in something challenging like work. Thats not a dig at any SAHM its just me personally.

Isitisit · 27/08/2025 11:14

This would be a no brainer for me. Look at what you can outsource with some of your salary eg cleaning, gardening, meal prep kits etc and you will be fine.

landlordhell · 27/08/2025 11:14

You don’t need to clean daily. Your DH can split it with you.

LadyDanburysHat · 27/08/2025 11:14

I don't mean to sound awful, but you only have one child. Maybe you need to lower your standards a little if you think you won't have time. You will be wfh most of the time, so no commute.

Laundry can be done at lunchtime. Put something in the slow cooker for dinner. It will be fine. Also your DH will need to so more too.

Cyclistmumgrandma · 27/08/2025 11:14

So if you are earning £70, you get a cleaner and do some batch cooking at the weekends.

LG93 · 27/08/2025 11:13

Yes. You will adapt, it sounds flexible and you can hire a cleaner if needed to outsource some of the work. If it doesn't work out you can always quit but it sounds like the holy grail of return to work jobs tbh so I would at least try!!

Hufflemuff · 27/08/2025 11:13

If you want to do it, go for it! If it doesn't work out then you can quit. Even if you stick it out for 3 months at a 70k salary it will be a nice chunk of money to walk away with.

landlordhell · 27/08/2025 11:13

I would seriously have a word with yourself at not being able to accomplish anything g for 6 hours at the moment. That’s a bit odd. The job sounds great. What do you do?

Icanttakethisanymore · 27/08/2025 11:12

Do you have a good idea of how challenging will the job be for you? How challenging is your DP's job?

Original poster
Amivei · 27/08/2025 11:11

@LadyDanburysHat thank you for replying to my post. I am worried I won’t have the time to do proper meals or keep on top of running the house. Part of me is desperate to take it and the other part of me thinks it’s a mistake. I only have until Friday to decide.

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LadyDanburysHat · 27/08/2025 11:02

This is a no brainer. You will adapt. It will be good for you.

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