Pissed off over photos

Wtf? Is this for real?

Christ, you sound hard work. What a drama over nothing.

OP you sound exhausted and fed up. YANBU at all when you’ve put all this effort in and nobody even took a decent photo of you and DD. I’m guessing your feelings last night may be about a wider lack of appreciation, hope you had a good sleep and are feeling happier this morning. Even though it’s not quite the same, make sure somebody gets a good photo of you together today or tomorrow as in a few years the exact day won’t seem so important.

Instagram has a lot to answer for!

I hear you OP and I think it’s reasonable that you felt upset, although hopefully you feel a bit better today.

Motherhood is generally a thankless task where you are expected to put in all the effort all the time and then just be grateful for the chocolate you receive on Mothers Day.

It is shit that no one made the effort to get a nice photo of you with your child, especially when it clearly matters to you as you took pictures of them.

Now that you are aware this is going to happen, don’t wait for people to consider it anymore. Thrust your phone into their hands and tell/ask them to take a picture of you and dd. They won’t say no.

Total drama lama. Enjoy the experience and not the fucking photos.

This is why I learnt to take selfies - and do all the time, of me and my kids and of just me! Wherever we go!! Then I always have pics of me and them, that are nice (and Im in control of!!!). Before I started doing this I literally had about two pics of me and the kids, now I have hundreds!!!! Tomorrow, go to the garden or the park with your hair how you like it and your dd dressed in what you want and get selfie-ing!!! Xx

Not forgetting, it's supposed to be their event for their birthday, not the mother's Hello spread. 🤣

Arh, another Mumzilla that can't just enjoy an occasion with their child and isn't happy unless it's insta worthy.

Hire a professional photographer next time, that's why they exist. Or better still, get a grip!

Do you have a partner? Because I’d say it’s only their responsibility really. It’s your choice to take photos of the guests but not really their responsibility as a guest. Although if a friend asked me I would make sure they saw it and liked it!! Didn’t you check it at the time and ask them to do it again?

If youre this upset about photos, its not the photos.

Next time ask one relative, and get them to take a few.

In the meantime why not treat yourself to a professional one. You can even get some in the home if that will work

all those who think that the baby should have been made to sit and pose for photos to keep mum happy are you forgetting what a one year old is like? They aren’t dolls designed to sit and pose!

You expect to have them climbing over you on a picture or snatching your glasses off your face. It’s not fair on the child to ask them to sit still just for picture.

Had four kids and not once did I take the hump about others and photos! I took my own if and when I wanted.
Am sorry to say this but you sound so unbelievably immature and extremely spiteful.

This is so true. I wish I had more of my late mum and Dad.
I used to avoid cameras at all costs until my fil said this to me. So glad I listened.

Quite right too!
OP wasn't looking for perfection. Just for the person taking the photo to wait til the baby was settled, everyone was looking at the camera and didn't have their eyes closed etc. If that makes her spoilt then it would make the others spoilt too when they complain they don't have any decent photos with their grandchild.

If they want flattering pics where they don't have a mouthful of food, eyes that are open and looking at the camera then they can hire a professional photographer like a charming previous poster said. What's good for the goose is good for the gander!

Your DD should have been having fun playing, not being made to take photos. This is what social media has done to people. Having the best photo at an event is more important than the actual event. It's really sad.

We took lots of great photos at my DDs first party. However, the one that made it into the album is of me eating cake and DD screaming next to me. It was taken the exact moment she started crying and i was shoving food in my face. Looks like shes crying because im eating her cake 🙈
DD is 9 now and we still laugh about it every time she goes through the album.

What im trying to say is, sometimes the nice photos arent the best ones.
Try to take a nice one on a day where theres less going on and your child is less riled up. It will be so mich easier.

I don’t think OP has asked to look poised and filtered. Just both she and baby looking the same way. And she’s hosted her baby’s birthday, carefully checked she has photos of everyone that will be frame-able, and the people who’ve done shots of her haven’t bothered.

You are being disingenuous if you think every shot is equal- it takes effort and several attempts to get a good picture.

Have you never been disappointed when a stranger offers to take a group shot and when you see it it’s useless?

@ChubbyBoobs456 don’t give up. Give it some time and work out who in your group has a decent eye and ask them to make a point of it for you. You’re right, they will be lovely memories in future. Gifts to display and so on.

Also, some of the ones of you- you may be able to use AI to fix the issues with them. Certainly AI can remove the ‘arm growing out of your head’ situation very easily. It won’t fix your family having been thoughtless though.

I’m totally with you on this and felt the same on my kids 1st bdays. I got dressed up and felt so proud. My husband never takes my pic, ever. My dad does which is cute but I get the importance of what you wanted. 1st bday (and every bday actually) is a celebration of what you did/do too I think. Be more vocal next time, you deserve it

You can’t blame the people taking a photo if your child was fidgeting, crying, not looking. That’s life.

The important thing is that your child enjoyed their party. Not that you kept them posing like they were on a photoshoot the whole time so you could get the perfect shot.

Grow up OP

Agree. It smacks of well I knew to do this, it’s what I do so it must be right so why is every one not like me.

Yep it all sounds a bit martyr ish. Is it about photos op or do you feel unappreciated/ invisible? Or are you the photo taker, just asking as you seemed to be punishing people by not sending photos you took out to them so do people expect it? You didn’t have to send any out.

Surely if you wanted a photo of you with your dd you would have asked someone to take one. Why on earth would you think the guests would know what you wanted. If I wanted a particular photo of me I would ask a few people to take one

Gentle warning op, if you are hoping for years ahead of lovely photos where you look your best and your kids look adorable, or even clean, and everyone's smiling.... you might be disappointed.

In pretty much every photo with my kids I look mumsy and not my best, you are trying to get kids to stand still/stop mucking about etc, you rarely get that moment to smooth your own hair or get comfortable posing etc. Often the timing is off and the photo is taken right as you are looking pissed off that DC1 is poking DC2 etc.

Work on getting happy with how you look when things aren't perfect. A bunch of photos i hadn't backed up got lost when a phone broke & would kill to get them back, warts and all.