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Wedding with a dress code

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Helpmeup · 26/08/2025 19:57

A few months ago we received an invitation to my husbands friends wedding. Along with the invitation was a dress code which said “dress to impress and please wear pastel colours only” I don’t have any pastel coloured dresses but I thought well it’s a few months away so I have time to find something.

However, husband checked with her and the men also have to wear pastel. Now that the wedding is 2 weeks away I actually feel a bit annoyed that we are having to buy something brand new to go to a wedding when we both have perfectly fine dresses and suits to wear already. DH probably isn’t ever going to wear pastel clothing again so it seems like a waste of money. We asked if he could maybe just wear a pastel tie instead but she insists everyone has to be in theme with the pastels.

The venue is over an hour away and the taxi is costing us £40 each way. We will be spending money there on drinks etc so I just feel like it’s going to cost us so much money to attend someone’s wedding 😩 I told myself I would put some money aside to be able to afford the new clothes but it hasn’t worked out as we have had too many other things to pay for lately so this just seems like an unnecessary purchase when we already have perfectly reasonable clothes to wear to the wedding! Is this a thing now? AIBU to feel this way?

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 26/08/2025 20:06

Beige chinos and a pale blue/pink/green shirt for him? Bollocks to buying a whole new suit.

Bitzee · 26/08/2025 20:04

That’s ridiculous. I bet most of the men won’t have clarified and will turn up in a standard navy suit and a pastel tie because suits cost £100s and pastel as you say will never be worn again. And now you’ve asked you can’t do that without incurring the wrath of the bridezilla. Declining is your best bet now.

Itstheshowgirl · 26/08/2025 20:04

you will be asked to pose for some weird guest picture too probably OP so that they can show their colour coordination off on Instagram.

I would avoid like the plague.

DeathStare · 26/08/2025 20:03

Vinted? Then put it back on Vinted after the wedding.

AgentPidge · 26/08/2025 20:01

Could you both hire something to wear instead of buying? Or borrow from a friend? Do men have to wear a suit - what about beige or pale grey chinos?

ShesTheAlbatross · 26/08/2025 20:00

I probably wouldn’t go. You’re guests, not props for their pictures.

ButSheSaid · 26/08/2025 19:59

Happily decline, spend the £100s on something enjoyable.