Wedding with a dress code

Your. DH could wear a white/cream DJ (though he could be mistaken for a sommelier and have people asking him about wine all day). However this wedding sounds more hasssle than it’s worth…..l

I would just wear a cheap pastel scarf (tie for DP) or something and just pretend we'd misunderstood the request. I guarantee that there will be people there, probably mostly men, who will not be dressed head to foot in pastel.

I went to a birthday party recently where we were requested to wear a particular colour. I went to Primark and bought a £3 t-shirt to wear with my normal jeans. Some people literally just wore earrings or painted their nails that colour. I was glad I hadn't invested in a new outfit.

Wear Black!

Long live the days before social media!

Hear hear.

In my case, wearing pastel colours would make it look like I hadn't made an effort. In DH's case he would just wear what he had. He has no truck with ridiculous dress demands for events.

I love the onesie idea.
I wonder if the groom to be is happy with the dress code.
FWIW - 25 years ago, pre-social media - we had no dress code. I didn’t wear white. The groom and best man chose to wear ties the colour of my dress.

We got married in the Peak District and one of my most longstanding friends walked there over the hills, in his habitual walking gear. I’ve not seen him in anything else before or since. Another - very skint early career academic - just came in chinos and a jumper. I was delighted to see them both and loved the opportunity to spend a bit of time with them . My sister, who wore a long white dress, then had a massive row with her husband in the middle of the reception - not so much!

DBro wore a Simpson’s tie.
Long live the days before social media!

Does he not have a pink or pale blue shirt? Would you not wear something light coloured to a wedding anyway? Just turn up in what you have and have a nice time. I wouldn't have bothered clarifying the dress code at all.

It's really not normal.

Anyway, it's her husband's friend who is getting married, so she can delegate that conversation to him.

You will come across as being the ones very much in the wrong if you try to ignore the clear instructions they gave you.

No normal person gives "Clear Instructions" about what to wear at a wedding.

For me "dress to impress" and pastel colours don't belong in the same sentence. They just make me look washed out and like I haven't made an effort.

I think I'd be inclined to tell the bridezilla that I can't afford a new outfit and would offer to decline the invitation if it was going to spoil the bridezilla's aesthetic. I'd be happy to not be in the photos anyway.

I would have wished I hadn’t asked and husband would have gone in a regular suit with a pastel tie! I wouldn’t even buy him pastel chinos, shirt and tie - still costs far too much just to be a guest at a wedding! Ridiculous. Are photos really more important than the family and friends who choose whether to attend?!

The bride is a bridezilla on glue.
If she wants everyone to dress in pastels then she can pay for it!
However if you do have smart things in pastel colours then wear them even if it's just a tie or shirt/top.

If the bride & groom complain then they have no class.

On the other hand rescind your invite & tell the bride & groom why.

What is about weddings that turn the bride & groom into fuckwits?

Declining an invitation two weeks before a wedding, having previously accepted it, is not consequence free either though.

The couple will be pissed off either way so I'd talk to them first and ask them what kind of pissed off they'd prefer to be.

They can try and dictate these things but they can't actually force anyone to comply.

It's time people stopped pandering to this sort of nonsense.

Your husband could just wear his palest suit with a mauve or pink shirt and light tie.
You could visit Op shops and vinted sites and also send SOS to friends who are about your size.

You could also just buy a large pastel shawl and wear it with whatever looks good with it in your wardrobe (except black and white).

The bride can insist all she likes, but if she's not paying for their outfits she doesn't get to dictate what they wear.

As a courtesy I'd let her choose whether she'd rather they came wearing non pastel clothes or whether she'd prefer them not to come at all.

My prediction is that they'll get more than a few last minute drop outs and of those who do come there will still be people not wearing pastel clothes, so they'll have pissed their friends and family off for no reason at all.

Your husband goes back to his friend and says, "We don't have any pastel clothes unfortunately. Do you want us to come wearing what we have or not come?"

It's a fun challenge wear a peach something or other and you might even enjoy it. Then you escape. No harm done.

Lol i’m not the one who wrote 2 essays about offending the bride.