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Original poster

To wish I could post on MN without people disbelieving me?

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SunOverTheCowShed · 26/08/2025 18:32

Does anybody else feel the same?

I have had two threads on Mumsnet recently. I am in a terrible situation, truly terrible. Both times I have had a few good replies then a nasty, cynical one then a total pile on of people not believing me.

I wish there was a Mumsnet verifier who you could send evidence to, like letters from the Council, etc to prove you are telling the truth. They could be volunteers?

In the worst times of my life, like now, I have had Mumsnet to turn to. But now I find myself met with nastiness and people picking holes in my story, just for the fun of it.

OP posts:
CreepyCoupe · 26/08/2025 18:43

I think because so many threads on here now are works of fiction, the legitimate ones can be viewed with suspicion too.

beefthief · 26/08/2025 18:43

Does this actually happen, though?

savoycabbage · 26/08/2025 18:43

I think part of it is that the site has grown so much and also I think people are less tolerant in real life. Mind you, when I needed MN fifteen years ago I was absolutely destroyed by awful people.

Original poster
SunOverTheCowShed · 26/08/2025 18:41

But once people start doubting your story, other people stop offering advice.

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Geranium879 · 26/08/2025 18:41

There are some right pricks on here. Some people literally just join threads to pick holes and be nasty. You just have to completely block it out / skim past those ones.

Arlanymor · 26/08/2025 18:40

I don’t think anyone would volunteer to read your personal information, even with your consent. It’s a very slippery slope in terms of GDPR at the very least. I think if people don’t believe you then there’s nothing you can do about it except to ignore them. You could continue talking to those on the thread who believe you, but don’t waste any time fretting over why you are not believed - it’s not like you know any of them in real life, which would be a different matter.

CeciliaDuckiePond · 26/08/2025 18:38

I have seen MNHQ come onto threads with a high degree of troll-hunting to a. delete the troll hunting posts and b. vouch for the OP so far as is within their power (i.e. they can never be totally sure and will give that caveat but will say there is nothing to suggest OP is not genuine) so my advice would be to report those posts and ask MNHQ to intervene. People should report your posts if they doubt you, not troll hunt on the thread as this is against talk guidelines; in my experience that is a guideline MNHQ enforce.

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