Page 18 | Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

pinknailvarnish1 · 2025-08-26T16:12:38+00:00

I have a few. Can't say them out loud (except to DH). MIL & FIL - multi millionaires. Spend loads of money on themselves, lavish holidays, sports cars, only the *very* best restaurants etc. Never ever do they give a penny to their adult children (and one is flat broke). This is despite them both having been given property and a thriving business by a parent themselves. My Dad - Overbearing, alcoholic, violent outbursts etc, all through our childhood. He's now decrepit and I have to do so much for him. I resent it. Brother - keeps saying he's broke, whilst living like a rockstar. Just spend £20k on a holiday, lives in a £600k house, drives top of the range car, but often claims poverty - stop lying! And breathe...... Anyone else?

SchrodingersParrot · 26/08/2025 20:00

Celebrity "authors" whose books are actually ghostwritten. Why should they take the credit for someone else's hard work?

Vegalyra · 26/08/2025 20:00

Mumofsoontobe3 · 26/08/2025 18:01

Mine is my DH. Claims he's cleaned the kitchen 'for you' .. I emptied the bin 'for you' .. I bathed the kids 'for you' .. ITS OUR HOUSE. ITS OUR CHILDREN. It's not for me!!!! Granted he does his fair share, works full time, he's a good hands on dad and partner but the 'for you' drives me absolutely insane.

My DH used to do this a lot in the first couple of years after our eldest was born. For every little bit of basic parenting he had to be praised like he was doing me a favour and deserved a medal. Used to drive me crazy. Luckily it’s stopped now. I think my repeated eye-rolling did the trick.

Momstermash94 · 26/08/2025 20:00

Sogfree · 26/08/2025 19:24

You've said it far more eloquently than I could.

The parent whose 9 year old child we toilet trained at school deserves my highest wrath, as she refused to support us at home and insisted we went back to nappies in school because of "his anxiety". Aka her benefits claim.

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My SIL is like this, her 5 yo DD is autistic and in nappies but won't even consider toilet training her because "it would be too overwhelming for her, she would never be able to do it, she'll be in nappies for life" but refuses to even try. Puts her in her room all day from morning until night locked behind a baby gate with a tablet and makes no effort to interact with her other than to fulfil her basic physical needs and then goes on about how her child's speech is terrible and she has social anxiety. If someone talks about another ND child her mother gets annoyed and offended and instantly says "well they aren't as bad as my DD, my DC is much worse".

This child was developing considerably better before she was able to claim benefits for her, now she only seems to regress and I dont believe its a natural regression at all. Rather than work with her they try keep her behind and worse off than she could be

itsgettingweird · 26/08/2025 19:58

Doingtheboxerbeat · 26/08/2025 17:27

My chicken Kiev leaked all the buttery juice all over the foil and I'm absolutely distraught 😳.

Yep - I’d want a tantrum over that one but clearly can’t because it’s not really as big a deal as it feels 😂

except it really is!

KindnessIsKey123 · 26/08/2025 19:58

All of these flipping podcasts telling you how to run your life!!!

unless you are an actual world renowned specialist- just shush.

What to eat, what not to eat, how to live, what to do in your marriage, what to do in your job, what to do with your kids…. There’s TOO MANY and it’s too conflicting.

exhausting.

Alasar · 26/08/2025 19:58

bumchic · 26/08/2025 17:29

DH falls asleep literally the minute he lies down and it’s infuriating. How can he just switch off like that?

Also I have irrational ugly jealousy of people who have grandparent childcare available to them. My DC have no GPs who can look after them and I am sad about it every time I see families who have.

Same to grandparents one. I feel rage by how lucky my brother has it with my mum to help out. We live too far away. By choice. But I still have the rage.

My daughter asks me about 200 times a day "where are you?". I'm in the next room. I haven't fucking ran away.

My husband makes this noise with his lips sometimes. I cant even describe it. Ugh.

ilovepixie · 26/08/2025 19:57

Those food influencer on Thick Tok and the like eating with their mouth open so you see everything, they can’t use cutlery properly and everything is so lovely according to them. They are obviously paid to say it’s nice and they get the food for free also.

JaneyDC · 26/08/2025 19:57

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/08/2025 17:19

Mine is petty compared to yours but

My dd(6) with autism does many things to drive me up the wall, as all kids do!

But the one thing is that she messes up the duvet on my bed

So I will put the duvet on top of us, as we're getting ready to go to bed, or having a late night snack as we have done during this summer. Its neat and covers both of us and is in the right place on the bed

She will decide to hide under it at an odd angle

Or she will roll herself in it, so its not in its right place

Or just pull it half off the bed

So when I get into bed, the duvet is the wrong way round, its half off the bed, its not in its place. It just really pisses me off 😭😭😭

But I cant say anything, just silently curse in my head and then let it go

I feel your pain.

My DS (also 6!) messes up my duvet most days. I'll literally make the bed and go and get something. By the time I'm back, he's been in it, scrunched it up and taken himself off to do something else. I've moaned at him SO many about this and when I stopped and actually heard myself, I couldn't believe how petty I was being! It still gives me the rage though and I still tell him off!

I also get annoyed with my DH's sister and her family. Her and her husband are always off out with friends or having dates and always asking my PIL's to babysit. I feel like they have a monopoly on the grandparents. We rarely ask, but when we do, his parents are most often already booked in by them! It's ridiculous! Can't ask my folks as they're not close. We don't kick up a fuss as it's not our right for free childcare obvs.

Crikeyalmighty · 26/08/2025 19:57

@Sogfree I’m afraid there are some real scroats out there who actually know how to play the system to the max and use their kids as an ATM when it comes to benefits - and make it that good parents with real insurmountable issues have to jump through hoops

LBFseBrom · 26/08/2025 19:56

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/08/2025 19:54

Seeing incorrect plurals everywhere, inc. on MN - family’s, baby’s, party’s, box’s, bus’s, Christmas’s.

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Yes, it's awful. Greengrocers' apostrophes.

ladyamy · 26/08/2025 19:54

cheesecurdsandgravy · 26/08/2025 17:26

I work with children and young people with disabilities.

There is nothing that I find more infuriating than parents who are exaggerating their children’s needs because they want more benefit money/respite care/to excuse their own crap parenting.

I regularly fantasise about telling them they’re talking shit and that everyone knows it. But, instead, I am limited to writing careful worded reports which are simply added to everyone else’s carefully written reports because there is absolutely no way that we have the time/energy to divert to fight their bullshit.

As an SEN teacher I see this, too. Frustrates, worries and angers me.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/08/2025 19:54

IDespairOfTheHumanRace · 26/08/2025 18:25

Poorly spoken and articulated English - speech peppered with dropped aitches, glottal stops, double negatives and every sentence full of 'fillers' - "to be fair", "see what I mean"? and "like" amongst others.

Overuse of superlatives, particularly "super".

Sadly, it appears to be endemic now and, for me, at least, it is synonymous with fingernails being drawn down a blackboard and leaves me wanting to rip my ears off!

Seeing incorrect plurals everywhere, inc. on MN - family’s, baby’s, party’s, box’s, bus’s, Christmas’s.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 26/08/2025 19:54

MrsBinks · 26/08/2025 19:52

I had a wonderful Pattie boy, lost him last year at the age of 16. He was an absolute ball of limitless energy and mischief (in other words an extremely lovable little SHIT) and I always remember when he was being desexed at the age of 15 months, asking the vet if it would calm him down any. He looked at the dog, looked at me and said flatly "he's a Patterdale. No."

He did eventually calm down when he was 12 or so...

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She's nearly eleven. I look forward to the calming down stage arriving...

Assssofspades · 26/08/2025 19:54

Sidebeforeself · 26/08/2025 17:19

None of my friends can make a decision! No one will say where they want to go, what they want to eat/ drink etc . “ I don’t mind” “ You choose” etc

My friends are the same, when I offer options 'I don't mind, whatever', but then when I choose, 'oh, hmmm, maybe not there though'. 😑

Maybe they don't want to meet up 😂

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/08/2025 19:54

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/08/2025 17:19

Mine is petty compared to yours but

My dd(6) with autism does many things to drive me up the wall, as all kids do!

But the one thing is that she messes up the duvet on my bed

So I will put the duvet on top of us, as we're getting ready to go to bed, or having a late night snack as we have done during this summer. Its neat and covers both of us and is in the right place on the bed

She will decide to hide under it at an odd angle

Or she will roll herself in it, so its not in its right place

Or just pull it half off the bed

So when I get into bed, the duvet is the wrong way round, its half off the bed, its not in its place. It just really pisses me off 😭😭😭

But I cant say anything, just silently curse in my head and then let it go

Why do you sleep in the same bed?

Shayisgreat · 26/08/2025 19:54

My colleague being incompetent and so creating more work for others to pick up.

Dangerous in my line of work and, apparently, not noticed until I've started making noise about it.

Tiredtom · 26/08/2025 19:53

A parent that can choose to be stay at home parents because they don’t necessary need the income. Gosh I’d so love to have that be a choice in my life but unfortunately we need two incomes in this house just to pay the bills.

MrsBinks · 26/08/2025 19:52

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 26/08/2025 18:41

Oh, and this is strangely specific but -

everyone who admires my dog and then says 'I had a Jack Russell once' (or their mother did, or their friend, or there was one down the road...)

She's a fucking Patterdale. They aren't like Jack Russells - they are WORSE! A MILLION TIMES WORSE!

Phew. And also she's a bitch, not a 'lovely boy'. Thank you.

I had a wonderful Pattie boy, lost him last year at the age of 16. He was an absolute ball of limitless energy and mischief (in other words an extremely lovable little SHIT) and I always remember when he was being desexed at the age of 15 months, asking the vet if it would calm him down any. He looked at the dog, looked at me and said flatly "he's a Patterdale. No."

He did eventually calm down when he was 12 or so...

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FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 26/08/2025 19:52

@RJ2023
Oh God, I feel your pain.
I worked in a multi-national team and was frequently asked to proofread texts.
At one point, I half-jokingly said, if I see the word synergy or synergies one more time, I'm going to stop reading and correcting. The End.

stayathomer · 26/08/2025 19:51

Sidebeforeself
Ooh another one! Don’t know how to describe this , but people who always offer an explanation - no matter how outlandish - for something that you are moaning about. For example, if I moan that someone has parked across two spaces, instead of saying “Yeah, what an inconsiderate git”, they say something like “ Maybe they had a medical emergency and had to pull up quickly” etc etc. My BF does this all the time and it makes me want to scream!

I do this generally because the thing the other person is giving out about I have done in an emergency, when I didn’t realise it etc and then you hear someone say ‘die all people who do this, selfish assholes’ so you feel the need to let them know

ragdollyanna1974 · 26/08/2025 19:48

Sidebeforeself · 26/08/2025 17:19

None of my friends can make a decision! No one will say where they want to go, what they want to eat/ drink etc . “ I don’t mind” “ You choose” etc

I feel your pain. Why is it always me who makes the decisions? In every aspect of my bloody life!

LBFseBrom · 26/08/2025 19:47

Laughing/cackling about nothing, eg after every sentence.

Loud uncovered yawning.

Poor grammar and I don't mean the odd typo.

Nosiness.

We were/are pregnant (even worse, 'when we was pregnant').

Constantly referring to a baby as 'Baby'.

Holiday cards.

Stupid Mumsnet abbreviations.

Xenophobia.

RickertyRocker · 26/08/2025 19:47

OhHellolittleone · 26/08/2025 19:28

A friend likes to walk to do pickup together. My house is on her way so she says she’ll pick me up, fine. But evvverrry time she’s late which then messes with my timings for my younger child. I’ve tried leaving without her and texting but she’ll say ‘stop at the corner I’ll only be a second!’ Or she’ll not reply so I feel rude. I also hate walking back with her as her child is soooo slow, which makes my child slow and it infuriates me. But she’s nice and it’s not a reason to not be friend. Husband said to just tell her we can’t walk together, but he doesn’t realise she’d be upset and it would affect our friendship! But omg it’s annoying.

Your friend isn't worried about inconveniencing and upsetting you.

I wouldn't risk being late to wait for them. I probably would put up with a slow walk back if 9 didn't have anything on.

It's just a conversation. If they really would hold a grudge because your timetables don't align, you are better off.

I would say, "Hey, when schools starts, I will be leaving at X time. If I don't see you by then, I will see you at school." Then "that's not going to work for me". And stick to your guns.

I have a close friend that was late for everything. We used to meet up at soft play and the cinema with the DC when they were small. I told them twice that it bothered me that we were all kept waiting. The third time, I said I would be starting on time and would see them there. They were late, we left when we said we were going to. I only ever arrange to be places that it doesn't matter if they are late. I don't alter my plans to fit in with their rudeness.

MrsVinceVega · 26/08/2025 19:46

Myfridgeiscool · 26/08/2025 19:44

Put it in the oven on some bread, you get garlic bread 😀

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Genius

AmusedCat · 26/08/2025 19:46

Heavily filtered "glamour" shots constantly posted on social media, mainly FB, followed by numerous comments of , lush hun, stunning, " gawjus" etc.

It's not real!!