Things that PISS you off, but you can't really say so.

Fooofooop: My friend's behaviour when she is drunk and the things she says to strangers about me, and in front of me, when we are out.

Don't go out with her any more if she doesn't know how to behave. Do tell he when she is out of order, she may not realise how bad she is.

My DH behaviour when drunk, not all the time but sometimes.

Warn him not to get drunk and go somewhere else if he is. I presume he is a grown man.

Why surround yourself with people who allow themselves to be out of control? There are many who do not need alcohol to have a good time.

People in shops/supermarkets

You can't choose with whom you rub shoulders in shops but you can just go in, do your shopping and leave without getting involved with anyone. Most people manage that. They can't all be bad, surely?

Other than that shop online and have deliveries, I do and it makes life much easier. However I don't encounter trouble when I do venture into a shop and hardly notice anyone else, you must be unlucky.

My friend's behaviour when she is drunk and the things she says to strangers about me, and in front of me, when we are out.
My mum - who I love dearly - her expectations of me
My DH behaviour when drunk, not all the time but sometimes
People in shops/supermarkets

I would be absolutely furious inside at the breakfast eating!

I can’t bear this either. Or people who noisily slurp soup etc

People who say they are giving to charity instead of sending Xmas cards - cba as virtual signalling.

DH eating his breakfast really loudly in our bedroom, including scrapping bowl with his spoon and spoon clinking against his teeth.

Blatant favouritism/double standards by manager at work. Some people can do no wrong, others can do no right.

Friends who regularly cancel at the last minute.

I too was a flower girl 36 years ago so it's def not a new thing!!

My partners parents when we visit them. Somehow I get stuck with them repeatedly telling the same stories they told me last time we saw them. My partner has a very good knack for disappearing and not get sucked into an eye contact boring conversation with them.
fuck off with your boring same stories - they also never ask me anything about me or my life, pretty similar to their son.
just fuck off all of you

I lived in the Sydney suburbs for 7 years and whilst they also said Maccas they absolutely said Micky Ds and Mick Donald's all the time . My Australian husband and his friends and family certainly did and none of them had been to the States. Weird that you8trying to correct my experience 😅

A good parent would want the truth, it creates a starting point for their child's improvement. Years ago I was working in a High School, all the parents had a time slot for each subject but one father rang to say he was held up on the motorway and would be late but he would like to see as many teachers as possible. He arrived quite late, some teachers had finished and left but the main subject teachers were still around, he came to me last, looking despondent when he sat down, 'Give it to me straight!' and I told there was nothing wrong with his son that a good kick up the backside wouldn't cure, he beamed and said that's the most honest thing I've heard. His son improved immensely and got good exam results a couple of years later.

Micky D is more commonly used in the USA or by some people who've been there. Aussies, in the main, use "Maccas"

Absolutely agree. It's often a topic in my house as my MIL is one of those

Good for you.

Remembered one today. Our M&S has a coffee machine and always busy. There is an area to the left for sugar etc. People however lean over and add sugar, stir, put lid on right in front of the machine. Guy today was on a go slow despite 3 people waiting. Another day someone pressed the brew and wanders over to the pastry aisle. Was tempted to removed the cup once it was dispensed.
Get your coffee and move on!!

This just is just not true. I was a flower girl 42 years ago and many of my friends have been flower girls.🤷‍♀️

My mum's newish partner telling me how she likes her tea.

He's such a sweet and gentle man and I know he just wants to take care of her, but she's my mum. I've known her my entire life whereas you have been around for a year. I don't you telling me how much milk she likes

All year round?

If I can cope with having to close my house windows because of the noise and funes, they can cope by opening theirs.

Not where I lived it was Micky Ds!!!!

Why can't you just be honest with your mum and tell her?

Air conditioning.

That's why.

This. But the truth will be in there. ‘Sometimes X can forget his manners’ ‘X is often focussed but could improve in this area’ etc

It's Maccas in Australia.

Thankfully, the vast majority of parents/cadets are honest about their experiences.

I can only write what we see in school as evidence. I can (and do) make references to “X reports that child C does blah at home” and, if there is evidence to support this (injuries to the child/other family members or sometimes photos/videos/reports from other children are provided) then I include this. If there isn’t (and, in the families that make shit up, there never is) I say “we have seen no evidence to support this but can provide no reason to doubt XYZ”. If I do doubt it, I call other professionals involved and check their experiences. Often, the same report (with no corroboration) is given to medical professionals/social workers/educational professionals and we are all sceptical.

We know it’s bullshit, but we can’t prove it’s bullshit and, since (for good reason due to lived experience of not being listened to by some families) the parent/carers word is held highest.

The ones that aren’t are so wrapped up in their lies (for whatever reason) that they can’t even see their own bullshit and how ridiculous they sound. Until you call them out… and then it’s months, and months of investigation etc. which gets nowhere as the parent/carer is obstructive and starts to manufacture evidence - at which point, professionals become concerned about manufactured harm and back off anyway. It’s a shit system.

Not the OP you're responding to, but teachers absolutely cannot right 'the truth' in their reports. They are heavily overseen and read by SLT before they go out, it's made very clear that they have to be 'positive' with 'targets for improvement'.

This is why, as a cashier, I usually pack people's bags for them. I HATE to see the way people chuck stuff in, with crisps at the bottom and potatoes on top! Obviously if they want to pack their own bags then they do, but usually they are happy to stand back and let me do it for them - I'm faster, more logical, and I can get more into a bag than some people (men) who put two bags of sugar in and then try to fit a pizza in on top (rookie mistake, pizza always goes in first, sideways).