Those of you with naturally curly frizzy hair

I'm trying to embrace my wavy hair but it's an uphill battle and yes, the clumps look good day 1 but not much after that!
I am attempting to start again with Charlotte Rich Wavy Girl method (have a look at the FB group - I recommend looking at the pinned posts and about the second one has an easy breakdown "for the neurodiverse" but TBH I think the confusing writing style of a few of the other posters suggests they may have writing difficulties) and realised I need to do a full detox/remove product wash because I haven't done one for ages.
I raided Poundland and Superdrug for various products to try at the weekend.
I only wish there were good sold shampoos for wavy hair but they tend to be too soapy.

The company 'Soaps for little Suds' is a very good small business run by a woman that knows alot about curly hair and different curl types and has some amazing products at affordable price points. There's some really positive feedback from her customers and I personally use her shea butter rich 'bar in a bottle' conditioner which is brilliant for my wayward, frizzy hair.

News to me! (54 with curly hair that I’ve never brushed when wet, or dry for that matter.)

wash and condition your hair
comb it with conditioner on
rinse
comb though two or three times with a wide toothed comb while you're still in the shower (I like to rinse and comb upside down)
squeeze out excess moisture gently with your hands only (or leave soaking wet as PP says)
put some kind of leave in conditioner and then curl cream by scrunching it in
put gel over the top
squeeze out excess moisture with a microfibre towel if needed and diffuse if you wish
was every other day - for me it doesn't look good after two days
use a silk or satin bonnet or pillow case

Brushing hair when wet and conditioned is essential to curly hair.

Sometimes I am so tempted to do this.

Currently sitting in the office, freezing under the air-con my hair still wet after a wash at 7am

I went for a number 2 all over 5 years ago and have never been happier. No more looking like I have an old lady perm 😊 genuinely the happiest I have ever been with my hair

I have a brilliant curly hairdresser who revolutionised my life.
if you’re in the north I’ll give you her details

this is what I do now
wash once a week with Aldi conditioner in a blue bottle
apply hair food, scrunch into ends, comb through, leave on as long as possible before rinsing
squeeze water out, apply boots curl cream, wrap in a t shirt and leave for 20 mins
apply shockwaves mousse, scrunch into ends
add a little gel if needed, or oil

i do all this once a week. In between I have a spray bottle with water and conditioner in. I dampen the hair with it and more scrunching

It also really depends on your hair
mine loves shampoo, hates deep conditioner, I never use creams or leave ins or hair masks

What’s your current routine OP?

I shampoo twice to make sure it’s clean, completely cover in conditioner which I leave on for a good 10 minutes, make sure it’s rinsed really well, cover in leave in conditioner and leave to dry wrapped in a cotton t-shirt. I never heat style, use as few products as possible and don’t touch between washes.

I only brush my hair when I’m washing it in the shower. Any other time it turns into a birds nest. I also use Olaplex no. 3, a little dollop when wet to act as a leave in conditioner and the Olaplex oil no. 7 to keep the frizz at bay. It’s not a cheap solution but it’s the only solution I’ve found after years of frustration

Embrace the curls, I’m growing my hair at the moment and the longer it gets the tighter the curl. I wash mine and then I’m another cantu fan, leave in conditioner and curl cream. I twist the curls in when wet and then either leave to dry, (my car air blowers make a fantastic hair drier) or diffuse. Next day I used the cantu refresh and just retwist in some curls. Having it cut by a hairdresser who is good with curly hair makes a big difference.

Have you tried the curly girl method? Some of it I do. Some I don’t. Bit of trial and error. But it helps

Great suggestions in this thread but essentially you need a curly cut from a curl specialist who will advise you. And do not brush your hair.

Fucking hell, I hear you OP. I think the heat is making mine worse. I finally found a good curl routine (cantu curl creme, gel, bla bla bla) but it's so much work and I can't be arsed. I just want to wash it and that it looks somewhere near OK without faffing around.
Also considering chopping mine all off.

And never let a hairdryer near it!

A really good cut by someone who understands curly hair.

Don't wash it more than twice a week. Coconut oil on wet hair, hoping to achieve that fine balance between too much and too little.

Really good cut. L'Oreal Extraordinary oil and a Dyson hairdryer which has transformed my hair. I always used a Parlux but the Dyson cancels all the frizz,it's quite amazing.

Make sure you’re using a curly shampoo and conditioner. Have a brush in the shower and brush it through whilst the conditioner is in to untangle and separate the curls.

if you have really thick and unmanageable hair, use a curl cream once you’re out of the shower and then hair mousse and gel and then diffuse.

use a silk pillow case and wear your hair high on your head using a silk scrunchie.

If you need to refresh your curls again before a wash day spray them with water and use more curl cream if needed.

There’s plenty of curly haired girls on Instagram who do great videos about looking after your curls.

I use Olaplex #6 right out of the shower, comb it through, and then scrunch in gel. I let it air dry, and sleep with a bonnet. It gets very humid here, so there are days I can't combat the frizz, but this method mostly works for me.

Find your curl pattern and look for products that match it. Also find a good curl hairdresser

Good haircut by someone who understands curly hair. I use Cantu products, particularly their leave in conditioner/curl cream and the next day curl refresher. But if you get a good haircut, your curls will work much better!

Silk pillowcase helps too.

I use tons and tons of conditioner and when I have the energy I do lots of hair masks and oil. Make a big difference to the frizz.

Lots and lots and LOTS of product, applied to pretty wet hair.