DH getting in car with someone who had been drinking

Now you know your DH cares more about not losing face in front of his mates than anything else. Pray none of them try to persuade him to invest in bitcoin.
Also, I'm not sure life insurance would pay out if there had been an accident.

If your DH thinks his friend is ok to drive after 4 pints, then it’s likely your DH does similar after 2 or 3 or 4 pints himself.

You’re obviously going to reply saying there is no way your DH drinks and drives, but unless you reveal that he’s teetotal or can’t drive, then he probably does.

I would not allow him to take the children out in the car to any social situation where there is alcohol involved and you’re not there to make sure he is not drink driving his own children.

Hopefully the worst that will happen is that he and his mates drunkenly wrap their car around a tree and only kill themselves, and not anybody else.

Your H’s safety is one thing, but what about others on the roads and pedestrians? Your H was complicit in illegal, dangerous drink driving. Disgusting (from your H, goes without saying his friend’s actions were)

Does your H have life insurance? Make sure he gets some and soon.

If he’s going to make stupid and potentially life-threatening decisions then you want to ensure that you and your children are protected.

How is divorce actually going to help him be a better father to two young kids ?

Maybe reminding him of his responsibilities and explaining why what he did was thoughtless, dangerous and stupid might be a better idea.

Just talk calmly about how he should handle it next time auch a situation arises. It's not grounds for divorce but he should think about his family and what could happen.

I hope next time he would not just refuse to get in but also confiscate the keys. His friend is a danger to everyone out there on the roads. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who thinks driving after 4 pints is okay.

I would have found it socially awkward to say no to getting in the car and 'making a scene', but I would have done it.

Because I have the imagination to anticipate how completely awful the consequences of that person driving could be.

I grew up in a rural area where a lot of people had a cavalier attitude to drink driving, particularly the 'laddish' types - it made me so angry

Grounds for divorce, ott.

Chat with him calmly op.

Reponses on here will only whip you up into a frenzy and you'll be more cross.

That would be grounds for divorce for me. What a vile thing to do, he should've hidden his friends keys. Worse than your husband being killed, what if your children were killed by his drunk driving friend!