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Territorial dispute in swimming pool

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tamade · 26/08/2025 06:54

I am lucky enough to have a proper lunch break and at least three times a week I go to a nearby hotel and swim a mile, sometimes 2km.

Today I was alone in the pool and started swimming in lane two (of four) which is one lane away from the side closest to the changing rooms entrance. About 30 min later a man got in and stated to swim in lane 1. Five minutes after that he changed into my lane. I caught up with him at the far end and when he turned he looked at me swimming toward him and seemed surprised (surprised I hadn't moved lanes?). He then kicked off the wall and swam beneath me and under the lane divider into lane three. Not long after I finished up and went to get changed. Before exiting I looked back and sure enough he had moved back into lane two, which I presume is "his". And based on that I believe that he was trying to claim lane 2 when he initially moved in.

He is another regular I have seen him coming as I am going although we don't usually use the pool at the same time.

I think this is knobish behaviour

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Absentmindedsmile · 26/08/2025 08:04

JifNtGif · 26/08/2025 07:21

Could you book lessons to improve technique if too slow ?

Sadly there are no lessons to help you get a bigger dick.

CrowMate · 26/08/2025 08:02

He was a knob. It doesn’t matter if it was a “non event” in the end. He had no need to move into the same lane, slower, faster etc in an empty pool it’s irrelevant. He interrupted your swim and I’d imagine you’ll be less relaxed and on the look out for him next time. He was completely unreasonable.

SeaAndStars · 26/08/2025 08:01

Swimming under someone is a bloody peculiar thing to do.

JifNtGif · 26/08/2025 08:01

nellly · 26/08/2025 07:45

See this is why I’m not worried about AI taking my job 😂 I’m guessing this is a bot comment and it’s failed to understand… any of the post.

She wasn’t complaining about speed but about his apparent intrusion into her space. She was faster than him that’s why she caught him up.
But it is a comment about swimming I suppose so not the worst I’ve seen

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You're right, your comment is probably the worst!

Rosscameasdoody · 26/08/2025 08:00

BallerinaRadio · 26/08/2025 07:37

There's a lot of assumptions here for a fairly innocuous... Well it's barely an incident never mind a dispute.

If anyone was being territorial I'd say it was probably you being in lane 2 of an empty pool, why not lane 1?

If OP was in lane 2 of an otherwise empty pool, and fast enough to be swimming 2km in a lunch hour, why was he in the same lane as her at all when he had the rest of the pool to himself ? I’d find someone swimming underneath me quite off putting and it was unnecessary.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 26/08/2025 08:00

Swimming under you is a horrible move though. Really odd.
I encounter a lot of aggressive men when swimming so it wouldn't suprise me if it was an attempt at bullying

Eddielizzard · 26/08/2025 08:00

Swimming in your lane when you were already in it is quite aggressive. He should have started in lane 3 from the beginning, not all this lane changing nonsense.

SeaAndStars · 26/08/2025 08:00

It's definitely not just men in my experience. Determined swimmers seem angry before they even get in the pool to me. The whole territorial, sharp elbowed, dirty look and performative lane swapping swimming pool thing is the reason I only swim in the sea these days.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 26/08/2025 07:59

Are they different speed lanes? I often switch lanes if they are different speeds.

GCAcademic · 26/08/2025 07:58

CarolineKnappShappeyShipwright · 26/08/2025 07:56

Why on earth did he move from lane 1 given he had it to himself and knew op was in lane 2?

Why swim underneath her? I'm not sure what the right word is but I'll go with aggressive.

I think he sounds like a twat OP.

I agree. Who, faced with three empty lanes, deliberately chooses the only one that another swimmer is using? And then swims under them? Add in the gender of the swimming, and it sounds aggressive. I think some people on this thread are being deliberately disingenuous.

CarolineKnappShappeyShipwright · 26/08/2025 07:56

Why on earth did he move from lane 1 given he had it to himself and knew op was in lane 2?

Why swim underneath her? I'm not sure what the right word is but I'll go with aggressive.

I think he sounds like a twat OP.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/08/2025 07:50

The only dickish thing men do at my local DL pool, is a very noisy, splashy, inexpert front crawl. Whenever I hear the racket it makes, I just know it’ll be a bloke.

PigeonPie · 26/08/2025 07:49

‘Why not lane 1?’

Any lane by a wall is usually really hard work and slower (hence why the best lanes in competition swimming are the middle).

I never choose a lane by the wall if there’s another free lane.

OP - it isn’t just men though - there’s one particular woman at my pool who seems to choose exactly where I’m swimming if she’s there at the same time as me - regardless of how many people are in the pool!

rwalker · 26/08/2025 07:48

Non event
I’d get out of lane 1 soon as possible as being next to side that’s where people get in.

no idea why you think he was trying to force you out of your lane
he just used your lane to get across to the next empty one

then after you got out he move to an EMPTY lane
I think you were over invested in him

Boing98 · 26/08/2025 07:48

Some people just love looking for drama when there isn't any

SisterMarie · 26/08/2025 07:46

CliantheLang · 26/08/2025 07:39

He shouldn't have been in her lane, at all.

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"Her lane"
😂

Its a public pool and he moved

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tamade · 26/08/2025 07:46

SisterMarie · 26/08/2025 07:38

Probably not as he moved....youre just assuming he thought that.

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it's the moving back into lane 2 as soon as I got out though, I get not wanting to swim next to a wall or ladders but lane 3 is also open on both sides so why not continue there after I got out? my conclusion is that he lane 2 is his fave and he made a passive aggressive play for it right from the off.

I could be wrong but I like to work out how peoples minds work

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nellly · 26/08/2025 07:45

JifNtGif · 26/08/2025 07:21

Could you book lessons to improve technique if too slow ?

See this is why I’m not worried about AI taking my job 😂 I’m guessing this is a bot comment and it’s failed to understand… any of the post.

She wasn’t complaining about speed but about his apparent intrusion into her space. She was faster than him that’s why she caught him up.
But it is a comment about swimming I suppose so not the worst I’ve seen

GreenWheat · 26/08/2025 07:44

This all seems rather petty. You had four lanes between two people!

BallerinaRadio · 26/08/2025 07:43

CliantheLang · 26/08/2025 07:39

He shouldn't have been in her lane, at all.

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But it wasn't 'her' lane. Like I say the only bringing up territory is the OP. Everything else is just assumptions.

Largeherbivore · 26/08/2025 07:43

Lane 2 is obviously the superior lane if everyone wants to swim in it. So the pool is at fault for not having more second lanes. They should replace lanes 1,3 and 4 with more 2s.

GCAcademic · 26/08/2025 07:42

Were you a faster swimmer than him OP? That does seem to make some male swimmers very angry indeed.

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tamade · 26/08/2025 07:41

Icedlatteplease · 26/08/2025 07:17

He moved.

Yes men can be a dick in pools but doesn't sound like he was. Most pools have a faster medium slower (depends on the lane number of lanes in the pool) sounds like he was adjusting where he swam based on the relative speed which appears your pool has the same system. If you were going that much faster than him, sound like you should have been in the fast lane in the first place.

I'd have been fuming if I'd been forced to swim in the slow lane because someone who was swimming fast lane pace decided this was their lane and they were sticking to it

There were only two people in the pool, before he came I was alone. The lanes are not graded.

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RhaenysRocks · 26/08/2025 07:41

Icedlatteplease · 26/08/2025 07:17

He moved.

Yes men can be a dick in pools but doesn't sound like he was. Most pools have a faster medium slower (depends on the lane number of lanes in the pool) sounds like he was adjusting where he swam based on the relative speed which appears your pool has the same system. If you were going that much faster than him, sound like you should have been in the fast lane in the first place.

I'd have been fuming if I'd been forced to swim in the slow lane because someone who was swimming fast lane pace decided this was their lane and they were sticking to it

There was noone else there though.

Fifthtimelucky · 26/08/2025 07:41

JifNtGif · 26/08/2025 07:21

Could you book lessons to improve technique if too slow ?

If the OP is swimming 1m - 2km in her lunch break she doesn’t sound particularly slow!

But I agree with some others that this was a bit of a non-event.