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Territorial dispute in swimming pool

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tamade · 26/08/2025 06:54

I am lucky enough to have a proper lunch break and at least three times a week I go to a nearby hotel and swim a mile, sometimes 2km.

Today I was alone in the pool and started swimming in lane two (of four) which is one lane away from the side closest to the changing rooms entrance. About 30 min later a man got in and stated to swim in lane 1. Five minutes after that he changed into my lane. I caught up with him at the far end and when he turned he looked at me swimming toward him and seemed surprised (surprised I hadn't moved lanes?). He then kicked off the wall and swam beneath me and under the lane divider into lane three. Not long after I finished up and went to get changed. Before exiting I looked back and sure enough he had moved back into lane two, which I presume is "his". And based on that I believe that he was trying to claim lane 2 when he initially moved in.

He is another regular I have seen him coming as I am going although we don't usually use the pool at the same time.

I think this is knobish behaviour

OP posts:
YetYeti · 26/08/2025 10:21

DelilahMy · 26/08/2025 10:08

Here we have todays 'reasons to hate men' thread.

With a lunch break at 5am. 😂

I love them, but there are too many like this and we’re allowed to talk about it.

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:21

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:19

It's mumsnet men can do no right so they will agree with the Op
Meanwhile back in the real world there's a man, going about his business with no idea he's caused this much drama on a thread...

Edited

Correct.
There are horrific men out there, nobody is denying that, but this false outrage is ridiculous.

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:21

YetYeti · 26/08/2025 10:18

Don’t be silly, that’s not what she said.

No she made up some nonsense about why he was going back to his preferred lane.

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:20

YetYeti · 26/08/2025 10:19

Or his. Yet he swam under her. Creep.

Are most club swimmers/ex-club swimmers who do this creeps then, or just one OP doesn't like in her 'territory'?

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:19

bananafake · 26/08/2025 10:17

And me and the 79% of people who agree with the OP.

It's mumsnet men can do no right so they will agree with the Op
Meanwhile back in the real world there's a man, going about his business with no idea he's caused this much drama on a thread...

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:19

bananafake · 26/08/2025 10:17

And me and the 79% of people who agree with the OP.

And? That doesn't mean it's accurate.

YetYeti · 26/08/2025 10:19

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:08

It's not 'hers'.

Or his. Yet he swam under her. Creep.

TottyMaude · 26/08/2025 10:19

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 09:35

Are you being deliberately obtuse or does it come naturally?

He's a bloke. Is there not a Dadsnet?

YetYeti · 26/08/2025 10:18

x2boys · 26/08/2025 09:10

She didn't want him to have the lane even after she got out that's a bit strange .

Don’t be silly, that’s not what she said.

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:17

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:16

It's the most likely explanation.

Why because you say so?

bananafake · 26/08/2025 10:17

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:14

According to you. 🫣

And me and the 79% of people who agree with the OP.

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:17

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:16

It's the most likely explanation.

Again, according to you. Not absolute.

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:16

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:16

Who cares why he likes it? He clearly got in it hoping to make the OP annoyed/uncomfortable enough to move out of "his" lane.

Your a mind reader now are you ?

1976a · 26/08/2025 10:16

Blueuggboots · 26/08/2025 06:59

But he moved?

But she was clearly alone in the pool so the man did not need to even go in her lane. If more people arrived, fair game but she was alone!

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:16

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:15

No, but there is also no good reason to choose an occupied lane when there are three free lanes available.

According to you.
I've been at our local pool where me and the 1 other person end up in the same lane, we manage fine. Shock, horror, it's often a male. 🫣

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:16

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:15

Because she made thst up her head that was why he was doing it.

It's the most likely explanation.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:16

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:15

And? Maybe he likes it for the same reason she does? Some lanes are better than others, or so it seems.

Who cares why he likes it? He clearly got in it hoping to make the OP annoyed/uncomfortable enough to move out of "his" lane.

Bennetty · 26/08/2025 10:15

It's hard to know what really happened here. Either he was trying to push you out of his favorite lane or he's just not that great a swimmer and has trouble staying in his own lane.

Either way, he let it go and moved on fairly quickly, so now you can too.

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:15

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:14

No, she mentioned that he moved back to lane 2 after she got out because it is an indicator that he specifically wanted lane 2. (Rather than that he accidentally chose the only occupied lane because he didn't have his glasses on and only realised when he was forced to swim under the OP.)

Because she made thst up her head that was why he was doing it.

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:15

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:14

No, she mentioned that he moved back to lane 2 after she got out because it is an indicator that he specifically wanted lane 2. (Rather than that he accidentally chose the only occupied lane because he didn't have his glasses on and only realised when he was forced to swim under the OP.)

And? Maybe he likes it for the same reason she does? Some lanes are better than others, or so it seems.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:15

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:14

And?
I don't get to exclude other users from a lane just because I'm already in it (unless it's a max capacity already).
Perhaps female only sessions would suit those who cannot bear to be remotely near or share with any males.

No, but there is also no good reason to choose an occupied lane when there are three free lanes available.

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:14

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:12

Because they're absolutely risible

According to you. 🫣

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:14

x2boys · 26/08/2025 10:12

She doesn't own the pool or the lane ,she also didn't want him to use " her" lane after she got out ,someone's entitled here...

No, she mentioned that he moved back to lane 2 after she got out because it is an indicator that he specifically wanted lane 2. (Rather than that he accidentally chose the only occupied lane because he didn't have his glasses on and only realised when he was forced to swim under the OP.)

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:14

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:12

It makes it already occupied.

And?
I don't get to exclude other users from a lane just because I'm already in it (unless it's a max capacity already).
Perhaps female only sessions would suit those who cannot bear to be remotely near or share with any males.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/08/2025 10:12

GleisZwei · 26/08/2025 10:09

Again, have you ignored all the other explanations as to why he might have ended up in there.

Because they're absolutely risible

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