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To think that family holidays are bloody hard work for mothers?!

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Bliss1985 · 25/08/2025 22:43

I’m three days in and I’m shattered.
The mental load of organising everyone, remembering to pack all the stuff for whatever we are doing that day, sun creaming, snacks, referring the kids arguments. It’s bloody hard work is it not?

DH just doesn’t see all the donkey work I’m putting in and thinks he is carrying equal load, and can’t understand why I’m cranky.

OP posts:
Ponoka7 · 25/08/2025 23:26

I think it's about picking the right holiday. If your children are under 6, they are hard work and it takes two.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 25/08/2025 23:25

I'm sorry. It isn't that holidays are hard work for mothers. The issue is that your H isn't pulling his weight.

RJ2025 · 25/08/2025 23:24

Yeah I totally agree - we don’t get much of a break do we

CarpetKnees · 25/08/2025 23:23

It sounds like it might be for you but that doesn't mean it is for all 'mothers', no.
DH did as much, or often more of the 'parenting' when ours were little and we were on holidays.
We also put in the yards in to teaching our dc what they needed to pack / take out with them so by later days in the holiday, and certainly future years, they were responsible for their things.