Plane seats - refused to swap

I would advise paying to choose seats at the time of booking in future. Your husband is probably just trying to save money by not paying for this, and doesn't actually care if you're all sat together. Also your husband is very controlling if he doesn't let you have any access to the booking, and I would advise seeking advice from domestic abuse charities if this is an ongoing thing.

I would talk to him and get him onto it asap to make sure you are seated together coming back! He should be able to try and do that now, not necessarily at check in as usually you can book your seats before that stage. he's a bit of a twat not letting you do it when he actually messed it up!

But not untypical for Delta ... I try to avoid them in the US, but sometimes one just has to fly through Atlanta.

No, it was a error by your husband. You book your seats when you book the flight. He was too tight to pay to guarantee you sit together.

You now need to do the online check in for the return flight and hope there are some unreserved seats together. Which you will have to pay for. If your idiot husband let's you.

This.

I am seriously losing faith in humanity reading some of these comments 🤦‍♀️

If you’d checked in online as soon as it opened - 30 days for some airlines - the algorithm would seat you together, or 2&2. Checking in last minute to a full flight there simply isn’t that flexibility

Should have paid to pre book seats like everyone else with kids does

Yes. Grim.

Your husband is being an absolute dick.

You really need to pay to choose seats at the time of booking, not just expect to be able to choose at check in. I’m guessing that’s becoming less and less available now. Airlines want to make their money!

But the big problem is that your husband is an absolute dick, as I said. Not allowing you access the booking is controlling and utterly unreasonable. Not joining you in trying to find seats together/ keeping a close eye on your 8 yo was also immensely shitty.

I couldn’t be with someone like this.

If you were really concerned about being separated from your kids you’d have paid for your seats. My children are 2 and 3 and I’ve paid for my even though it’s TUI policy to seat with children. Because I’m not entitled and don’t expect anyone to give you their seats for me

You have to choose and pay for the seats you want. Otherwise you are randomly allocated whatever seats are left after everyone else has booked their seats.

Well you are bloody nasty aren’t you!!!

You’re not crazy. Any decent normal mother would get upset about their child sitting alone. Terrible situation. I can’t believe the air stewardess didn’t get someone to move!

Pay to sit together. Only option really.

That’s EXACTLY why I’d have put them together!! You’d have built some allies wanting them separated!

for what it’s worth, we choose our seats and pay extra for them when we book out flights. If you leave it till the last minute, this is the risk you take.

Delta?

Please don’t worry about being online, youre a Mum and we are human / make mistakes and can be over emotional at times, again we are human. I doubt it will end up being online. I’d far rather people help or comfort others than video a situation.

I would insist on being part of the booking and ensure seats are allocated well on advance. If there is a surcharge you need to build this into the total cost of the holiday. If EasyJet I emailed them 10 months in advance to get the code to prebook seats for this reason. EasyJet system is very easy and I am sure others are too. Go MummaBear on your DH, I find it surprisingly easy to this on certain occasions.
I have to prebook certain seats for medical for myself and DC, to look at us you would never know. A friend of mine has to have an aisle seat etc, not everyone can give up seats as freely as others. If someone says no they’re ok to say no.

Firstly I would assume your flights home will be scattered also. Secondly why did you not sit the kids together and you sit between the men. I understand this would mean them sat without an adult but atleast they would have had each other. Thirdly although not ideal they were sat with strangers it’s not like they can be attacked/abducted in mid air amd fourth get a bloody divorce when you get home he sounds so toxic having control over everything to do with your holiday and refusing to let you even know the booking info is not old fashioned it’s the behaviour of a narcissist and you need to leave

The biggest red flag in the whole post was your husband withholding that information from you. What a weird, controlling pleb. Address that and hopefully the rest will follow x

The biggest red flag in the whole post was your husband withholding that information from you. What a weird, controlling pleb. Address that and hopefully the rest will follow x

I will add though I am surprised they didn’t at least sit your children with one adult. I thought they had to do their best to try make that happen with children under 12. Makes me even happier we’ve paid to book seats now

£11 per seat is not expensive

So why weren't the seats booked together when the booking was first made?

I’ve never selected seats at check in. I’ve always paid to select seats upon booking (most airlines) or logged into pay for seats after booking. For most airlines you’ll be able to log in pay to select seats now for the return journey.