Plane seats - refused to swap

I have used several airlines in past and checked in as late as travelling in to the airport and never been an issue 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not encoring anger or aggression, but I am encouraging the OP stand stand her ground and to not apologise or feel like she’s been dramatic cause there are very inconsiderate people out there!

You've got a dh issue. You have to pay to sit next to each other. I'd have put your two children together as you were lucky to get two seats together as your husband was a cheap skate. Why you allowing your dh to dictate to you this much. He sounds awful. Does he have any good points. Your issue is your husband not the seats.

@Mjayy101 Did it ever cross your mind that those people who swapped seats may not have paid for their seats?

Of course they were threatened by you saying you were going to sue a company that makes €1.6 billion profit a year and can afford the best lawyers money can buy 🙄

If you book with a third party provider like Love Holidays it's more difficult to sort things out if they don't go to plan.

I think when you choose Ryanair, you know it is not going to be a doozy but you pay your money and make your choice. You can check in earlier than you did, you should have done so. I guess you won't make that mistake again but advocating anger can get you taken off the flight and even arrested, don't suggest it to others.

‘End of’ 😂😂😂

I think you have a point, they should, by law, be forced to seat children with parents but that is not the issue in this case in point. They knew the system and did not use it. End of.

I don’t think you have anything to be embarrassed about nor do I think I would have handled that well, no one willing to help a mum sit next to her kids? Oh I would have caused a war 😠 between stupid ignorant passengers and husband they’d be begging to swap seats 🤬 I am soooo sorry OP, it’s horrible! We had a similar experience, though we pre paid all of our seats together when making original booking 6 months before, for all 6 of us to sit together, our 4 kids were 15,13,8 and 3 at the time, we booked through love holidays so we got landed with Ryanair and I thought ohh nope I’m gonna be on the ball with them so they can’t mess us about, We travelled hours to airport, had breakfast then several hours waiting in lounge, flight got delayed twice and moved gates twice, but we eventually got there, stood in Que right up until we got to the desk to show passports and walk on to plane, the boarding passes on my phone were then coming up errors, I was confused as hell, by then everyone’s on the plane but us 6 and I am on the verge of panicking, they said even though I checked us in 1 full WEEK before the departing day, we were in the last 20% of passengers to do so and lost our seats , even though they were picked and paid 6 months before!! Apparently all airlines do this and it’s common knowledge but yet I couldn’t see anything online or in t&cs - They then told me that we might not even get on the damn plane!!! Urgh I was so angry I cried!! I told them If we didn’t get on that plane I would sue their asses, turns out they had 2 empty seats at randoms spots and 4 that were for staff, one of the staff being a police airline officer, who kindly offered us the seats so we could sit with the 2 younger ones and the older 2 went to random seats, but even at age of 15 & 13 I was worried and it was a 4 hour flight so I just kept getting up to check in on them whilst looking to see who I could ask to move about for me to get them closer to myself or DH, we managed to get a few lovely people who were happy to help a family out cause that’s what kind considerate people do!! But since then I have booked 2 other holidays and made sure to avoid Ryanair and book and pay for seats and had to issues!
honestly I would speak you your DH and demand he give you the details or you won’t be going anywhere with him again, put your foot down - your a goddam woman and this is for your kids - don’t you dare let anyone make you feel like you were over reacting it’s an awful feeling and I do not wish to be in that situation again, take control !! I’d be giving that man of yours the ultimatum of treating you like an equal or ending your relationship cause your worth more

TELL that w⚓ of a husband that YOU will book seats for the return flight. Oh, and that, by the way, you'll be doing the seat bookings in future.

Even if you'd chosen and paid for your seat months in advance? I've just booked and paid for a flight next August and paid for a particular seat. I won't be moving out of it if someone's upset. Their failure to plan (whoever is responsible) isn't my responsibility to address.

I know it isn't the fault of the other passengers that your husband messed up, but I can't imagine watching a mother become upset about not being sat with her kids on a plane and not offering to swap (unless I was sat with my kids of course). I also think it is despicable that air lines would separate children from their parents. My reaction would have been very similar to yours.
I think you'll need to try and call the airline and explain what happened and see what they can do.

This is typical of a snowflake generation, always cry-arsing and playing the victim. Man-up and take control girl. Next time, book the flights & book the seats yourself

I really feel for you and your husband is a twaunt, you might not be able to get seated together as people usually book both flights at the same time. But this brings into perspective about the airline companies, I really don’t think children should be allowed to sit away from their family just so the airline can make more money. I find it morally wrong.

OP you are completely in the right here. My God your husband is an asshole. I was with you all the way and when you mentioned SA at the end, moreso.
Kids shouldn’t be separated from their caregivers on flights. As you are a survivor of SA your husband should be especially aware of this.

We never pay to select seats. The airlines will assign seats 24 hours before departure when we check in. Almost every time we end up sitting together but occasionally we are one row apart. It is fine with us which is why we don't pay. Some airlines will allow you to change the seat assigned (but only within the 24 hours). It sure sounds like your husband is not willing to pay for seats and generally it has worked out. For heaven's sake, look at the tickets beforehand and get involved in the ticket purchase. It makes you look pathetic leaving it up your husband and then having a meltdown on the flight. You are a grownup so please act like one.

Straight in there

I can totally understand why you felt so upset OP I would too.

You’re not overreacting.

With Expedia bookings, you can usually still check in directly on the airline’s website using the airline booking reference (which might be different from the Expedia one). If your DH won’t share, you could ring the airline directly and explain you’re travelling with children and need to be seated together they can usually help. Also, I’m shocked about the check-in staff they are generally really good about making sure young kids aren’t sat away from their parent, they should of asked the other passengers not left it down to you

you can deal with your husband when you get home, you can be trusted with two children but not a checkin reference what’s going on?!

Just tell him to sod off and deal with the booking yourself, you can choose seats 48 hours in advance or pay for them. He is not old fashioned, he’s a dick who thinks you are incapable.

Stop being melodramatic

You just repeat yourself and then make excuses for your husband. Here's the thing. It was not a computer problem, get real, your husband messed up and this is the result. This is nobody's fault but yours and your husband. Abrogating responsibility is just as bad as him messing up. Grow up woman or get out of the situation. There is no solution other than ringing them to see if you can pay extra to get seats together on the way back so get on with it. You must have a boarding card with the ref. no? And the way you tried to slip it in that the airline is in some way at fault was out of order too. This sort of stuff is so dispiriting, stand up for yourself.

To sit next to your kids you have to pay, the closer it is to the flight the less chance u have of getting seats closer together. Ive just had to pay 900 pound to sit by my kids which is actually disgusting but I couldn't risk them sitting by strangers

You can usually check in a week or is it two weeks before take off? 24 hours is leaving it way to late to ensure everyone is sat together.
it gives you a date when to check in. Soon as it is that date I check in straight away and make sure all seats are together.

This is on Facebook linked to a different site now so it's possibly getting more publicity than the OP might have wanted.