Husband booked a holiday I said I didn’t want to go on

Not unreasonable !! two weeks in disney sounds like my idea of hell . Two days tops!!!

Disney let you change the holiday multiple times. Personally if you have the dining plan I found it quite cheap to eat there- especially at the quick service dining with kids! X

You don't have to go, and you don't have to be grateful. If he loses money it's on him. Florida and Disney are amazing for children but it is a big holiday and if they're very young it can also be incredibly full on and exhausting. You're well within your rights to point blank refuse. He can go on his own if he insists and if he doesn't - let him sulk.

The fact that he’s including your children in the dispute with the comments is a big red flag. Alongside the other big red flag of thinking that just because he is paying for it that you have nothing to say about it.

Does he do this with other things ?

I would drop the argument about the holiday because like you’ve said he’s booked it and told the be kids about it and the expectation is set. He’s only going to further undermine you in front of the kids about it and it doesn’t sound like he’s capable of having a conversation.

What you can do is draw a line. Tell him that you won’t have the children brought into your disputes in the future and that you would appreciate that a place is agreed between the two of you before something is booked.

If he’s throwing finances around in your face , which sounds like he is in a roundabout way, then you need to stop and take a really hard look at your marriage. If he’s suddenly earning more or already has been he sees money as power in your relationship and that’s always going to be used against you.

Yanbu.

Move the booking - dec / jan around Christmas is incredible.

I actually went in August and it was horrendous. I got heat stroke and remember vomiting off the side of that ton sawyer paddle boat thing.

Never again.

What a bossy man he is.
You can and should refuse to go. If he loses his deposit, that's his problem. You might ask him how he'd like it if you booked a two week holiday that he'd been clear he didn't want to go on, then said he shouldn't complain because you were paying. Never mind that his annual leave would be used up and he'd have an unpleasant time, most likely.

I’ve done a few Florida holidays in August and it’s been fine, however in your shoes I’d be livid, it’s a huge spend and as such should be a joint decision. I don’t understand this separate savings thing, you’re married you should have joint financial goals? You’re looking at around £10k on flights, parks and hotels and then food when you’re out there is very expensive.

We prefer to go in August because it’s cheaper and quieter, but weather in Easter is gorgeous (but there’s no deals so it’s pricey and very very busy).

I’d have the fight discussion with him. He suggested, you said not at that time, he booked it anyway. If he wants to be angry at you for his actions, that’s his problem and isn’t one you will be pandering to, he doesn’t get to force your hand. Be clear with the kids “I do want to take you to Disney, but we can do it in a year or two when it will be better for everyone, I told Dad this but he booked it anyway. We can have a different holiday which will be just as good”

sorry but this is wrong all she had to do was ask for ice water and they give you some for free-there are some fountains around too

Do not get into discussion with him. Let him go on his own. And mean it. Treat him like you would a toddler - you booked it knowing I didn’t want to go and you’ve said you’re happy to go along with the kris so enjoy. Don’t put up w any moaning. Just keep repeating but you said you’d be happy to go w the kids. It’s up to him to convince the kids and take them. Take no part in this whatsoever.

i have a friend in florida even she said its extrelely hot this summer and shes used to it

i went once in august never again hes being selfish and making you out to be the bad guy when youre tryhing to be pravtical

A friend went last year and said it was super hot in August but to make it worse, there is no way to refill water bottles at Disney Florida. You HAVE to buy bottled water at around $15 per small bottle while there. She said she spent about $200 on water alone on the couple of days she was there with her child. All your concerns are very valid and of course it was wrong for your husband to go ahead and book.

He is railroading you. I’m really triggered by that behaviour so I’d not be happy at all. Just say you are happy for him and the kids to head off but as you’ve already told him it is not your cup of tea you’ll do your own thing instead.

How old are your dc? I'm just wondering if you need to go during school holidays? If you can go term time id really recommend it. We went early November & the weather was just right and thr parks were fairly quiet which makes everything better.

By going ahead and booking against your wishes he has put himself firmly in the wrong and you're entitled to be annoyed and refuse the trip. This is a shame, as had he not bull dozed ahead, there may have been room for compromise. I'm not sure a wish not to go should necessarily trump one to go on a particular family holiday within the context of a life long relationship, as sometimes you do gave to grit your teeth and do things the other really wants to, as long as its reciprocal. However, a shorter break at a cooler time such as February half term may have worked, or a week at Disney and a week relaxing (carribean, the keys) may have been better. Is it too late to change?

OP didn’t say no, she specifically said she didn't want to do it now because of the cost. DH has assuaged that concern by paying for the majority of the trip

I’ve been to Florida 3 times in August and it does ran most days, but generally not for long. However, as the car hire driver, i’ve now said i’d never drive in Florida in August again as it’s terrifying and you can’t even just pull over for ages as you can barely see 6ft in front of you. Generally the rain wasn’t too much of a problem, apart from if you’re near front of the queue and they close the rides if lightning in the area. It’s my youngest final year in school (6th form) so my days of going in Aug are over! Yay.

I’d say October would be better - or Easter, though Easter is so busy. End of Aug is much quieter, but heat, humidity and crowds can make for miserable kids. We were fortunate (via ex’s job meaning travel was cheaper) to go 3 times, age 5 and 8, 6 and 9 and then 15 and 18 and the teen years were the best in many ways, but for disney magic, i’d say 6 and 9. It is a very costly holiday.

He sounds like a right dick. Sorry OP. This holiday is probably the least of it.

I've been to Florida in hurricane season, it's not too bad but it is definitely a bit of a gamble. I think the parks only had to close for one day when we were there.
It is indeed hot and humid but the Disney organization and Universal have it sussed with well ordered queues, in the shade, and giant fans misting you with cool air and water as you wait.
Unfortunately I can't address your main problem, which is your DH's behaviour in booking it without your agreement. And it is certainly expensive...

Trying to manipulate you through your child is abusive to the child.

Yes. Get a look at all the booking terms and conditions and don't take his word for "it cannot be changed."

re grateful etc... No. you will absolutely be paying for this trip too.
In terms of as you said him going on about it later and what a star he was to fork out for it... and in terms of when you have a buildings /reno expense or some other kind of expense and you have to pay for it all because he can't afford it anymore because he shelled out for the Disney trip

So yes. If you are a family... its coming out of what you can both contribute to the family pot. Plus it sounds like you will be in the frame for all the spending money. as he's made the initial big sacrifice. Did his booking include car hire.. another big holiday expense. Transfers at airports. Airport car parking.. all inclusive? (not asking you to say here but another reason you need to see the booking arrangements. )

Huge Disney fan here but August would be a straight 'No' from me too. It'll be hotter than hell and very, very humid/wet. Your DC will both be a year older next year anyway but could you move it to October half term instead or, if you can't get long enough out of school, December? It'll be cooler when the sun goes down but should still be shorts/t-shirt weather in the day though there may be some rain (just take a fold up poncho) or Easter '26?

Sounds like there's more going on here. You say he's paying for it. But he's your husband. Isn't his money your money and vice versa?