Husband booked a holiday I said I didn’t want to go on

I’ve been a couple of times last two weeks of August and it’s fine, we acclimatised very quickly, it did rain for about an hour most afternoon’s, hadn’t really planned at all, got on all the rides we wanted.

We last year end sept / oct , got caught up in the hurricane, Disney handled everything perfectly, characters and entertainment in the hotel , plus they very kindly extended my unused tickets until this year.

you can also get water and ice from the freestyle machines

Hope he's not spending too much to go to Florida in hurricane season. Also 2 weeks, what are his other plans, assuming no hurricanes? There's loads to see and do and although it's definitely off peak and the weather won't be your friend, there might be something that appeals to you too.

Booking a holiday without you both sitting there in front of the computer though. I'd want to make a deal, like 100% my choice for the next one, same budget. And I wouldn't book a hurricane destination!

The weather in August is so hot as due to Hurricane season, all wind is being sucked towards tropical waves etc. This season is June to november, with August and september being hottest. And that is if you are lucky, only the heat. If you are unlucky, tropical storms or even hurricanes can happen. For context, we live in the Caribbean, just outside the hurricane belt, but these months are dreadful, either torrent rains or so hot and humid that I am soaked within a few minutes of doing anything. Even airco can not always catch up. Last few years, it became more active hurricane seasons.

How about a compromise - he goes by himself to suss it out and report back and re-book it for you all another time. You and the kids can chill at home while he flys to a hot humid hell hole for a week! Maybe he’ll even get a hurricane if he’s lucky!

I did Disney second half of August last year. I did Universal second half of August the year prior.

I wouldn’t worry too much about hurricane season tbh. The heat is however like holidaying in Hell.

Universal I feel is way better organised to cope with the heat. Better drinks system, more shade (and actually is just cheaper).

Disney has less shade and more difficult to get affordable fluids. I hated Disney. We bailed a few days to go back swimming.

Disney doesn’t have huge rides really, that’s more Universal, so if your kids aren’t into rides they will have TONs there. My son (8) hated Disney Vs Universal as he said it was pretty boring. He wanted the thrill rides.

Second half of August is much quieter crowd wise than the first half as most US schools go back mid-August, so worth factoring that in. You couldn’t pay be to go before mod-August, that sun with double the crowds - no chance.

That aside your DH can’t go booking major family holidays without your agreement. I would be furious if my husband did that. You’ve every right to be cross.

@Catty6516 stand your ground and don’t go . Your reasons are spot on tbh. Especially finances .

If he is reasonable then change the date to 2027/28 day so it shows your not saying no altogether . He wasn’t being reasonable though ignoring you so maybe let him take the hit to the pocket or change to another destination through the same agent if possible .

You husband was obviously wrong to go ahead and book without consulting you but I thought I'd just say we've been 3 times in August and the weather is ok. We even went to Disney on the morning of a hurricane and it was fine! We've had a 4 and 2 year old on the first trip, then a 6 and 4 year old and then a 11 and 9 year old. If is very hot but lots of drinks and cooling towels. Air con is everywhere and a lot of the rides have air con queues. It rains a lot but also dries up very quickly. Just get wet.

On a separate issue, all money should be seen as joint regardless of account. That is a bigger problem in my opinion.

I would be so angry, August is so hot in Florida, humid and rainy.

@GoldenNuggets08 what part of the ‘communication problem’ here was due to OP?

This was her H’s unilateral decision.

Sorry he has done this to you but it does sound like he’s not going to backdown he’s being really selfish because it’s something he wants to do and he might be paying but he’s done a deal to save money going in a month you don’t want to and are worried about. Does he has form for ignoring you? I would say if you go and he ever holds it over just throw it back in his face. Just say don’t go there I never wanted to go in the first place you done this so don’t ever remind me again that you paid. From now on all holidays are agreed in advance or you take the kids without me and I will do something I want to do.

I’ve literally just got back from Disneyland in Florida, we were there for 2 weeks and It was amazing, I really didn’t want to go initially either.
Yes it did rain at times but just take ponchos and it’s fine.
Yes it’s boiling hot but so is everywhere in August (the rain actually helps bring the temperature down)
If you have dining plan you really don’t need much spending money at all, only tips and souvenirs.
The queues weren’t too bad either, 1 hour at the very max and if you plan it right and get in the parks either early in the morning or in the evening the queues are even better.
I’d just go for it and you and the kids will have an amazing, unforgettable time

God, I hate Disney You've already been once & the DC didn't really enjoy it.
Your H is a fool.
Tell him he unilaterally decided, in spite of you already saying you didn't want to go again (at least not yet)
Tell him to take eldest & enjoy Florida in August.... not.
You are not a carpet

Put the kids first and go. But there’s definitely something else going on here. Have you asked him why he thought it was a good idea to book without discussing it?
As it happens we were there in August. 30 plus every day, no storms apart from one bit of heavy rain but it was all ok. We were on site had the full meal package with cups to refill. Loads of water fountains. We have a joint pot for everything and booked a good deal with an agent. Suggest you re think your finances and share more. If he won’t, find out why.

Personally I would be miserable if my 2 kids went off on a 2 week holiday with their dad and I missed out seeing them enjoy a place like Disney.

As with the majority of threads on here, you have a DH problem and a communication problem within your relationship. If it is genuinely a trip you want to go on, can you voice your concerns again and discuss postponing?

You opting out seems like a lose lose for everyone in my opinion.

American here. I live in Southern California (about a 20-minute drive away from the original Disneyland), but my sister goes to Disney World in Florida quite often with her friend, her friend's kids, and her friend's grandkids (friend lives with us, but all her kids and grandkids live in Florida.)

Florida - and specifically Disney World - is a LIVING NIGHTMARE in August.

Most non-Americans (and a lot of Americans!) forget that Florida is considered "the South".... which, in America, means it's hot, humid, and absolutely TEEMING with biting insects during the summer months... and August is ABSOLUTELY still summer in the South. (Heck, it's the same where I live - almost September and we're having a nasty heatwave with temps around 29C!)

Right now in Orlando the weather app says it's 30.5C and "feels like" 34C. Humidity is 67% but it's nasty, stuffy humidity - like the humidity in East Asian countries.

In addition to how godawful nasty it feels, remember that EVERYONE ELSE is going to Disney World in the summer, since it's school holidays for the kiddos. So both Americans and foreign tourists will be cramming theme parks as hard as they can. A lot of schools in America don't start until September, so parents want to cram in those last-minute holiday trips.

My sister's gone to DW in the summer with her friend/friend's kids and has said that some days they only get to ride two or three rides, because they're in line for HOURS. And ditto getting meals/food at the eateries - even with reservations in advance, you might still be waiting up to an hour to be seated and served at the restaurants at DW. (After that trip, my sister's friend's family swore to never go to DW in the summer again. They generally go around Christmas or in January these days.)

And don't forget that Disney World is GINORMOUS - does your DH have any plan in regards to that? There's no way to see/visit all of DW in a single trip (unless you're staying for several weeks) and it's all so huge that the kids will get tired out and cranky easily.

If you think your DH would listen to reason, you can tell him that you've spoken with someone who knows people who live in Florida, have small children themselves, and all have annual passes to Disney World - and THOSE people STILL don't go to DW in the summer if they can help it.

It’s hurricane season in August too. Risky with the weather. (We live in Florida). Disney is lovely however not in that heat with children.

Call his bluff and let him organise it for just him and kids.

If he goes ahead, enjoy the peace safe in the knowledge he'll never make that mistake again after full time single parenting for a fortnight.

My idea of hell tbh all the waiting around in the heat. My dd can’t bear the heat though so I know it would be a terrible idea. I don’t like it either if someone tries to control me to that degree.

FFS! You've said you don't want to go so he's told you to stay here and he'll take the kids yet you still aren't happy!

@BlueMongoose I certainly can’t see that advice anywhere, where have you got that from?

Ive decided not to travel to the US next year but that’s a personal choice due to the orange nonsense.

I'd be really annoyed, especially if he's paid a lot as many people don't seem to realise it's low season in Florida in August and pay stupid amounts to go!

Near 100% humidity and 24/7 rain.

Great.

It's not only the things you state, but is he not aware that the current UK travel advice is not to travel to the USA? Things are bad there, and will be much worse before next year. My friends over there have warned me that it's not safe- and they are in several different states from one end of the US to the other. When we meet, we'll be meeting here, for the forseeable future.

This is a lie. Water is available at every QS place. You just go up and ask for cups of water and they give you as many as you want with ice.

Also water is about 5dollars, or free bottle with the dining package.

This is a power play OP, as I am sure you realise.

He is not on your team. Booking an unwanted ( because we were desperate for a new bathroom) holiday without any reference to me was one of the last, of many, my ex did to me.

Good luck