MIL bathing habits

People like you Op are pathetic and are mugs. Humans don't need to wash everyday, this concept was invented by capitalism to get you to consume more. More fool you for being hypnotized by the mass media. Enjoy your sheep life looking down on others who aren't part of the wasteful mass consumerist movement. I bet you are also the sort of person that uses loads of cleaning products, doesn't understand the concept of good bacteria or resilience either.

Baa baa.

I only use bubble bath when I have a bath And when I bathed my dc. When I was younger showers weren't a thing so people didn't have a bath every day.

You think your partners mother is gross despite staying in her house ? Washing her body is washing her body why are you so uptight that you think not showering is gross ?

Your MIL can’t be that gross if you’ve never noticed a problem before.

You are not superior because of your preference for soap.

I’m with you OP although seems a minority. Strip wash is not the same as a bath or shower and int he bath use shower gel and body puff things. I wonder if she used a flannel on DD?

Our grandson, 5, is bathed every day but mum never uses soap on him, just plain water (occasional bath bomb). He smells beautiful and has perfect skin. His mum only uses water too and her skin is lovely. She certainly doesn’t smell.

So she uses bubble bath to wash herself in the bath ? I see no issues, its really the same as shower gel. What are your worries op or did you want to tell the Internet how disgusting your MIl.is?

The not showering for 3-4 days - I am with you there - it's gross.
Shampoo - once a week is fine in my book.
Soap along with bubbles in the bath - never even occurred to me! Why would you do that?

Why is bubble bath gross? It’s liquid soap 🤷‍♀️

Older people are experts at strip washing because they grew up in a time when houses didn’t have showers. Some didn’t even have baths. My great nan didn’t have a bathroom in her house until 1984.

How do you know she isn’t washing using the sink ? And either way you sound the unreasonable one.

Presumably she uses shampoo on her hair and DC's hair @Bitesize89 ?

I just used baby shampoo when my DC were small and gentle bath foam in the water. That's all you need.

When I bath, I use bubble bath and hair products. When I shower (much more frequently), I use shower gel and hair products.

I can see your point a bit more if she is not using shampoo.

My MIL washes every two days and alternates the types of washes. For example, on Monday she'll have a strip wash, a shower on Wednesday, and a strip wash on Friday... etc. She comments on my daily showers when one of us stays with the other, I just smile and nod because I think she's gross.

I’m with your MIL. My child is 7 and unless he is particularly dirty, he bathes in the bubbles and doesn’t use soap. I don’t see the need if you’ve had a good soak in bubbles which is essentially soaking your body in soap?

With regards to not showering at your house- have you offered her a towel and a demonstration of how to put the shower on?

I think this is fine. As others have said, we certainly didn’t have daily baths when we were younger so it’s partly a generational thing. My mother only washes her hair once a week, and always has done. I couldn’t do that but it works for her.

If your MIL doesn’t smell, then I don’t see the problem. Lying in bubbles is fine - that’s what I do.

I’m with your MIL. My child is 7 and unless he is particularly dirty, he bathes in the bubbles and doesn’t use soap. I don’t see the need if you’ve had a good soak in bubbles which is essentially soaking your body in soap?

With regards to not showering at your house- have you offered her a towel and a demonstration of how to put the shower on?

Why would you use soap with bubble bath? Surely you’ll end up covered in soap laden water. I’m starting to itch just thinking about it.
Do they still make Matey? It was the only thing my mum put in my bath as a child and will even get the bath clean apparently, so definitely no need for soap!

I don’t even buy bar soap, so I must be totally squalid, according to some MNetters. I’m not sure what DD would say if I suggested she use soap as well as a Lush bath bomb.

and if you are using soap And bubble bath, surely they are the same brand. I’ve never seen bubble bath and soap sets being sold.

Anyway, I’m off my daily shower. Later I’ll visit MIL who only has her hair washed at the hairdressers once a week. That deserves a whole thread on its own!

People who font shower or bath everyday and say they don’t smell are kidding themselves. You definitely do!

I don't think a small child needs more than bubble bath although I can't remember what I did with DS.

As an adult my under arms would need more than just bubble bath...I need a bar of soap.

I guess I'll have to accept that in the olden days people didn't bath regularly and that it was fine but in reality this is one of those things (for me) that only mumsnet sees as normal. Unless she is immobile and really elderly I would say it's incredibly unusual to not have at least one bath or shower in three days. Not sure how you'll ever know if she's doing some sort of strip wash or not.

Ew this is gross!

My mother used to only shower every 3 days or so. Now I think it’s daily or every 2 or so days.

She never smelled and used to wash with a flannel in the sink. The disgusting thing was that she would leave the flannel in the sink for everyone else to use 🤢

Maybe try minding your own business?

If DD is so young that she needs to be bathed by an adult then there’s no reason for her to need bubble bath and soap.
You will dry her skin out and strip it of it’s natural oils.

It sounds as though your bathing habits are way worse than your MILs.

Growing up as a kid i only ever had baths with bubble bath. There wasn't any cleaning products in the house. My parents didn't even have conditioner. However my parents never smell. As an adult now I have all of the cleaning products and conditioner and my kids are told to use them too. As a teenager I was very sweaty and smelly when I look back. My husbands family are the same. Maybe its just a thing of their ages, im not too sure or possibly a sign of being a little bit poor? Either way I would just let it go for the time she's with you.

I just use bubble bath as soap