Am I being a spoilt brat here?

Oh weight loss injections?..😬 I was thinking with the post about a wheel chair cortisone injections or something.
But surely if it stops you needing a wheelchair nhs would provide?

Yeah, you’re completely wrong here

I'm guessing the donor is a parent and the other recipients are siblings? Most parents care equally about all their children and are walking the line between helping out and treating everyone fairly. They have given all of you money, promoted by your needs. Be appreciative of the gift.

Focus on yourself and do not compare yourself with others. Hold your head up high, work towards your goal and be proud of yourself when you attain it. Why are you concerned about the decisions of others when they do not directly affect you? Said family member was very kind to share money in equal proportions. It was theirs to share and theirs to decide who got it. Be grateful and gracious.

If you are suffering with poor mental health it’s not a good idea to post on AIBU. You will get honest answers and sometimes read things you don’t like. I think your relative was being fair but perhaps the wording wasn’t great.

Probably not the best use of words but I am sure it wasn't intentional.
Splitting money /sharing from inheritance is always going to be perceived as unfair by someone.
I hope you continue to benefit from your treatment

Kindly OP, it's your relative's money to do what they want to do with. It's really kind that they're given you some. I get you are disappointed that you aren't in a better position, but this is not your family's fault.

Try to look on this positively. The extra cash means you can continue the treatment that improves your life

I mean, if people had any doubt about you being a spoilt brat before, they certainly don’t now…..

You are in a bad place financially and physically but it would be worse if they had not intervened. Count your blessings.

Oh op I’m sorry you feel the way you do.

But the money was a gift and if you could have it on booze, birds and fast cars if you’d wanted to. (Bonus points to anyone who gets the reference without google!)

have you made sure you’re claiming all the help you’re entitled to like pip etc?

Is the private medical procedure to remove the chip on your shoulder?

None of this is anybody else's fault so don't take it out on them. It's understandable that you're having a tough time but that's no excuse for throwing your toys out of the pram and blaming everyone else. I have so many health conditions but I've never once taken it out on others. It sucks but it is what it is.

OP, I hope you read through the replies before you have the thread removed because it’s not gone how you wanted.

The person who GAVE you money can give anyone money because it’s THEIR money. It’s not for you to say what someone else does with their money and the fact this person had to tell you makes me realise what’s going on.

For goodness sake, somebody gave you some money and you're moaning about it! The fact that they're better off than you is irrelevant. Do you give cheaper presents to richer friends? Be grateful, and stop looking at what everybody else has got.

How's that anyone's fault, did you expect her to cover the full cost?

No, because she still got given a generous gift and someone else getting a similar gift doesn't diminish the spirit it was given to OP in.

OP is choosing to diminish it by comparing and being entitled.

No one's fault she's on the breadline, people have sympathised with that and the chronic issue, but to begrudge a gift to someone else doesn't come off well.

You are being a spoilt brat.

Someone had kindly offered you money which you have accepted. You can not begrudge others doing the same. Doesn't matter what it is used for.

Your replies to people aren’t painting you in glory. You were gifted some money and your relative felt that they ought to gift money to others in the name of fairness.
Did you expect special treatment? Or extra money sent to you so you’d get more than them?

It sucks to have a condition that you have to live with, but that’s just the cards life dealt you unfortunately (believe me, I know).

Try and see it differently- your relative has given you some money for your treatment so you don’t have to eat into your own savings or whatever. That’s a huge bonus.

So the relative has gifted you money for your treatment. What they did after that is none of your business and not relevant to you. All that is relevant is that they have gifted to you. Are you going to bitter about everyone that spends money on 'fun'? There will always be people in a better position to you and also people in a worse position than you; financially and healthwise.

I think you’re being angry at the wrong people here.
Paying for medical treatments isn’t the responsibility of your family, but they’ve been kind enough to help you out.
They are also aware that given money one and not others could cause resentment and fallout, so want to keep everything fair.
What would you prefer- not to have the money at all? They may well continue to help you with your treatments in future if they see it benefits you.

It absolutely isn't. You're right

But I think we can (well, I can) understand that, having suffered for years, it felt truly beautiful to be helped. The OP felt special and loved.

And then everyone was given the same money and yet THEY could have fun wirh THEIR money

Can't everyone see that although anyone can spend their money any way they choose, the emotion attached to the gift for the OP, was diminished a little after the general largesse ?

How would you have afforded the treatment if the family member hadn’t offered?

Perhaps rephrase it in your mind, so presumably you’d have had to pay for it yourself? So you’re doing that and you also have the family members fun money?

Yes, you are being a brat. It's absolutely none of your business how this generous family member spends their money.

Op calm down. No one attacked you! Comparison is the thief of joy. Try and be happy that the money has allowed you to continue your treatment (wherever it’s for). You really don’t know the ins and outs of your siblings finances, everyone has stuff going on. I’m sure your relative meant no offence and would be upset to know you are hurt.

The alternative was that your relative give none of you money. In which case you wouldn't have been able to pay for this round of treatment.

You've invited opinions in AIBU and can't really be upset if people give them unfortunately.