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To think son should protect his interests

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GiddyOrca · 24/08/2025 23:32

My son has told me he is considering leaving his wife and wanted to know if he could return home - I said yet.

He has fleetingly mentioned issues within the marriage in the past, but I hadn't realised his were so bad.

They are undertaking a large and expensive home refurbishment which has gone drastically wrong - incomplete, behind schedule and over budget, which has caused the relationship to go into free fall.

We are NC with his wife, and she with us, so we won't be able to discuss this with her.

My son says his plan is to continue to pay the mortgage and bills whilst he'll living with us, but I don't see how he could do this long term. He is effectively penniless, despite having a well paying job.

There are 3 children involved, so I'd like him to speak to a solicitor to understand his position.

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dodobedo · 24/08/2025 23:42

How old are the children?

BreakingBroken · 24/08/2025 23:38

sounds sensible of course, does your son object to seeing a lawyer?
might help to review his income and outgoings if he has a good job that pays well there may be other savings.