To be sick of people looking down on the town I live in?

The place I live in was in the news recently as one of the worst places to live in the UK! I can't understand the benefit of doing shit like that - it's so disheartening to people who live in the area and such an insult.

When we first moved here, about 13 years ago, DH's boss looked down her nose at our choice of location - it turned out she lived right on the edge of the town, technically over the border, in the 'nice' area. What a dickhead.

Joke's on everyone else, because due to the reputation of the place we managed to buy a very decent house for absolutely nothing, do it up, sell it, then buy and extend another house. We now own a large 4 bedroom house mortgage-free. We'd never ever have been able to do that in the 'nice' part of town.

It's quiet, with great parks, fantastic public transport, close to a lovely town centre. The secondary school is amazing. The attitude towards it is pure snobbishness. If others want to pay £100k+ to live a few metres down the road - good luck to them, I hope they find it's worth it.

Herne Bay?

Much nicer beach than Whitstable if so. 😅 Wherever it is.... try to ignore them. Just be smug in the knowledge that you're happy and financially better off. Point out all the advantages to them if it makes you feel any better. In a way it's a backhanded compliment- they think you're 'too good' for the reputation of whatever town it is. But it's just their own snobbery and prejudice showing.

There's a lot of freedom in living somewhere less 'nice.' Not as much pressure to keep up with middle class neighbours. And more space for your money makes a massive difference to your children's lives.

Well to be fair, most of the Midlands, particularly the East Midlands, are shit!

Bewdley?

As long as its not jaywick I think your good (just joking ive never been there its not featured favorable on tv though)

The judgement of other people will always make you feel rubbish. People always like to make themselves feel better than you, regardless of what it's about!

I grew up in a very nice village that is horribly close to such a town. As nobody had ever heard of the village where I grew up (apart from people who lived there or nearby, obviously), we were lumped in with THAT town. I was mortified whenever anyone said, "Oh, you grew up in X town, then? Eww!" and people would look down on me as scum after that. Needless to say, I was determined to move away, preferably to a very nice area that any future children wouldn't feel ashamed of! I now live in such an area, and only feel mortified if I have to show my passport or birth certificate (which lists THAT town).

I appreciate that such towns can have nice, affordable housing, good amenities and lovely people, but life is much easier when you can get away with saying where you live and nobody gets wide-eyed and goes, "You actually live there? Is it really as bad as they say in the papers?"

Saying that, though... it's easier to not think about the judgement when you only really socialise with people from the same area as where you live, because they don't mention it!

Ooh I really like Coventry! City centre has come on loads and I love Earlsdon, it's where my DH lived when I met him.

Some of my in laws are very snobby though and I deliberately refer to Kenilworth and Warwick as Coventry and they do not like it at all if I miss the Royal off Leamington Spa :-)

I’m nosey and want to know where. I live in the SW and moved from the North but ended up back where I lived as it is a lovely town. Has a huge house with acres and acres though and now a reasonable size house but much much smaller.

I would reply with ‘we love it here - lovely thriving community’ and roll your eyes.

We’ve recently moved away from one of those places mentioned above. I’m glad we have.

A little “post-industrial” is one of the the most condescending phrases ever!

I couldn’t agree more about the friendliness of the East Midlands!

Is it Burgess Hill?!

Hastings is very trendy now, similar to Margate.

Same where I live too but I love it here and wouldn’t move

I REALLY want to know where it is now!

Ha ha snap! Also North Wales coast. Wonder if we're neighbours?! I love my little town. Has a lovely beach, park and mountains within 15 minutes walk. Wouldn't move for the world.

Or Hastings?

Maybe you should. I’ve seen a lot on social media trying to promote Croydon in a positive light. I’ve got a good friend who lives there and she receives similar comments to you. She just embraces it though and it’s like water off a ducks back. You should do the same - don’t let the snobs live rent free in your head.

I KNEW there was one obvious one missed and that was it! 😂

I agree, I moved from naice SW London to the East Midlands. It's awesome and very beautiful and the people are really lovely. I was very very happy to move away from the naice people.

I told the vet where we were going before leaving and he said 'isn't it a little...... er......' 'post industrial?' I filled in for him 🤣

I wish people wouldn’t, sadly they do, hence my post.

Worthing is my guess?

I grew up in a rough area of London that has now been gentrified so places do change. I also live in a not so naice area of London now - but I have great neighbours, good transport links, shopping, GP etc. I prefer to call it edgy 🤣

I'm the same op, we bought a house just over 7 years ago when I was pregnant with my first DC and it's in a town that's more "working class" (for want of a better expression) compared to the historical 13th century market town less than 5 mins drive from us. I'm actually not from this town originally, I'm from a different historical market town about half an hour's drive and a lot of my childhood friends still stay in the town I grew up in.

When we moved here I got a lot of "oh why didn't you buy in X town next to you, that's much nicer?"

It annoys me as actually I've never encountered any trouble in this town, we live off a farm road and it has loads of great locally organised activities throughout the year which are great fun for the kids. The primary school is nice and although we face fields we actually aren't that far from the motorway so it's really only a 30 minute drive to the nearest big city and there's a direct bus to the city as well from our town. No train station, which is the only thing, but then the "nicer" town doesn't have a train station either; the nearest one to us both is about 15 mins drive for us, 20 mins from the nicer town.

I made a mum friend who also lives here and she's actually from the nicer town and says there's an underground drug scene which the locals try to brush under the carpet and it's actually quite bad for house breakings and theft. It's a bigger town than ours too so it has a lot more stuff like that happen. Ours has bad bits too but honestly, I'd say it's less stuck up and everyone I've met from here is more down to earth! Also a famous actor grew up here and loved it, so there's that! 😁

I'm guessing Hounslow or Slough. I've had the misfortune to live in both! 😂