To be sick of people looking down on the town I live in?

Yes because all of UK is a third world country so no need to feel victimised by your personal town.

I have to say it’s completely the other way round from my own personal experience, strange you’ve heard otherwise.

I live in a "rough" town that's been named on this thread. Is it a wonderful, amazing place 100% full of community-minded, salt of the earth citizens? No. But only I and other people who live here are allowed to criticise it. Other people doing so are rude snobs. Luckily, it's big and well-connected enough to be able to mostly avoid the worst bits and the people who make them awful.

Yes I'm sick of this too....

I’m not from the UK so I have no skin in the game. I have to say, I hear far more anti southern rhetoric from northerners than anti north from southerners.

northerners seem fixated by it

My DH grew up in a very rough part of London that has gentrified beyond belief. One of my snooty colleagues from Surrey used to say "I can't believe you ever visit him, it's so dangerous", "obviously the family home is big because it's cheap & no one wants to live in a dump", etc. House is worth nearly 2mill now...

It's Gosport, isn't it? Tbf, that is a shit hole.

That said, stop caring about what anybody else thinks! You're happy, your family is happy. Other people's opinions are irrelevant.

However I live in Cornwall and Mumsnetters appear to hate it…every inch, town and country. No idea why. I’ve lived all over the Uk and every place has its charms along with its disadvantages. We should all stop judging each other in truth.

I moved from west London to Dudley. For the same reasons as you.

People have been vile about it. “Joking” that they can’t come to visit incase their car gets nicked. One did come and visit and had her nose in the air the entire time. I introduced her to a couple of lovely friends I’d made here, and she commented, “oh wow, they are so normal. I thought they would be off a council estate with no teeth.”

I mean, it’s not the greatest place in the world, it’s a shithole. but at least I’m not working myself to the bone anymore to pay rent or a massive mortgage (we would never have been able to buy where we were). We can live on one wage, in a home we own and renovated, and actually do stuff and go on holidays.

Why get involved in other peoples snobbery? They aren't living your life

My own ruddy mother walked into our front door door two days after we moved into our first bought home and first words out of her mouth were " why on earth did you buy this shit hole? "

Two years later she was finding every excuse under the sun to come stay

What other people think or say is none of your business, nowt to do with you.

You get on and live your best life

I went there last week. It's definitely still full of drugs and crime and really run down.
Did not look trendy!

Margate or Bournemouth?

We were on holiday for cornwall many years ago when tiny DD started playing with another little girl and sharing her toy. All very sweet.
Started chatting to parents, all very nice, we talk about our holiday, jobs, all professionals etc.
Then they asked where we came from (it’s in the NE) and we might have well said we were ate children for the way they reacted. Like they were going to catch some awful northern disease from us.They actually made their excuses and left!

I’ve lived in a few places that have regularly made ‘20 shittiest places to live’ and been featured on this list! The town I live in now is apparently a shit hole but I love it. I’ve also lived in nice places that people tell me would be amazing to live in, they’re not.

The place you are in works for you and your family. That’s great and you benefit from cheaper housing. Other people will always think your town is a shit joke but you’ll also think other towns are shit holes. If it works for you, that’s all that matters.

In general I cannot stand and always try to challenge when posters are talking about property, usually in terms of property prices or moving somewhere to afford property, a place will be described as a shit hole or shitty area, basically if its not the naice parts of SW London, no further out than zone 2 of course

I always challenge the "you can't buy a house in London for less than a million". You can, even in respectable parts.

Is it between junctions 10-17 of the M4 ?

I am in the East Midlands, thanks for your predjudiced dismissal of a whole area. Doubtless you live in an earthly paradise

Which bits do you actually know? Or are you joking?

Just wondering if other countries have this town snobbery, which strikes me as particularly British (or maybe just English, as it does seem to emanate from London). It seems that nowhere is really acceptable to the supreme snob, and reminds me of 'Yes, but not in Bethlehem'.

Hello @ClearFruit . I hear you! I love our part of Coventry. I grew up in a small Warwickshire market town but it was deathly as a teenager. Stuck with very limited rural buses and reliant on lifts from parents. My DC have had many more varied opportunities by living in Coventry. I made a choice to live here having lived abroad and in south London in my twenties. It makes me chuckle that our 3 bed semi with a big garden is worth more than 3 bed semis in the naice Warwickshire market town I grew up in, which ironically is seen as more desirable.

They sound the same - easy to get confused 🤣

Do what you can to stop it affecting you, easier said than done but if your family are happy and thriving then stuff the rude snobs.

I know exactly what you mean OP. We moved to the only area we could afford when we first got together, then had DCs here and have lived here ever since (20 years). In that time the reputation of the area has gone from shithole to highly desirable.
The things is, I loved it then as much as now. It’s always been a good place to live. The downside now is the silly ‘farmers market’ with ludicrously priced sourdough and coffee. Just live where you like and where you can afford and be proud you are living within your means. I don’t envy anybody who moved anywhere because it’s ’the place to be’

Im from Bedford originally and everyone looks down on it second to Luton but I have very happy memories of my time there in the 60s to 80s.
I live in Somerset now.

Yet I live in a ( perfectly ordinary)town where people from the next town call us snobs simply because it isn't a shithole