AIBU to keep my son off school tomorrow?

littleorangefox · 24/08/2025 23:54

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 24/08/2025 20:58

Meh. I know it's just one day but these things add up, I guess. One day out of a step by step maths curriculum - might be OK if he's a whizz, or it might be the difference between him staying afloat for the rest of the module.

One day out of an English planning cycle... I reckon it could be nearing the day they plan their own piece of writing based on the book; so he'll be doing that when the others are starting to write their work and he'll probably lose the publishing day, so missing the chance to hone his handwriting, missing that pride in his work.

Plus the message it sends to an impressionable mind - school doesn't really matter.

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The Scottish curriculum/lesson planning is very different from the English one. There isn't a set plan for what happens at the exact same point every year. And missing one day wouldn't have such a dramatic impact.

SummerFrog25 · 24/08/2025 23:11

Newrumpus · 24/08/2025 20:25

But if it is a state school, this is wasting public resources.

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Say what??

KilkennyCats · 24/08/2025 22:39

Step5678 · 24/08/2025 22:36

This. Have a quality family day OP and enjoy it. Some of these posters need to lighten up!

I have very little memory of my mum as she died when I was young, but everything I do remember is based on a holiday or other special occasion, so I always make sure to prioritise family time. Those memories are precious

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The summer holidays are literally just over and op has just returned from a three day weekend without the child.
Now she wants to prioritise family time on a school day.

Step5678 · 24/08/2025 22:36

BigCheese24 · 24/08/2025 20:04

I think the message would be that family is most important of all?

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This. Have a quality family day OP and enjoy it. Some of these posters need to lighten up!

I have very little memory of my mum as she died when I was young, but everything I do remember is based on a holiday or other special occasion, so I always make sure to prioritise family time. Those memories are precious

HardworkSendHelp · 24/08/2025 22:34

Have the cheeky day off. He is in P4🤣
My daughter had many a cheeky day off from school. I was always very honest with primary school, they actually asked me not be honest and told me to say she was sick in the notes. She never misses work at her part time job and got three A’s in her A levels. The cheeky days off never hurt her.

Cynic17 · 24/08/2025 22:34

If school is open, then that is 100% where your child should be. Do you not value education, OP?

tinyspiny · 24/08/2025 22:31

BigCheese24 · 24/08/2025 20:04

I think the message would be that family is most important of all?

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If family was most important then you’d have spent the weekend with him , ridiculous . Scotland have the right idea for the timing of the holidays , August is invariably the worst of the summer months .

mondaytosunday · 24/08/2025 22:27

You just had the weekend to enjoy as a family. I’d enjoy some adult only time!

TheShed7 · 24/08/2025 22:15

July is the warmest month in England and Scotland.

Also I love getting July off up here, with the sun not setting till about 11pm at times, it's wonderful for the kids to be off.

Dryshampoofordays · 24/08/2025 22:09

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 24/08/2025 20:08

Yes, pissing about with family instead of going to school just because the weather's nice, is definitely most important of all.

He'll be able to tell them that down the benefits office when he's an adult 👍

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Dear lord they want a family day in the sun on August bank holiday, not sack off all their kid’s GCSEs or stop him learning how to read and write 😂

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BigCheese24 · 24/08/2025 22:05

londongirl12 · 24/08/2025 22:01

I find it amazing that’s Scotland kids have been back 2 weeks already! We’re off on our summer holiday tomorrow. 😂 Kids miss most of August, it’s normally the hottest month!

Honestly I agree. Does anyone actually know why England and Scotland have such drastically different summer holidays?

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londongirl12 · 24/08/2025 22:01

I find it amazing that’s Scotland kids have been back 2 weeks already! We’re off on our summer holiday tomorrow. 😂 Kids miss most of August, it’s normally the hottest month!

CurlewKate · 24/08/2025 21:58

BigCheese24 · 24/08/2025 18:53

Tomorrow is an English bank holiday. We live in Scotland. My DH and myself both work for an English bank so we’ve got the day off tomorrow. Because it’s not a Scottish bank holiday, school is on.

Weather looks to be fantastic tomorrow - should I give my son a cheeky day off & we go out and have some fun?

YABU - It’s a school day, send him to school.

YANBU - it’s a one off, have a family day out!

P.s. we don’t get fined in Scotland like they do in England (if that makes a difference? As I wouldn’t lie to the school I would tell the truth about why I was keeping him off.)

Have a lovely day off together. It’ll be fine.

KilkennyCats · 24/08/2025 21:57

But what about famileee time, op?

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BigCheese24 · 24/08/2025 21:41

Well, the packed lunch is made & the uniform is ironed. He’s going to school. We couldn’t think of anything “fun” enough to justify keeping him off.

honestly this thread has genuinely been class Sunday night entertainment though. I love Mumsnet haha

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TheLemonLemur · 24/08/2025 21:21

I am a teacher in Scotland and would say this is the first week for many starting 'properly' getting into the curriculum after transitions and initial assessments. Many primary teachers will be starting issuing homework, spelling words, reading books etc tomorrow. Yes its only 1 day but they are just back and the teacher will have to find time to go over what he has missed

RaginaPhalange · 24/08/2025 21:09

Life's too short, It's only a day, I've taken my dc out of school numerous times before we also live in Scotland.

I'm taking them out for 4 days to go on holiday then back a week then off the October week.

CallieOMally · 24/08/2025 21:03

I don’t think you’re unreasonable but I cannot imagine why you would want to 😂

Marmite27 · 24/08/2025 21:03

Sounds like my boss send him in and have a day date!

Zanatdy · 24/08/2025 21:02

No, not when school has just started back.

AintNoPunshineWhenShesGone · 24/08/2025 21:02

To those saying it's only one day off.

Are you really that oblivious to the fact it's the OP's indifference to school, if you can find something more fun to do that's the problem?

It's the wrong attitude to instill in a child.

Iocainepowder · 24/08/2025 21:01

God i’d be leaping at the chance to just have a child free day with DH.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 24/08/2025 20:58

Meh. I know it's just one day but these things add up, I guess. One day out of a step by step maths curriculum - might be OK if he's a whizz, or it might be the difference between him staying afloat for the rest of the module.

One day out of an English planning cycle... I reckon it could be nearing the day they plan their own piece of writing based on the book; so he'll be doing that when the others are starting to write their work and he'll probably lose the publishing day, so missing the chance to hone his handwriting, missing that pride in his work.

Plus the message it sends to an impressionable mind - school doesn't really matter.

KarmenPQZ · 24/08/2025 20:49

Do you need moral support to spend time with your hubby? If not then son obvs goes to school as required and you guys have a great day off

nocoolnamesleft · 24/08/2025 20:45

So you dumped your kid on someone else all weekend, so want him to bunk off school so you can spend time with him? And you think that will tell him family is most important? Doesn't it tell him, adult time away from him is most important, followed by family time, and that school doesn't matter at all?