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To be fuming with my neighbours

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Wherestheinstructions · 24/08/2025 18:18

This afternoon I’ve overheard my neighbours slagging me off, and I’m f&£*ing fuming about it.
a bit of context… we live rurally but in a barn conversion so they are attached to me.

they are older with no children (well adult children), I am younger with primary aged children. We are inconvenienced daily by noise from their house, the drone of their dryer that’s on all the time, dogs barking, loud music (this can be into the early hours), banging from the cleaners, building work in the house or garden.
It disturbs us (especially when I’m on nights and trying to sleep) but we get on with it because that’s what happens when you don’t live in a detached house, and we don’t want to be complaining.
My children are not out in the garden all day every day, but with it being school holidays they are out there playing more often, I bought them a small bouncy castle as they had got outstanding end of year reports.
On nice dry days they’ll go on it and I do try to keep the noise down. But children playing inevitably make noise.

Anyway, I know they were talking about us as after comments such as “it’s ridiculous “ and “constantly up and down” one of them said “who puts a bouncy castle in their garden?” Some of what they said was inaudible but it has me insenced. I feel like just letting the kids run wild.

Not really sure why I’ve posted other than to vent, sorry it’s long and boring!!

Give me some good comebacks!!!

OP posts:
Daleksatemyshed · 24/08/2025 19:00

@Wherestheinstructions let me run a thought past you, everyone thinks that their neighbours are a bit noisy but don't really think that they might feel just the same about them. You've listed a few things that annoy you, they probably think they're perfectly reasonable but are horrified by the noise of your bouncy castle.
If you're really honest with yourself, are you most annoyed because they're complaining about your DC or because now you know how they really feel?

Seeline · 24/08/2025 18:59

So it requires an engine/pump?

Wherestheinstructions · 24/08/2025 18:45

To be clear we have a good size garden, it’s not a big bouncy castle like one that you’d hire, it’s also not up all the time but tends to be in short bursts of use.

The replies that say don’t react is what I was planning as it’s just not worth falling out over, but I feel very differently about them now.

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BlakeCarrington · 24/08/2025 18:32

Bouncy castle sounds a bit ott. How big is your garden?

Seeline · 24/08/2025 18:31

Is it one of those that has a constant pump going to keep it inflated?
If so, I can understand them being a bit miffed - they are very noisy and cause vibration. On top of the kids making noise.

Can you move it as far away from the neighbours as possible?
And definitely restrict it to perhaps a couple of half hour sessions.

Catsbreakfast · 24/08/2025 18:28

I wouldn’t be thrilled about the bouncy castle noise either. That’s not normal
and expected noise from
neighbours. Speak to them and try find a compromise.

Bitzee · 24/08/2025 18:26

It does a bit like they’re saying pretty much the same as you are thinking about them! Noise does travel in a terrace. Ignore, carry on as you are.

mrscoreytaylor · 24/08/2025 18:25

Smile and wave, smile and wave. That’ll annoy them more lol

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 24/08/2025 18:23

It sounds like they are complaining about you privately, in the same way you are complaining about them? You were not meant to hear it, as much as im sure you would never want them to hear what you have said. There is no issue until they come to you and complain, but as you say, living next door to someone always means you will hear their noise. Just brush it off and carry on with your life.

Cracklingsilverwear · 24/08/2025 18:20

Ignore ignore ignore

carry on as you were.

not worth the stress of arguing with them

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