To be fuming with my neighbours

They didn't say it to your face so just act like you didn't hear them. If they were that fussed they'd speak to you about it.

I think it’s very quick to forget the noise children can make or the things they enjoy doing in the holidays.

It doesn’t sound as if they meant for you hear so presumably they were having a rant in the same way you starting this thread was you doing the same. I’d just have your offload of how annoyed and hurt you are privately and then not raise it with them. For what it’s worth, many children across the country have bouncy castles, trampolines, paddling pools, various entertainment in their garden. Those children will be making a noise because it’s the summer holidays and they are having fun.

And kids playing out - ok
kids screeching and squealing and parents not giving a shit - not ok and that seems to be the norm nowadays.

Well I’d hate to have to live next door to kids on a bouncy castle ( or trampoline or basketball hoop!)

why not pop round and just talk - say you’re sorry it’s annoying for them and you can understand but also have they ever considered the noise they make ( eg loud music or tumble dryer ) it’s possible they just don’t realise how noise travels ?

Of they don’t modify their behaviour then I wouldn’t be modifying yours

I would not worry about what you heard your neighbours say. They are being unreasonable about your children playing. Trampolines are not noisy - just more fun and laughter for kids. Ignore what you heard and if they do complain to you get right back at them about their noise.

Ignore some of these stupid comments.
don’t make your children play in silence, it’s summer and they should be having fun. It isn’t anti social for children to play. Neighbours who are loud and play music late are anti social. They’re being entitled and clearly have no thought towards disturbing you.
don’t give them the satisfaction of reacting, continue as you were and ignore them.
my neighbours are Aholes, it’s always best to act unbothered as they enjoy the challenge of being called out.
if they ever say anything to you directly inform them that you need to tire them out as otherwise they can’t sleep with the sound of their music and dogs booming through the walls

If you search hard enough you may find they've written down their thoughts about you and published them to the population of the globe 😉

I think that's incredibly inconsiderate of them, tbh. I think I'd have to speak to them about that.

I’d probably be a bit annoyed in your shoes too!

But hopefully they were just getting it out of their system, having a quick moan and then feeling better and moving on with their day. If you’re a considerate neighbour and you can honestly say this is the only real disturbance you cause - well, it’s not a big deal is it? You don’t have it on consistently and it’s a nice thing for the children. Hopefully they feel that way too really and were just venting a bit 🙂 I’d forget I’d heard them too.

Have you not asked them about turning down the music? That would drive me nuts, post suffering for a year with a druggie aggressive upstairs neighbour who put music on so loud it was distorted 7pm-7am every night for a year because we once asked him to turn it down (yes, I see the irony there!) This is the trouble with being attached or even not attached that would still big shite out of me. Going to be extremely careful where I move to next!

J would simply carry on as though you never heard it. After all you were probably not meant to.

If it has a pump to keep inflated then it will be seriously annoying

So your complaining about their noise and they are complaining about yours I'd call that equal move on and ignore.

Everyone talks about everyone else. That’s life. Sometimes charitable, other times in a peeved way.

A bouncy castle next door would make most people peeved.

Dont stress about it, or think differently about them just because they’re human.

This!!

Our next door neighbours have one of the bouncy castles with a pump too. It’s noisy, but it’s not on all the time - and isn’t it nice to think the kids are happy and enjoying themselves. I’d certainly never consider asking them not to use it!

In your situation OP I’d honestly just ignore. They’re a bit noisy, you’re a bit noisy. But that’s just part and parcel of having neighbours. Smile and wave if need be but definitely no more contact than absolutely necessary.

We are inconvenienced daily by noise from their house, the drone of their dryer that’s on all the time, dogs barking, loud music (this can be into the early hours), banging from the cleaners, building work in the house or garden.

OP, have you ever said any of this aloud to a friend, coworker or relative? Can you imagine yourself doing so if perhaps someone was visiting and noted the noise?

They were just trying to have a private moan about the neighbor noise annoyances that you agree are part of life. That's normal - people often feel better if they vent a bit. As long as their behavior towards you and your children is neutral or friendly then just carry on being the same.

This.

Give the kids airhorns. Invite your loudest friends get them drunk and encourage them to bounce too

So, let me get this straight…they are complaining to one another in private, in their own home. Unless things have changed dramatically in the UK overnight, they absolutely have that right to do so. Just as people complain about people they work with, people they saw in Tesco’s, etc when they are at home with their loved ones.

Yet you have a problem with it. And the way you handle it is to complain about them, not just in the privacy of YOUR home, but on a public forum open to the whole world. The irony is obviously completely lost on you.

Face it, not everyone thinks your kids are darlings.