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To want to train as a teacher

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UnrealCity · 24/08/2025 17:02

I am thinking about training as a primary school teacher, I already have a degree so I would be applying for a pgce or similar. I spoke to a teacher friend about it who told me she regrets becoming a teacher and advised me to rethink. Is teaching really that bad? AIBU to think I could enjoy it? I have thought about secondary as well but I've always preferred working with younger children. I would also consider working in a special schooI. I've worked as a support worker for children with special needs for 7 years so I have plenty of experience working with children, and I have volunteered in a primary school, but that's obviously quite different than being a teacher.

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WaryCrow · 01/09/2025 10:54

Difficult to generalise, as you say it very much depends on individual needs. I’ve known some pmld be very violent, some with no warning. Where I was, on the school side we also had 1:1 and 2:1, rarely a 3:1. It’s why I preferred SEN in special schools rather than mainstream, there were physically more adults around in a crisis, and team working is real. But everywhere is cost cutting, minimal staffing levels and gaslighting / bullying to make you accept it.

UnrealCity · 30/08/2025 22:51

Chickenkorma64 · 28/08/2025 02:17

Be aware that if you work in special schools, some children can be violent, either deliberately or because of their needs. Teachers can end of injured/ needing hospital treatment. Small class size does not change some things. I’m surprised no one else has brought this up. This applies to primary age range too.

I do have experience of doing support work with children with SEN, but that's easier in many ways I think as for one thing where I am we work 1:1 with most children, and any children who have significant behavioural issues have 2:1 care. I've never been injured at work (so far!). The likelihood must vary depending on the type of special school and the needs of the children though? Say a PMLD class you would be much less likely to be injured than an SEMH one?

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Slooped · 30/08/2025 22:33

Chickenkorma64 · 28/08/2025 02:17

Be aware that if you work in special schools, some children can be violent, either deliberately or because of their needs. Teachers can end of injured/ needing hospital treatment. Small class size does not change some things. I’m surprised no one else has brought this up. This applies to primary age range too.

And mainstream primary. Not sure if that is what you meant.

ThatGreenFawn · 30/08/2025 22:22

Do not do it. I lasted 10 years, 2 of which were off on (different) maternity leave.
Out of my cohort of 30 only 2 still teach.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 30/08/2025 20:37

I've been a primary teacher for nearly 30 years, 27 in the same lovely school.

The job is so very different nowadays than it was when I started, but I still wouldn't do anything else.

Pieceofpurplesky · 30/08/2025 20:27

Dancingsquirrels · 28/08/2025 03:07

I thought it was only certain subjects eg Maths that have a shortage? Where i live i believe its difficult for primary teachers to find jobs

@DancingsquirrelsI think a lot of teachers if they get a good school stay there! I can't vouch for primary but in secondary it is hard to recruit. When I first started teaching there would be loads of applications - whittled down to a few for interview. More recently for a job at my old place (my job as I am moving on) there were 6 applicants (English) of which 2 were overseas teachers without the correct qualifications, one had been out of teaching a few years and three were trainees. One trainee turned up in jeans and trainers and was sent away almost instantly. One got the job - but in an ideal world they would have sent them away too but know that supply can be a nightmare. They made the comment in the staff room that they were looking forward to a much easier time when they were teaching rather than training. Hmmm.
I wanted to move on to nearer to home, applied for three jobs and was offered interviews at them all. First interview got the job and UP3 without question - which is no longer a guarantee. Supply agencies are crying out for teachers.

Before long there will be a crisis.

tiredandunhappy · 28/08/2025 07:34

I’m in my 10th year. I have never found it too bad (apart from the parents were a nightmare in the private school I worked at), but since going back into state, it’s been fine. Obviously there have been issues such as poor behaviour and less than supportive SLT, but i do think every job must have its bad bits. It’s also not flexible in any way - if you need a day off/time off during term time it’s a nightmare!
It’s not easy, but I’m not sure many careers are. It really does depend on the school you work for though. Good luck.

WaryCrow · 28/08/2025 05:38

Primary mainstream is very much oversubscribed in my area and you won’t get a job in teaching if you don’t have family or socialise with teachers a lot. Skills don’t count for anything. Plenty of TA jobs going because it’s low pay for the workload: try it is my advice. You can always go back to support!

SEN schools are always looking for staff. With a background in support you could get a Ta job in SEN schools relatively easily. Consider though, you must know the kids: how will they respond to being told what to do every day? There’s a high turnover of staff because most get fed up of being beaten up every day, again for low pay.

I never considered secondary as a female who got sexual harassment from lads back in primary school. Teachers are now reporting regular bad and worsening behaviour on secondaries, including sexism . You might be ok with that coming from SEN, you might not. It might be ok if you have a girls school locally.

There is a reason why teaching and health/ social is mostly women workers (with men at the top naturally). Women do shit work for low pay that men don’t even notice and still aren’t noticing as it fails with more women leaving. In summary I’d give it a try - you can always go back to support, it’s the other strongly female profession - but if I had more years ahead of me now I’d look at trades or driving or rail for now.

Dancingsquirrels · 28/08/2025 03:07

Wishihadanalgorithm · 24/08/2025 17:15

I’m going to say do it because we have a massive shortage of teachers and need people to train and be enthusiastic and care about our young people.

As a teacher of 25+ years experience, I would advise you to rethink: teaching can be the best job in the world but. with average length of service only being 5 years, don’t expect it to be your career for life.

I thought it was only certain subjects eg Maths that have a shortage? Where i live i believe its difficult for primary teachers to find jobs

citygirl77 · 28/08/2025 02:55

greengreyblue · 25/08/2025 18:27

17??? I get 12: 6 in summer, 2 at Easter and Christmas and two half terms.

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There are 3 half terms, one in February, one in May and one in October. So you get13. Plus a bank holiday for May Day.

Angelil · 28/08/2025 02:36

Depends totally on your school/SLT and as such I would always urge anyone who feels dissatisfied with teaching to try another school first (especially if they have only ever worked long-term in 1 school).
I have been teaching for 17 years and love it, so I would always say it’s worth training as it is so fulfilling if it does happen to suit you. Even if it doesn’t, I would say it provides valuable transferable skills.

Chickenkorma64 · 28/08/2025 02:17

Be aware that if you work in special schools, some children can be violent, either deliberately or because of their needs. Teachers can end of injured/ needing hospital treatment. Small class size does not change some things. I’m surprised no one else has brought this up. This applies to primary age range too.

NorthenAdventure · 28/08/2025 01:14

UnrealCity · 24/08/2025 18:23

Thanks that's good to hear. 😃 At uni I did joint honours in English Lit and Music. I really enjoyed both subjects, so I'd be happy to teach either one in theory. I'm only five feet tall, though, so I'm not sure about the idea of trying to control a class of teenagers twice my size! 😂 What do you teach, if you don't mind me asking?

Do Music, not English! English teachers' marking loads are insane.

Stiffnewknee · 28/08/2025 00:42

Fifthtimelucky · 27/08/2025 21:51

I agree that it depends on the school.

My daughter has now been teaching for 3 years (secondary). Her school is well run, workloads are not unmanageable, and the SLT is very supportive. She absolutely loves it.

Early days! I’m guessing she’s relatively young too? Teaching is a massively ageist profession and older teachers are actively bullied out. Kids also give older teachers a harder time as well.
Let’s see if she still feels that way in a few years time as she progresses up the pay scale and starts being bullied because she’s too expensive!

Stiffnewknee · 28/08/2025 00:37

Fuck no! Teaching is utterly shit at the moment.

Notellinganyone · 27/08/2025 23:40

@greengreyblue - I get 8 weeks in the summer- 3 for Christmas and Easter and three half terms. Two of the half terms are a week and a half each. Independent school.

Fifthtimelucky · 27/08/2025 21:51

I agree that it depends on the school.

My daughter has now been teaching for 3 years (secondary). Her school is well run, workloads are not unmanageable, and the SLT is very supportive. She absolutely loves it.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 26/08/2025 16:17

I think if you’ve worked in a school and you have Sen experience you’re well informed, I would do on the job training like teach first where you get paid to do it.
a lot of teachers can’t cope due to send children but you’d be ok

greengreyblue · 25/08/2025 22:10

H yeah forgot May but that’s still only 13 not 17.

Meredusoleil · 25/08/2025 21:04

granthamgrizzler · 25/08/2025 20:48

You sure you’re not forgetting one of the half terms? Usually one in Oct, Feb, late May. Three per term (autumn, spring, summer).

You mean one per term or three per year, no?

granthamgrizzler · 25/08/2025 20:48

greengreyblue · 25/08/2025 18:27

17??? I get 12: 6 in summer, 2 at Easter and Christmas and two half terms.

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You sure you’re not forgetting one of the half terms? Usually one in Oct, Feb, late May. Three per term (autumn, spring, summer).

Petrolitis · 25/08/2025 20:16

To counteract all the negativity, one of my oldest friends retrained as a teacher a few years ago and loves it.

He had had very stressful jobs in finance and marketing, had to commute and felt he was missing out on his kids growing up.

The training was obviously challenging but he says the job itself is no where near as stressful as his 20 plus years in commercial roles, he loves getting to know the kids and loves the long holidays.

It wouldn't be for me but he absolutely loves it.

Meredusoleil · 25/08/2025 19:11

I thought state school teachers in England get 13 weeks off per year? We are supposed to have directed time of 1265 hours over 39 weeks. 6 weeks off over summer, 2 each for Christmas and Easter and 3 1 week half terms.

ComfortFoodCafe · 25/08/2025 19:06

Sen school - yes, a million times yes!
Mainstream - no, theres to many children with sen needs and not enough support for you as a teacher to deal with their needs & teach the rest of the class.

Shinyandnew1 · 25/08/2025 18:33

Notellinganyone · 25/08/2025 18:24

The first few years are hard work but I get 17 weeks holiday a year and don’t work most evenings and holidays. I’m efficient, experienced and have strong boundaries so don’t feel overworked.

Where do you teach? In England?

Only teachers in private schools in England tend to have that many weeks off.