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To have just left the pub?

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BouldersRocksStonesPebbles · 24/08/2025 16:50

On holiday. Sight seeing cut short to accommodate the football game this afternoon. It was something DH wanted to see, I would have enjoyed but wasn't fussed and he chose football over it, so it is what it is. I have told DH previously that I am sick of football dictating what we do and this time I said well maybe as we are away you can just miss this game? No.
So we get to the pub. DD is cranky as hasn't eaten. There's nothing there she really wants but settles on chips. We then have to move tables as the waitress comes over to our table and says it's booked at 5. I have no interest in the football and was going to enjoy a coffee and read my kindle.
DH says he's worried about the dogs we have left back at the air b n b . I say ok what do you want to do? No food order at this point. He said - almost in shock - well I am going to stay here! Do you want to go back and dog sit? Well no, not really but I cant be bothered with the bullshit about it so I get up and leave. Tbh I would have left anyway, I didn't want to eat and I am not interested in football. But it was the way he said it in shock like there was any option of him putting his worry for the dogs over his need to watch a football match. It's his dog that is the problem, not mine. My dog was quite happy sleeping on the sofa.
Anyway I had to go back in as I realized I didn't have the keys. And he refused to give them to me! And said he wouldn't give them to me if I was behaving in that manner, walking out and shaking my head (as once again, football comes first! And if I had stayed it would have escalated anyway with DD saying for me to leave to check the dogs so I just thought it's easier to go now. And if anything did happen or would be my fault anyway.). After repeating a few times after he was shaving a go at me about my behavior "are you refusing to give me the keys?" he eventually gave in and gave them to me so I am back here at the b and b.
Was ibu?

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Dartmoorcheffy · 24/08/2025 17:04

Football is important to my dp and he will watch a match while we are on holiday. I will go off and do my own thing. Why didn't you?

Why do you have a dog that you are unable to control around a child?

ZippyPeer · 24/08/2025 17:03

I would be upset by your DH behaviour.

Football is just football, a form of entertainment like fashion or movies. I find people who don't realise that almost embarrassing, like seriously, why are you attaching such emotion to this

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/08/2025 17:00

Why go to the pub in the first place if you weren't up for it? You and DD could have done something else.

legsekeven · 24/08/2025 16:59

It isn’t just two hours though! It becomes the focal point of the day and only one person wants to watch it. Would it really be such a problem for him just once to miss it and check the scores online

BouldersRocksStonesPebbles · 24/08/2025 16:57

I have no issue incorporating football I to the schedule at all. That wasn't the problem. It was the way he spoke to me?

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Doseofreality · 24/08/2025 16:56

I feel sorry for your child.

NoSoupForU · 24/08/2025 16:55

Football is 2 hours out of however long your trip is. I can't really understand how it can't be accommodated amongst the things that you want to do.

I'm a football fan, as is my husband. We support different teams and find no issue whatsoever in incorporating each other's matches into our schedule.

BouldersRocksStonesPebbles · 24/08/2025 16:55

I don't have the strength walk his dog.

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InterestedDad37 · 24/08/2025 16:54

You don't have to put up with that behaviour. 👍

Glitchymn1 · 24/08/2025 16:52

I’d go off with the dog, seems like it would be more fun.

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