To have just left the pub?

Do you not have aTV at the air b n b to watch the footie?

ie why did he have to choose? I’d have told him to go back and dogsit and watch the game on a device if necessary!

I think that you are getting a really hard time here OP - football (indeed, any sport) bores me rigid, as does the notion of sitting in a pub for hours on end so I, too, would have removed myself from the situation to go and do something (anything) more inspiring. Why waste a holiday watching football and wasting time in a pub - both things which can be done at home, if it interests you. Holidays, surely, are the opportunity to see, do and experience things outside your 'norm". And the way your husband petulantluy refused to give you the keys is childish in the extreme!

I couldn't stay married to a man who would make such a show of himself and me by refusing to give the keys and publicly "having a go about my behaviour", especially in front of our child.

I grew up in an environment where one parent dictated the mood of everyone by behaving in a similar manner . It's really awful.

So it's a mutual interest that you both value and accommodate

Not everyone feels that way

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I’d have let him go to the pub and I’d have gone off and carried on with my holiday. He can worry about his dog. Pubs allow dogs .

well no I think that’s a bit much, football seems a red herring. Essentially it’s “let’s all go in here for a couple of hours” and then as soon as you’re all settled “OH I WONDER WHO IS GOING TO GO AND DO ESSENTIAL THING”. Pretty pass-agg.

So you had already agreed to pub, DH & DD to watch football, you to have coffee and read.

He then decided the dogs (mostly his) couldn't be left but he fully expected you to go back and deal with it and was mardy when you didnt immediately jump to what he expected/demanded you do.

When you understandably showed you were happy about thst he then turned it on you and created a huge fuss?

Why are you still there? Id be on my wsy home with dd and my dog. He's a selfish prick.

Why are you both leaving dogs whilst you’re on holiday? Surely the terms and conditions are that the dogs can’t be left alone?

He chooses football over you and the/his dog. What else do you need to know?

He sounds like a useless arsewipe of a man who treats you like a maid. You’re with him because…?

So you had already agreed to pub, DH & DD to watch football, you to have coffee and read.

He then decided the dogs (mostly his) couldn't be left but he fully expected you to go back and deal with it and was mardy when you didnt immediately jump to what he expected/demanded you do.

When you understandably showed you were happy about thst he then turned it on you and created a huge fuss?

Why are you still there? Id be on my wsy home with dd and my dog. He's a selfish prick.

He's a twat. You should have just sat back down and said OK. If he was worried about his dog he could have gone to check.
I may be biased because I hate football and would have organised something else for me to do.

I think its a bit of a mountain out of a molehill...both dd and dh wanted to watch the football, you were the only one who didn't

You were going to leave anyway as you weren't interested in the football (" I would have left anyway, I didn't want to eat and I am not interested in football. ")

You stormed out of the pub, shaking your head at the fact "football comes first " but you were the only one who didn't want to watch it? The other 2 people did.

Yeah, he should have given you the keys but you should have done what you wanted instead of going to the pub in the first place. Then you wouldn't have been there and he would have had to come up with something for the dogs himself as you wouldn't have been there to ask.

I'm not a lover of football but if we're away during a match the pub is usually chosen soon after arrival ,whoever has the best screen and we all go and eat , drink and watch. It's easy getting caught up in the excitement of it. He should have given you the keys was he joking with you ?

My DH loves F1 and if there'a a race on when we are away we always find a bar where it is screening so he can watch it. I don't particularly enjoy it but am happy to sit with a couple of drinks for an afternoon. I think it would depend on how long the holiday was for; if it were a few days and one of the afternoons was spent watching sport then I might not feel so accommodating. I enjoy doing things on holiday that he doesn't particularly like visiting galleries etc which he is happy to do because I want to.

I think the real problem here is your DH behaving like an idiot and not giving you the keys - I would be wondering if this is typical behaviour from him?

He was being an arse about the keys but why bother going with them to a pub on holiday just to sulk when you wanted to go and do some sightseeing?

Go and sightsee, why must you always be together?

I started off thinking there’s no goodwill in your relationship. I ended thinking there’s active disdain. (I’d disdain any man who acted like a selfish toddler over football, but sadly it sounds like he doesn’t like you much either.)

I was on his side until he refused to give you the keys.

Even if your reaction was OTT and negative you are allowed to leave if you want. And you’re allowed to be annoyed - although I don’t see a couple of hours in a pub with football in as an issue.

To you it is.

And why are you leaving your dogs behind all day while you go out sight seeing. Surely you should take them with you. I don't know any air bnb which would allow you to leave your dogs there while you are out.

Missing a game is never an option. Especially not when the season has just started. If you knew his team was playing, who not make plans to do something fun with your kid away from his grumpiness? Never assume that a game can just be missed because you're not interested.

Really you should have said "oh ok then I'll keep sitting here" and bought some more chips.

If he's worried about the dog he knows what he can do.

If you can't walk it, what good would you going back have done anyway? Did he think they were going to wreck the place?

You should've just gone with DD somewhere else or home as soon as he declared he wished to watch the game. Ignoring what he said about the dogs.

He acted an arse about the keys though. That was just childish and awkward.