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Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

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CrashBambiCoot · 24/08/2025 14:19

my sister visits my house around 3 times a week. Every time she comes she takes the piss out of my coffee calling it “half a cup of coffee” etc

She last visited Friday where I made her a coffee and she snapped “oh come on, fill it up for fucks sake” saying I’d only half filled the mug (I hadn’t).

This morning she turns up. I make coffee, as I was taking it into the living room she looks into the mugs and screams “half a cup of coffee”. I snap back “I don’t fill it to the top so it doesn’t get spilled! Nobody fills coffee right to the top” so she started dancing around me acting crazy shouting “ooo don’t spill it” etc before suddenly lunging at me and shouting in my face - coffee got spilt.

Now I’ve said I’m not making her coffee anymore. That’s it. Sick of the piss taking and ranting and raving. DH witnessed all this and basically joined in with her. She’s 42, DH is 50.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

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ChilliChoco · 26/08/2025 00:32

People- Op has not replied to one post since she posted. I wonder why...

Ladamesansmerci · 26/08/2025 00:11

She's unhinged. The coffee thing isn't relevant. She is a guest in your home, who you are kindly getting a drink for, and she's being rude af.

Messycoo · 26/08/2025 00:08

Tell her to fk off and make it herself !

HevenlyMeS · 25/08/2025 23:39

Yes I'm confused why too
God Bless Her
Seems like bullyish behaviour
Gosh if one of my family members only 1/2 fills my cup, I just politely request if I can add some more water please
Because it's just unique preferences & I'm told "'Yes of course, go ahead"' or even kindly offer to add some more water themselves
I completely comprehend no one is trying to deprive me & they know there's enough water in the kettle to suit all of our preferences
Mutual respect
I'm praying they both see the light & apologise
I'm shocked original commenter's husband joined in, ganging up
So unkind😢
You deserve much better original commenter
God Bless You
💚🕯️💚

Anyahyacinth · 25/08/2025 23:36

therealduchess · 25/08/2025 22:38

I was thinking along similar lines.
OP, is it possible that your sister & husband have snapped over a building resentment? I have a friend with OCD & her sister won't visit her at home because she once spilt a glass of water and my friend went nuts about it!

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Depends who's doing the tidying up doesn't it?

MsMiniver · 25/08/2025 23:35

My sister once said “is there a drought?” to me when I made her a not full enough cup of tea in about 1993. This was the ideal combination of passive aggressive and humorous that seems to get things done in our family. I’ve never made anyone a not full enough beverage since.

MumWifeOther · 25/08/2025 23:34

She sounds unhinged and I probably wokld have thrown the coffee in her face.

Anyahyacinth · 25/08/2025 23:33

CrashBambiCoot · 24/08/2025 14:19

my sister visits my house around 3 times a week. Every time she comes she takes the piss out of my coffee calling it “half a cup of coffee” etc

She last visited Friday where I made her a coffee and she snapped “oh come on, fill it up for fucks sake” saying I’d only half filled the mug (I hadn’t).

This morning she turns up. I make coffee, as I was taking it into the living room she looks into the mugs and screams “half a cup of coffee”. I snap back “I don’t fill it to the top so it doesn’t get spilled! Nobody fills coffee right to the top” so she started dancing around me acting crazy shouting “ooo don’t spill it” etc before suddenly lunging at me and shouting in my face - coffee got spilt.

Now I’ve said I’m not making her coffee anymore. That’s it. Sick of the piss taking and ranting and raving. DH witnessed all this and basically joined in with her. She’s 42, DH is 50.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

She's your guest...she gets whats she's given, appallingly rude behaviour...husband sounds disloyal too

Sadworld23 · 25/08/2025 23:27

Sandinyourshoes · 25/08/2025 22:06

I have a problem with full mugs of tea & coffee. Long ago, before mugs, there were cups & saucers. Now I have a little tray with kitchen roll squares for carrying mugs from kitchen to the living room.

Me too, on fact I have a load of them. Act as coasters too when the need arises..

Sadworld23 · 25/08/2025 23:25

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 24/08/2025 14:30

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it???

It is in my house, otherwise you'll get told straight.

Nothing worse that looking forward to a cup of coffee and you get handed 3/4s of a cup.

Glad your life is full of important things like a coffee

DBSFstupid · 25/08/2025 23:19

TomatoSandwiches · 24/08/2025 14:25

Get her a sippy cup just for your house, silly cow.

😂That's so funny @TomatoSandwiches!

lotsofpatience · 25/08/2025 23:15

She is a fucking cunt. Sorry you have to put up with her.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 25/08/2025 23:08

This really isn’t about the volume of tea in the cup
but you know that already

blackpear · 25/08/2025 22:59

I hate being given drinks that are less than 1 cm or so from the rim, but your sister's behaviour is absolutely unhinged.

Theunamedcat · 25/08/2025 22:47

Divorce the bullying cunt of a husband he can marry your sister and spill coffee forevermore

If you allow her back in make a pot of coffee (yes that's a thing) put her cup down fill it to the brim and whenever she spills it tell her that's why you give her half a cup because she makes such a fucking mess

DeeKitch · 25/08/2025 22:44

Your floors/furniture, your coffee, your measurements

she can go without

therealduchess · 25/08/2025 22:38

naffusername · 25/08/2025 22:20

Why does Hyacinth Bucket to mind?

I was thinking along similar lines.
OP, is it possible that your sister & husband have snapped over a building resentment? I have a friend with OCD & her sister won't visit her at home because she once spilt a glass of water and my friend went nuts about it!

Hollybobs1 · 25/08/2025 22:38

She'd be permanently banned from my house after that behaviour. She sounds like a fruit loop.

BauhausOfEliott · 25/08/2025 22:32

She shouldn’t have wound you up about it, but you do sound really uptight.

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 25/08/2025 22:24

I’d have stopped making her coffee a long time ago.

naffusername · 25/08/2025 22:20

Why does Hyacinth Bucket to mind?

JustSawJohnny · 25/08/2025 22:14

This isn't actually about coffee, is it?

What I'd want to know is why she feels the need to needle you, mock you and try to get you to bite.

Is there a deeper issue she's angry about or does she get something out of pissing you off?

Pinkdhalia · 25/08/2025 22:12

Don't stand for that insulting behaviour from her and definitely not your husband! She isn't welcome tell her! if you do let her in give her bottled water ! She doesn't deserve to be offered a cup of coffee. You need to have strong word with your husband it's rude for him to behave like a child.

Sandinyourshoes · 25/08/2025 22:06

I have a problem with full mugs of tea & coffee. Long ago, before mugs, there were cups & saucers. Now I have a little tray with kitchen roll squares for carrying mugs from kitchen to the living room.

Pistachiocake · 25/08/2025 22:02

You could bring in a tray with a coffee pot, mugs and milk, so those people who like it really full can do it that way without the risk of spills (yes, it's annoying to have to keep doing extra cleaning, and could get expensive depending on your flooring).
But after the way this person spoke, I wouldn't feel like bothering. Is she ill? This reminds me of a member of my family who got crazy about coffee not being hot enough (literally steam coming out as it was freshly made), and it turned out she did have a neurological condition. Weird that a coffee situation was the first sign.

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