Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

Why hasn’t the OP been back??

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It's basically just bullying - from both your sister and your husband.

What sort of relationship did you have as children - did she always have tantrums at your expense and you got told off for it? There is something very wrong with the family dynamic here.

Don't make her coffee and don't make her welcome in your home.

Yes people fill it up to the top but people also don't go to anothers home making demands and being strange. Since she acted a fool, no more coffee and tell her to make sure if she brings her own, to use a container with a lid or don't bring it in.

I wish these types of things were my biggest concerns in life. How can I make the necessary changes?

I can't believe anyone would post something this stupid

My thoughts exactly had a fil like this, he didn't do it me more than once. Your sister sounds unhinged.

Nine pages and 426 replies at the time I post this, and the OP hasn’t been back once. I doubt her sincerity, to put it diplomatically. Undiplomatically, what utter bollocks.

They sound a pair of weird loons. Both would be our the door.

In the situation I mentioned, it was half a glass of water over a hard floor surface. Friend's sister mopped it up straightaway but that was it...never invited back.

How desperate is she for coffee? Ffs, as others have said, she could have a second cup if she 'needed' one. This sounds like she's using this as an excuse to have a go at you. As for your husband being in cahoots with her, that's odd behaviour too, they're nothing going on between them is there?

@CrashBambiCoot This, OP. Their behaviour is unacceptable regardless to how much you fill the mug.

I generally do about 1-1.5cm from the top, more if there is a mobility issue for them.

Yes, I’ve sometimes gently ribbed someone for it being low by my standards, needing a step ladder, sometimes I remind them not to leave room for milk (as I don’t have milk and people are creatures of habit), but ultimately one should accept it with gratitude, if you’re really fussed, get up and top it up with a bit more water yourself!

I’d suggest OP, that you take a step back and look at the family you have, I suspect this sort of behaviour is not really new and that you’ve unintentionally allowed quite a lot of this in the past.

Develop your boundaries, learn how to assert yourself, and please don’t tolerate this sort of shitty behaviour from your sister again, in all honesty, I’d be tempted to go no contact, and certainly not from your husband!! He certainly needs a firm conversation, however, sadly, I suspect you may have one a bit like your sister. What you choose to do with that realisation is up to you.

Either way, they went too far. That was not ok. Know your worth.

💯 these are getting more and more ridiculous. How do people honestly get through life 😂

Correct gap

Can you not say "you're welcome to a 2nd even 3rd cup" ?

I'd also have yr husband make the coffee, when she's present. Require him to clear up any spills.

She,s ill or ignorant spoilt, if someone gave me a coffee i,d be grateful,is she jealous of you and wanting to pick? my sociopath bruv every time he came had to find fault with my whole life even when i was doing fine… keep her at arms length and discuss with hubby how wrong her behaviour is, stay strong, remember he who laughs last laughs longest girl x

Why is someone reacting they way over coffee. However someone serves you a drink they should be grateful. The cheek of it. And your husband joining in is not helping. Where’s the unity in that? Both need to grow up. Tell her she apologies or she doesn’t come back.

I really couldn’t give a shit how my coffee comes, or even if I get a coffee or not. I have bigger things to worry about. This is a very strange reaction to me.

If my sister complained more than once about how I made the coffee then every time she came I'd say "if you want a coffee help yourself". She is obviously bat shit crazy, but for your husband to then join in! That's awful op.

I like a strong black coffee, like an Italian caffè lungo, so only half fill the mug usually. If be happy to make a guest a longer coffee like an Americano - but not if they were being a dick about it!

A sibling of mine who behaved like the OP's sister wouldn't be visiting my home for a while. If and when I did allow them back, they'd be making their own coffee and I'd insist they carry it around on a tray, pointedly reminding them they have form for spilling it.

That would be the last time she ever set foot in my house.

She sounds unhinged

There’s nothing worse, is there?? Nothing else compares to a cup of coffee that is not filled to the brim? 🙄

@XDownwiththissortofthingX 'Nothing worse'. Really? 'Nothing???

Siblings can be right twats sometimes.
Just tell her to either make her own or bring round a supersized mug.

My family sometimes call my serving "A funeral cup" because I don't fill it all the way. But a little banter is one thing what your describing is hysterical. She wouldn't get back in my house if she acted like that.