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Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

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CrashBambiCoot · 24/08/2025 14:19

my sister visits my house around 3 times a week. Every time she comes she takes the piss out of my coffee calling it “half a cup of coffee” etc

She last visited Friday where I made her a coffee and she snapped “oh come on, fill it up for fucks sake” saying I’d only half filled the mug (I hadn’t).

This morning she turns up. I make coffee, as I was taking it into the living room she looks into the mugs and screams “half a cup of coffee”. I snap back “I don’t fill it to the top so it doesn’t get spilled! Nobody fills coffee right to the top” so she started dancing around me acting crazy shouting “ooo don’t spill it” etc before suddenly lunging at me and shouting in my face - coffee got spilt.

Now I’ve said I’m not making her coffee anymore. That’s it. Sick of the piss taking and ranting and raving. DH witnessed all this and basically joined in with her. She’s 42, DH is 50.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

OP posts:
Arlanymor · 24/08/2025 14:28

Why did your sister and your husband behave like a pair of goady bullies?

That's appalling.

I wouldn't want to see someone who treated me so awfully - and I certainly wouldn't continue to make her any refreshments.

MaryGreenhill · 24/08/2025 14:26

They didn't treat you very nicely @CrashBambiCoot . I would never make another cup of anything for her nor your DH . Let them stew .

TomatoSandwiches · 24/08/2025 14:25

Get her a sippy cup just for your house, silly cow.

doodleschnoodle · 24/08/2025 14:24

Is she unwell? That’s insane behaviour. The correct response when someone makes you a coffee is ‘Thank you’.

Gowlett · 24/08/2025 14:23

Glad it’s not just me! Solidarity, OP.

DH fills tea up, leaves the teabag in.

Then adds milk… Tea all over the counter.

Then spills it on the floor / coffee table.

I always tip some out when I catch him!

Also fills kettle to the max for one cuppa…

YetiRosetti · 24/08/2025 14:23

Her behaviour is awful regardless.

as it happens I do still coffee to near the top, about a cm below the rim. Doesn’t excuse her batshit and rude conduct though.

TheMadGardener · 24/08/2025 14:23

I wouldn't be allowing her into my house if she treated me like that. Why are you putting up with this treatment and allowing her back in to repeat it? She needs to apologise.

HoppingPavlova · 24/08/2025 14:22

What is your definition of right to the top? I would fill it/expect it to be filled to about 1.5cm below the rim of the cup, 2cm at absolute most. Filling it right to the very top so you had to sip it before you could move it would be odd though.

Glenthebattleostrich · 24/08/2025 14:22

She wouldn't be back in house if she behaved like that regardless of how much coffee was in a mug. The husband would be out the door too but I don't tolerate arseholery.