Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

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oops! please ignore.

Her behaviour is unhinged but I DO fill my coffee right to the top (I obviously leave a little gap, but Yh FULL). 😅😅😅

She literally sounds insane

Wow. Their behaviour is ridiculous. But to also answer your question, we have a saying in our family, where we call it 'low tide' if it is not filled up enough. It should be about 1cm from the top at most. Leaves enough room not to spill when moving it, but still get a decent cuppa in. So, I think you probably don't fill it enough, but their reaction was disgusting.

Wow looks like I’m in the minority, but my whole family would call you out if you served half a cup of coffee. We say “the tides out” if you can’t take a bit of a rubbing from your sister and husband for serving a lame drink who can you take it from? This whole problem wouldn’t have happened if you’d filled your sister cup nearly to the top the first time she asked

Why are you letting this annoying person visit you three times a week? This is so excessive.

Tell her to make her own coffee. What an idiot.

She’s been rude and become deranged - no, I wouldn’t make her any more drinks.

I don't think it's abnormal to not fill the coffee cup to the absolute top BUT half a cup is a little stingy. How large is the cup?

OP didn't come back. Weird

If you have known this would be the reaction why not use a bigger cup that would accommodate more liquid. I hate a small cup too although I think your sister should 1) apologise 2) bring her own mug and 3) buy you some nice coffee.

You could say that of an awful lot of threads on here, and stuff that people talk about on o5er social media or in real life, @ExiledRoyal.

People carry on having their own problems and woes, and there’s no reason why they can’t discuss them. It doesn’t mean they don’t care about the bigger issues in the world - but no-one can focus on the worst news all the time.

When I see someone saying ‘First world problems’ as you did, I do wonder if they are trying to silence all conversations apart from those deemed sufficiently worthy.

Well, there's a bit of a margin between half a measure and a cup being a spill hazard. So if someone is repeatedly suggesting your levels are too low, to them, they probably are. But more to the point if they keep saying it and you don't add more coffee after them saying that, or change how much goes in the cup next time they visit: 1. It's a bit patronising as an adult suggesting they can't manage a normal amount in a cup. 2. They feel un-listened to if each time they flag their unhappiness, they just get the same response. If your not willing to change how you serve someone a beverage after they are unhappy with it, it can seem a little like you're suggesting you know better than them. In terms of the response, the way your sister behaved sounds like someone with ADHD or some neurodivergence. They can feel injustice more acutely and respond with "riskier" behaviour that feels over the top in situ, but it might have been annoying them over time. Of course it might not be. But even if it is, its not how to behave is it? just trying to suggest what could be behind behaviours.

First World Problems, aren't they? Families getting blown to pieces in Gaza, and you're squabbling about coffee spills. Get some perspective and try harder to get on.

Sister or not, I'd top that CF up with piss.

Is she 45 or 4.5?

Is she 45 or 4.5?

Your tea is frothy with the frothing spittle of rage! I'm with the OP on this, obviously.

You are, yes, that’s the lamest excuse I’ve ever heard - my husband does the same. Just fill it and if it gets spilled wipe and that’s it, why make such a big fuss out of it, sheesh!

Extremely rude and childish behavior; I am sorry, OP. I am a coffee addict, and like to drink very good quality and strong coffee; I usually make it in a Moka pot. I don't expect others to serve me coffee to my exacting standards, however. I usually have plenty before I leave the house in the morning, and will politely sip whatever (and how much) I'm given when I'm visiting others, in meetings, and going to events. It's always nice to be offered coffee, and a social ritual, and to critique blights the encounter. I also have a Nespresso machine and a milk frother, and keep three different strengths of coffee pod in stock to offer to guests.

I also believe that when one visits family members, it's important to be polite and not take relationships for granted. Ditto in marriages; your husband should not have joined in, but should have told your sister to stop behaving so stupidly. I'd stop offering her coffee or any beverages when she comes over, and if she starts deriding you about other matters, I'd ask her to stop visiting.

Just Mellow Birds

I’d see her next time with an expresso cup of coffee

"Listen Sis, in your home you serve coffee any way you want. In my home, if you want coffee, shut the f up and drink it as I prefer to serve it. If you want more, you know where the pot is." To my husband, "if you can't see the logic in the way I serve coffee or the insanity in the way she just acted, then shut the hell up, and mind your own business."

If this ALWAYS happens with your screwy sister, then YOU'VE allowed it to go too far.

Well without seeing where you fill a cup too we can’t comment however, the way she reacted is nuts!