Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

She sounds unhinged

I think you need to take a photo of your standard mug of coffee so we can judge .

I don't know what you mean by "right to the top"

Take a photo

So if you know your sister wants her coffee done a certain way, you would purposefully make it the opposite way because you think it shouldn’t be done your way? It’s a very simple request - fill up the cup to the top. There is no reason why you can make her what she requested other than to be spiteful on purpose. I find that very odd behaviour on OP’s side.

Oh get over it.

I'd tell you - and OP's sister - to make your own bloody drinks if you're going to be that fussy.

You mean it's not?

Really it’s not normal at all to lose your temper over the level of your drink

that is the epitome of not normal.

What is normal is just to accept that when you go to Xs house you’ll get coffee lower in the cup than at yours. If you are losing your temper over this and screaming in people’s face you need to question why you are getting so worked up over such a triviality and consider talking to someone about your disregulation.

Next thing you’ll be trying to tell us it’s normal to punch your neighbour because they keep parking outside your house

Then just make your own coffee or go in the kitchen and fill it up yourself. No one should be behaving like an unregulated toddler over a beverage not made to your liking.

Your sister sounds a bit nuts but I can see why she went a bit crazy if she asked you to fill her cup to the top and you kept doing what you thought was best for HER coffee. You kept doing it on purpose so she just reacted after getting fed up with you.

Filled or not filled is not the issue for me here. If a family member doesn’t like how a drink is made once, surely they should know that they just make it themselves the next time. DH and your sister are rude twits, and should be making everyone’s drinks!

That is aggressively weird. You think it’s ok to throw coffee over someone because they repeatedly didn’t follow your instruction? Are you actually ok (for real). Have you no understanding of how to behave?

Are you a ‘they made me do it’ type of person?

No it’s not? It’s not understandable for anyone to lose their temper because they don’t like the way a drink is served. That’s mental.

I agree with this. I fill it enough so I have to move slowly. If your coffee is a good 1-2 inches from the top I'd say that was weird.

Her and your DH's behaviour is poor though.

You said if you had no choice but to accept. If you refuse the offer how can they be wearing the contents? So the only way they can do that is if you accept the offer of coffee then throw a hissy fit.

Yes, get some pass-agg personalised coffee thermos cups for DH and DSis. Act really genuinely overly concerned with their coffee comfort and remorseful. Basically, fight crazy with crazy as it’s the only way.

Side note; so odd your DH was supportive of that. On Mumsnet that would be an affair red flag.

I do make tea for myself I make just over half a cup as that is usually all I mange to drink before it goes cold. I’d fill it up for guests. I’d rather not spill hot tea on myself either so it still wouldn’t be right to the top. Maybe she can collect it herself from the kitchen, then it’s her problem. I hope they both apologise.

Maybe they are starting a few threads. There’s another about an OP’s sister going through OP’s dh’s phone. One opening post then silence.

Edit: that one might be genuine

She's your sister and visits several times a week, surely she knows where everything is?! She can make her own coffee by now.

But i must say, the OP made me laugh!!

Did you miss the "I'd refuse your offer" part entirely?

Yes, I expect a cup of coffee to be a full cup. I'm not a child and so I'm capable of holding and drinking from a cup. But if you feel so strongly then stop offering coffee.

Entitled? No, but as the post you've quoted makes clear, if it happened repeatedly then yes, it would be perfectly understandable for someone to eventually get sick of it and lose their temper.

This isn't about coffee. She sounds like an unpleasant, ungrateful guest. Three visits a week sounds like a nightmare. Can you stop inviting her and go to hers instead, but less? She needs to sort herself out, and your husband should be on your side. Sorry, sounds awful.

This whole scenario sounds mad (and slightly bullying behaviour from the pair of them - I bet they think they are hilarious). Restrict coffee drinking to the kitchen. Is she normally so opinionated/picky? Your DH sounds a delight as well.

If my granddad received a cup of tea with anything more than a 1cm gap at the top he would request a saw so that he could cut the top off the cup... Done in a jokey way and he'd get himself a top up if he wanted more without a song and dance.

For me I can only seem to drink half a cup of any hot drink, so the size of the cup and whether it's completely to the top or not is irrelevant to me as I'm only going to drink half of what's provided in any case. If it's full to the brim though I'm as likely as not to spill some of it on the counter/floor as I move.

Really? You think you are entitled to throw a cup of coffee over someone because they haven’t made it how you like?

Well, this thread has been an eye opener! I generally fill up to about 2cm from the top, whether I

As is someone else on here. Who’d think a half filled cup of coffee you’re not even paying for would bring out such odd and unhinged behaviour.