Sister went nuts over a cup of coffee

It all sounds crazy.

MIL says “oh are Fulham playing away” if the cups not full. I mean personally I fill cups up as the vast majority of people don’t spill them. But your sister is rude to keep pointing it out.

Ooh look op never came back

It’s the definition of first world problems.

This is incredibly weird. But also, why dont you just fill it up?

An espresso is generally 25-30 ml. It's usually served in an espresso cup, though.

I would pay to watch DS and DH going into a bar in Italy, ordering a coffee, and getting 25ml in a 75ml cup.

very obviously your sister is out of order for acting like that in your home.
But additionally I have to say that giving half a cup all the time would really grind my gears. I wouldn’t say anything the first time but if it were my sister I definitely would be saying something eventually. It’s bloody ridiculous.

I hope your sister cleaned up the spilled coffee after behaving like an absolute clown. She’d be getting a plastic beaker of water next time. DH would never get anything made for him ever again.

Why on earth do you want her in your house never mind make her coffee??

Just tell them both to make there own coffee from now on;
"Make your own, that way you won't need to be utterly fucking ridiculous about the way I make it."
or, "No more maid service & free coffee here."

They were having coffee, not tea @MaryGreenhill 😜

But in all seriousness, the sister is probably more to be pìtied, than angry at, for her ignorant behaviour.

However, @CrashBambiCoot's husband was just being vile. Depending on whether being vile was an extremely unusual thing for him to be, or whether it is such normal behaviour nowadays that the OP only just registered it, would affect how I would proceed - if logistically possible.

If his behaviour was so unusual that the OP was struggling to believe that it was her husband that was saying those things, then later on, when they were on their own, and everything had calmed down, I think that she should sit down with him, with no distractions, and ask him why he had behaved in such a way. The OP would obviously then have to decide whether his explanation made any sense to her, and was in any way something that she could forgive in the right circumstances.

On the other hand, if his response has become what the OP has realised is his normal type of behaviour these days, then if she thinks that she may still have some positive feelings towards him, she should maybe ask him to come to couple counselling with her, and if he refuses, or if the OP knows that she no longer loves or needs him, then the answer is both straightforward, and obvious...

I'm astonished at the amount of replies saying that they also dislike an unfilled cup, as if it excuses the arseholery of your DSis and DH!
Baffling. Do people really care this much about hot drinks?

Your sister is rude. This is sibling stuff. Your DH is a toolbag for taking her side.
Get them to make their own coffee from now on. If she's there 3 times a week she should be making it herself anyway.

I don't fill to the top. About half an inch below rim. And I pour out the extra if it is too high. Tell your S not come round any more and tell your DH a) make your own coffee, b) sleep in the spare room until you apologise (with chocolates, flowers and expensive outing of your choice, OP) for such juvenile behaviour - your acceptance of apology does not include reinstatement of cups of coffee for the twit.

I don’t fill mine up, I like a good dose of milk and sugar to make it drinkable!

and I’m a clumsy old sod.

They both sound like a pair of twats. Tell to make their own bloody drinks in future.

In my house this is called an “Auntie Pat” in homage to an aunt who always filled a cup about halfway.

Your sister sounds like a bit of a knob.

LOVE this idea! 😂Definitely do this OP - and as you hand it to DS say, "there's your full f*cking cup!"

I disagree, if they respected her and thought she wouldn’t tolerate their behaviour they wouldn’t have said anything….bullies only bully people that they think they can, they never try it on people who they think will fight back

I have recently changed coffee machine, new one spits out about 3 mls of coffee so I have to hit the button a few times to get a decent cup but still not even half way full. The other coffee machine did it one go, so I'm going back to the original coffee machine.

If it's an instant coffee thing I would hate a little cup of coffee but it is unreasonable to expect it to be filled to the rim for the reason you say.

BUT if I went to a coffee house I would expect a decent fully filled cup of coffee, I would want my moneys worth, spill risk or not.
So depends on the circumstances.

The OP sounds anything but a walkover. If she was easily pushed around, she wouldn't have refused the SIL's repeated requests for a full mug of coffee. Someone who treats other adults like children who can't be trusted not to spill their drinks is hardly a pushover.

Sadly I think you are absolutely right.

its not normal to fill coffee right to the top is it??? And the hysterics is certainly not normal is it?

Filling a mug - normal.

Hysterics over a half filled mug - not normal.

Why did your sister and your husband behave like a pair of goady bullies?

that’s exactly what they were, I think they think the OP is a walkover, they wouldn’t have done it otherwise

MN never fails to shock me at how rude some people's "loved ones are" even my enemy's are less cruel.

Fill it to the brim on a saucer and hand it other. If she says it will spill just say "don't be so fucking ridulous and hysterical. Like that's even a thing".

Your sister is unhinged and I struggle to belive family act like this and it tolerated. Unbelievable.