DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

No idea, I was shopping. She could have for all I know. Again it’s ok to have a different viewpoint. There are no secrets in this household.
Yours is private and you don’t want people to look at it, I’ll still wonder what’s so incriminating though 🤣but I wouldn’t nose through someone’s phone either.

OP’s DH hasn’t spoken to her in two weeks!!!!! Speaks volumes in my opinion.

Yes, unsurprisingly OP hasn’t been back and I rather suspect won’t do so

Not bothered, they’re boring. Photos of the dog or DD on holiday- that’s it. Banking is on there but you’d need a code for that.
I’d say the same thing in real life to on here, I just don’t care that much anymore.

There's been some odd threads today where poster drops something to stimulate debate and vanished. I suspect this is one.

You can’t give someone permission to use someone else’s phone? You should have asked him @Evkopk

Having given it to your DS why was she looking at photos and not signing in to her email?

Seems odd to me. Although he might have something to hide.

However, not talking to you for two weeks is OTT.

I mean I wouldn’t hand over my husbands phone but it honestly wouldn’t bother me if he gave someone mine. I don’t get why people are so guarded with their phones if they’ve got nothing to hide. I give mine to my adult kids all the time.

Just because you have access to your husband's phone doesn't mean you have the right to give anyone else access to it. It's still not your property. He's right to be upset about that.

The silent treatment is abuse, though, and he's wrong for that.

I really can't be arsed, but I have a vague memory that gMail and Microsoft mandated the use of 2FA a while back after a spate of hackings.

This means you'd need your 2FA device to complete a sign in from a new device (or browser).

I know it can definitely be mandated by organisations that use O365 and gSuite as I have done it in both.

The public service bit of this is to urge folks to setup 2FA wherever they can. It's not 100% foolproof, but it's better than people who haven't.

Fair! 😄

What were you doing that was so important that you couldn’t let your sister use your phone? Do you run the country?

How would you feel if your husband gave your phone to his brother? And don’t do the whole “cool wife” thing that you’d be totally ok with it/you do that all the time. You wouldn’t even let your own sister use yours. You could have. Whatever you were doing was not that important.

Surely you would just log in to your email account

He blames you because you gave her his phone, it was a big invasion of privacy

YABU
Not the point of the thread, but can someone explain how to check your emails on someone else's phone please? Not that I can think of a reason to do so.

Your mistake was by not finding her a charger or lending her yours and you using his.
Her mistake was by being nosy.
DH is being OTT by being silent for 2 weeks though.

I don't think couples should have access to each others phones. It's a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

Jeez, can people not read?

MN wouldn't be any fun if people did.

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Jeez, can people not read? It's not his sister, it's not his daughter, it's not his mother - it's his sister-in-law.

I wouldn't mind too much someone borrowing my phone to check something quickly, but I absolutely wouldn't expect them to be rifling through my photos.

Why didn’t you ask him first? She was not cheking emails she was scrolling through photos which are actually a big insight into his life, likes, dislikes etc. Who knows why he is so livid maybe he is having an affair or maybe he was planning a fab surprise either way you nearly ruined it is my guess.

"DH, I appreciate I was very much in the wrong here. I won't do that again, but can't turn back time and un do it, however much you punish me with the silent treatment. So, either you get past this, act normally around me again, or you decide its so unforgivable you leave me. Because it's completely impractical to be married to a person you refuse to speak to"

All three of you are out of order but you committed the first sin by unlocking the phone

Why is your sister looking up through your husband’s photos? So rude! I don’t think it’s that bad for you to give her the phone to use for checking her emails, but she has a bloody cheek looking through his phone and looking at anything else other than an empty browser to open her email. Is she normally like that? Maybe that’s why your DH is so upset with you. If I were you, I would be pissed off with your sister. Has she apologies for snooping?

Complete invasion of privacy, I've taken photos of private documents to send to accountants, close ups of skin rashes to send to GP etc, nothing dodgy but stuff I definitely wouldn't want to share with in-laws. I'd be pissed off if I was your DH too, although if no other issues would have got over it by now.

Look, you should have given it, she shouldn’t have looked but he’s been blanking you for two weeks. That’s not normal. You need apologise and he needs to get the fuck over it. Very bizarre.

Why was she looking through his photos when she said she needed to check her emails? She sounds like a nosey cow and no wonder he was livid with her and you for giving her the phone because she probably has form for being nosey. She had no reason to be going through his photos.