DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

You lent his phone to someone else who, in turn, looked through his photos?

He is not the problem here.

The level of silent treatment is utterly ridiculous. Even though you really should not have handed over his phone to your sister.

Are there any other issues in your relationship? This feels pretty extreme. Is he staying g elsewhere, or just ignoring you in the house?

You took the piss, you abused his trust, what do you expect, has your sister apologised, I would block you too, you and your sister can't be trusted, why did you even think it was OK and why didn't you stop your sister scrolling.

Have you sincerly apologised or just said sorry without any insight into what you and your sister did was wrong? From your post, it doesn't seem that you understand why he is so livid. The whole thing is dodgy.
On the other hand, your husband's silent treatment is also not ok. You both need to be mature and have a honest conversation, first by accepting your mistake.

My DH knows my pin but I'd be bloody furious if he let his siblings snoop.through it. What on earth processed you to give it to your sister? You should have given her yours or she had to wait.

You're back! Do you accept that what you did was wrong and what your sister did was completely unacceptable? You said you apologized, but how did you frame it? Your posts don't really admit how wrong you were. Has your sister apologized?

Or let the sister borrow a charger to charge her own phone.

Is OP coming back or is this just another interesting first post

I have nothing to worry about on my phone but I’d be annoyed at this. Not to the extent your husband has been which is totally weird but you shouldn’t have done it.

Sounds very odd why not give her your phone and why was she going through his photos? I would be livid with both of you

If the BIL was going through OPs photos in her phone then some of these responses would be very different.

No one would be saying she had something to hide and everyone would be blaming the BIL and DH.

Your sister sounds like a knob. Why did you give her his phone, such a stupid thing to do

Gently, it sounds like you’d let people walk all over you.

I have handed my phone over to shop assistants and gym receptionists etc so they can help me with the apps but if they intentionally started going through my photos or messages, then I would lose my mind.

I wouldn’t go reading someone’s diary or rifling through their drawers and the same respect should be given to someone’s phone.

I have nothing to hide in my house, I would be distraught if a burglar came and ransack my drawers and went through my private belongings.

It's private full stop. I have loads of things on my phone I do not want to share with the world.

If someone gives you their phone to look at 1 photo, you do not scroll photos, you just look at the one showing. It's basic manners, anything else is rude and a gross invasion of privacy. it doesn't matter if you have 2000 photos of your cat, it's private.

He clearly trusts you with his phone and you betrayed that trust, I know some have said he must have something to hide but you had his pin so he must have been ok with you accessing it but not all and sundry. I don't blame him being mad I would be furious

I would be livid, and I would not forgive it for a very long time.

Ngl, I'd be pretty angry to come downstairs and find my BIL casually scrolling through my gallery.

Well if that's the case then that's another story. But we only have what the OP said, and assuming no previous history then his reaction is not appropriate.

Like in all these posts, there is probably a history...

Well we shall have to agree to disagree.

If my DH lent his brother my phone, I'd be pissed off but I certainly wouldn't stop speaking to him for 2 weeks and block him from all family WhatsApp groups. That's just ludicrous.

Why could she not charge her phone - surely you have a charger and you can use the phone once it starts charging. If you don't have the right charger why not lend her your phone?
Your DH's phone is his, it's private. You need to apologise pronto for invading his privacy!

Just for the benefit of some people on here who don't seem to grasp it...

Privacy does not equal cheating/secrets/nefarious behaviour. We all have a right to privacy and it comes in many forms.

And for those saying: "I don't mind giving my kids my phone" - it's apples and oranges. It's his in-law invading his privacy and you don't know whether they even have a good relationship or not. Regardless, she shouldn't have snooped.

Hmm I am in two minds, sure, using the phone wasn’t strictly necessary, and SIL should definitely not have been snooping (unsure why she went from checking her email to checking his photos) but definitely a weird/over-reaction from OPs DH. Personally, if I had nothing to hide, I wouldn’t care if someone needed to use my phone briefly. That was my immediate thought when I read how he reacted - what exactly was he trying to keep hidden in those photos?

How else are we ever going to train "AI" ? Well, for free leastways ?

You were bang out of order