DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

Massive breach of trust. You are in the wrong. Everything else is too difficult to comment on without additional context.

He's in the right but two weeks of ignoring you is too much. Did you apologise properly or did you half-arse it because you don't really think it was that bad of you or her? Your sister is incredibly disrespectful, I would have been fuming in your husband's place (despite having nothing dodgy on my phone), and I would expect a sincere apology from the pair of you.

Just break up already. How utterly ridiculous of you, your sister and him with the silence.

I'd be so angry if you did this to me. How dare you.

I don't suppose I'd just cool off either. You've allowed his privacy to be invaded entirely without his permission and you think he should just get over it??

I don't have anything to hide so it's not about that. I just wouldn't dream of every rooting through someone's personal drawers, for example, and I would be very angry if anyone did that to me. A phone is exactly the same IMO.

Two weeks silent treatment? Did you cheat on him or something?

Everybody in this story is terrible. Every single one of you. You’re all BU.

I agree it’s wrong for him to be giving you the silent treatment for this long but I dont conclude from that that he has something to hide. I would be very very angry with my DH if he had done this to me but I have nothing to hide. I just dont want others seeing my stuff.

Oh just read DS was your sister not your son , so I think that changes it a bit, you should have given her your phone.
But I still think he's overreacting by sulking 2weeks later. Sounds like there maybe a back story to this

You are in the wrong but I’d be wondering what he’s got to hide.

I'm really surprised by the responses on here. To me a phone is just a phone and it's not a gross invasion of privacy to use someone else's. However I wouldn't be happy if someone asked to use my phone to access emails and then started scrolling through my photos. You really shouldn't have handed over his phone without asking him first and should have stopped your DS when you saw she was snooping. His extreme reaction though begs the question "what is he hiding?"

It was his sister-in-law

Not his daughter.

Not his daughter, but wife’s sister

If it was really really important that she needed to check her emails right that minute, you should've handed her yours 😳

You don't go giving out people's private phones.

I really don't get all the cloak and dagger stuff.
I mean what exactly does he have in his photos that he wouldn't want his daughter to see??!! I'd be very suspicious of his reaction which is over the top.
Me and DH will use each others phones on occasions and I regularly hand mine over for DC to do something.
We've just come back from family holiday and we've all scrolled through the photos taken on each others phones, albeit with permission.
So I really don't know why he has had such an extreme reaction and is still sulking 2 weeks later.

Put it this way, how would you like his brother going through your phone?

if the answer is I would not like it very much, then you have your answer for his reaction.

i really wish people would trying being I the other persons shoes before asking is xyz right to do this.

Unless someone urgently needs to check an email - i.e. at an airport for a boarding pass - there are very, very few reasons why anyone would need to borrow someone else's phone to perform that activity. Couldn't she have just waited for it to charge? Looks like an excuse to snoop and I wouldn't be at all surprised if your husband saw it that way as well. Have you really apologised? Really sat down and talked through your bad judgement call? Said how you intend to make it up to him or how you would make a different choice in the future? Or have you just given a surface level 'sorry' and are then are expecting him to accept it and for everything else to immediately go back to how it was?

Silent treatment is not helpful and is a passive aggressive form of punishment. It's an immature response to being unhappy with something and being unable to deal with the feelings that come with that. But equally if someone is deeply offended you can't force someone to talk, but you can choose how you react.
You need to properly acknowledge what you did - invaded his privacy, broke his trust. He might not want to talk to you because you are taking this far too lightly and as if he is the one in the wrong. He's not. You and your sister are.

It wasn’t even his sister - it was the OP’s sister. He shouldn’t be not speaking to you for 2 weeks, but giving your sister his phone was absolutely outrageous.

Why wouldn't she just plug her charger in if these emails were so important?

You were both snooping on him. I'd be done with you too

If he hasn’t spoken to you for a fortnight: this might actually have been a final straw for him and he’s planning to leave.

And part of me understands: how dare you invade his privacy like that

Yes, it's a pretty pathetic excuse for snooping on her own husband.

you were way out of line

I am fairly chilled about these things, but you must know that phones are like handbags - you don’t rummage through other peoples without permission. You should have given your sister your phone. She she not have been looking at his pictures.

You behaved badly - have you apologised properly? Really?

If not, do that.

Once you have, give it a week and then tell him relations have to return to normal or your marriage will be in trouble

I think this is just a cover story for OP and her sister to go through his phone.

What were you looking for really OP?

You shouldn't have given your sister his phone. She shouldn't have snooped through it. Your husband shouldn't be giving you the silent treatment for weeks.

What's thw back story?

Has your sister given any insight into went she decided to go through his photos?!
I'd be fuming if my DH gave my phone to my BIL to nose through.