DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

I don't even know my husband's phone code now I think of it, nor he mine.

There is zero need, is there?

Complete overreaction from him but you were very unreasonable to offer up his phone without asking him. As you well know phones aren’t just phones, they have loads of information on them and what if he’d just been Google searching erectile dysfunction or Botox or anything he wasn’t ready to share with his SIL?

I take photos of some of my moles every so often and add them to an album to track changes. I would want people coming across them. Equally I know some people photograph themselves naked or semi naked in front of a full length mirror in unflattering honesty as part of their weight loss journey. She’s a nosey cow and you were cavalier

Maybe he's not sulking. Maybe he's had enough and he's getting his ducks in a row. Sometimes people go quiet when their mind is made up and there's nothing more to say.

Maybe he is so disgusted that he can't even stand to look at you, let alone talk to you. There is much more to this than OP is suggesting. No-one gives someone else permission to snoop on another person's phone without there being more to it.

Oh hold I thought sister used the phone emails then your son was looking at it?

Your husband’s overreaction makes me suspect something but you and your sister were massively out of line.

Also the fact OP has vanished makes me go: hmmmm

By logging into something like Gmail on a browser

You say you have apologised but have you really? Because even this thread is you saying he is "blaming". Of course hes blaming you. It was outrageous. And if it was me, and I gave my sister the phone for what was a genuine reason, I would be LIVID with her if she then started scrolling through dh's pictures. So it wouldn't surprise me if he's angry not juat that you did it, but that your apology is half heated st best and tou clearly dont think your sister did anything wrong.

So 2 weeks sulking is ridiculous but as you clearly cant resolve this as you won't take responsibility, I honestly see his point.

Have you apologised properly? I mean actually admitted it was a bad decision on your part to give the phone to your sister, you understand why he is upset and you will never access his phone unless absolutely necessary.

or have you apologised in a "well, I'm sorry, but she wanted to send an email and I thought it was no big deal, so just get over it" sort of way (which is what your OP suggests.

To me a phone is just a phone and it's not a gross invasion of privacy to use someone else's. However I wouldn't be happy if someone asked to use my phone to access emails and then started scrolling through my photos.

And you'd be handing over your phone not someone else's?

You can have that stance on your phone but not somebody else’s.

Why did she think it was OK to snoop through his photos?

So there were urgent emails to be looked at, you couldn't possibly stop using your phone & the urgent emails meant that his photos had to be scrolled through.

What an absolute crock of shit.

So this super urgent email she had to check where she couldn’t wait for her own phone to charge, or for you to finish with yours, is so urgent she managed to scroll through photos as well?

yeah. Not buying it.

the phone is not yours to loan. You should have asked him. Your sister should have respected his privacy.

both of you were out of order.

If your DH handed over your phone to one of his family members to have a good snoop through, would that be OK with you? Really?

Quite a few people saying he might be hiding something but remember that he had let her know the password

What on earth were you thinking, OP?

And then to watch your sister go through his pictures and not intervene? Were you ganging up on DH with your sister? Did you find it funny?

It sounds like you lack appropriate boundaries and your DH has had enough.

Why on earth was she looking through his photos? Were you aware she was doing that? Has she apologised?

You were definitely in the wrong. You should have got off your phone and given it to your sister. She was in the wrong for looking at his photos rather than just sending her email. You both invaded your DH's privacy. Your DH is in the wrong for sulking for two weeks and blocking his own wife. Does he normally react in this way?

You're all in the wrong but 2 weeks is ridiculous.

Has your sister apologised for looking through the photos?

You were very much in the wrong, but his reaction is extreme. He’s either hiding something, or you and your sister aren’t acknowledging how wrong you were.

Totally agree and rereading the post heading I think: 'DS blames me' is very telling, because of course he does, but the way it is included in the title is inferring that he is unreasonable to do so.

And for your sister to say she needs to check her email and then goes through his photos instead is incredible disrespectful. You both sound very laissez-faire with other people's possessions and their privacy.

I'd leave DP if she went snooping through my phone, let alone if she handed it to her sister to have a nose through.

You don't seem to understand that you've done anything wrong here. You say you apologised, but did you actually mean it of was it just a quick "I'm sorry now let's brush it under the carpet"

You shouldn’t have given her his phone, that was really out of order. Was that really what happened or were you both snooping?

His reaction is ridiculous though, especially after 2 weeks. The silent treatment is abusive.

I'd be furious if I were your husband. You invaded his privacy and you don't seem to think it's a big deal.

How would she check her emails using your husband’s phone and why would you think it was ok to hand it to her?

Also what could possibly be so urgent?

He’s being very dramatic but you were bang out of order giving her his phone.