DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

Did you forget to post part of the story?

Why was she scrolling through his photos if she just wanted to check her email?

If you are the want to lend her the phone why isn’t it your fault?

Most reputable email requires 2fa to log in on a new device so I totally call coverup on this. Why couldn't she just plug her phone in to charge. You and your sister were caught snooping on his phone and then created a cover story which makes little sense. If the emails were so urgent why was she scrolling through his photos of not snooping?

2 weeks wouldn't be long enough for me to ignore you. I'd divorce you for the GROSS breach of trust and invasion of privacy. Your sister is a nosey bitch who used the opportunity to SNOOP through his phone! How fucking dare she? I'd never forgive either of you.

Your husband isn’t unreasonable to be angry but 2 weeks is excessive.

Why wouldn’t you lend her a charger rather than stop what you were doing on your phone and let her borrow that?

Your sister is unreasonable to look at his photos. She should have looked at her emails, logged out then returned the phone. Even if there weren’t any rude images of you or him on the phone, she should have only looked at her emails.

So your sister wants to check emails and its sooooo immediately urgent that she can’t’ wait to charge her phone or for you to finish with yours.

You are so busy with your phone whilst she is visiting that you can’t spare yours and hand over DHs.

She spends the time having a good old snoop, when she is supposed to be checking emails.

He has a tantrum and hasn’t spoken to you for a fortnight.

Are you all 7? Or are you testing some nonsensical storyline for a bad soap?

You had no right to give your husband’s phone to your sister and no wonder he was annoyed. I’d not be a happy about it either and was a breach of trust. Why didn’t you ask him first? You and your sister were totally out of order especially your sister for scrolling through his photos. I hope you challenged her unless of course the urgent email was a ruse for you to have a snoop. Having said that, unless there’s more to this and the phone incident was the final straw, your husband is out of order not speaking to you for two weeks.

We are a close knit family. My younger sister is my best friend, we are basically the same person spread over two different bodies! 😂

My husband has no problem if I use his phone, not that I think I’ve had to more than a couple of times but there is something very off about giving the phone to someone else.

The sister wasn’t even telling the truth about checking her emails she was going through his photos!

Nobody needs to check emails so urgently that they need to use someone else's phone.
If this is true then she is definitely in a small minority who
Let their battery get so low
Do not take a charger with them
Are around people who dont have spare chargers

I say this is a made up reason for her being on his phone to snoop

Everyone saying DH must have something to hide ? Why ? Op knew the passcode to his phone to unlock it. Would you not change the passcode if you had something to hide. Op is out of order. End of

Another one here who things the "check her e-mail" excuse is a pile of crap. You don't mention any fall out with your sister about her breaching your trust (in addition to DHs) if this reason was anything approaching the truth. You'll probably find that DH has also checked out his app history (you can see the most recently opened apps in order on an android phone for sure) so he can tell what else she has been snooping on.
OP, why couldn't you have given DS your phone? How long was it going to take for her to check her e-mails if that was the true intention, so much so that you couldn't spare your phone for what, 2-3 minutes?
DH trusted you enough to enable you to unlock his phone and this is what you do with that trust?

I would be livid in his shoes

what a ridiculous post.

I am team husband. Instead of cheating, I have photos of me in my underwear (tracking body weight like the poster above), photos of my friends in their underwear (same thing, measuring and showing weight loss progress), private photos of my friends related to their pregnancy, scan, and a lot of very private matters we trust each other with.

If you are so insecure you need to snoop, it's your problem, you are in the wrong, not the owner of the phone.

Two weeks later?
Your marriage is clearly over.
Toxic.

You were very wrong to unlock his phone for your sister.
So wrong.
Such a violation of his privacy.
I'd be livid if my husband did this to me.
I have nothing to hide, but I would be beyond livid.

I would be absolutely livid if my partner had taken my phone, and even more to give it to someone else to go through my private photos and files.

I dont' like the over-reactions on here usually, but if I was your husband, I am not sure I would forgive you - and I would remove your DS out of my life.

My whatsapp photos are saved automatically on my phone, so all the photos my friends send me are also on there - and vice-versa. It's private, personal, it's outrageous to allow someone to snoop.

You should beg for forgiveness but you don't deserve it.

Or maybe he's considering his options for the relationship because his wife and her nosy sister have no regard for his privacy.

You are totally in the wrong for giving your sister access to your husband's phone, he should have decided whether or not she could use it to check her emails.

Why was your sister scrolling through his phone when she had apparently only wanted to check her own emails? Did you not call your sister out on this?

I am not surprised your husband has locked you out of his phone, you can't be trusted to respect his privacy.

I don't agree with the silent treatment though and especially not for two weeks as that never resolves anything.

You were out of order giving your sister DH's phone.

She was out of order scrolling through his photos.

He was reasonable to have been annoyed at the time - and it was your fault.

But not talking to you two weeks later is unreasonable. Begs the question "What's on his phone" and is he using this issue as a convenient way to start making tracks out of the relationship.

I would feel disrespected and like my privacy wasnt a big deal to him. Id be furious with the family member too for being so nosy. I think it would fundamentally change how I felt about someone

Same.

This is what happened. Spot on.

its not for anyone else to say whether hes being unreasonable in his feelings about it. If my husband had handed MY phone to his relative because he was already playing on his own phone, and then they went through my personal stuff, id be fucking livid. I would feel disrespected and like my privacy wasnt a big deal to him. Id be furious with the family member too for being so nosy.
I think it would fundamentally change how I felt about someone

But that is NOT WHAT HAPPENED is it?

I would also use my husbands phone. What I wouldn’t do is then give it to another adult to just casually nose through.

This isn’t about a wife looking through her husband’s phone. It’s about unlocking someone’s phone and then giving it to someone else to have free rein with.

But are you shocked at the replies to the OP's particular scenario where she opened her husband's phone, lent it to her sister (instead of lending her own) and then her sister snooped through it?

I wouldn’t want my husband to enter my passcode and hand my phone to his sibling for her to snoop on. I suspect most people wouldn’t.

It was her sister using it and going through his photos. Not OP. Completely out of order.

Huge invasion of privacy to give your adult sister your DH’s phone. Really odd thing to do.

But his reaction is way OTT.