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To do a Masters while working full time as a lone parent?

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Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 12:28

I'm a lone parent, 2 DC, one about to start high school and one going into Y9. I work full time term time only. My DC are fairly independent and support the idea.
I think this might be the ideal time to finally do my MSc. It would be done in 12 months if I can manage it. Therefore finished before Y10 exams etc for eldest.
I can't drop work hours because of finances, I don't particularly want a student loan either.
Am I completely mad? Anyone done it and have tips?

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medievalpenny · 24/08/2025 19:06

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 17:04

Really @tryingtobesogood ? I did briefly look at it but maybe naively thought a "real" university (as in, has a building) would be looked upon better.. I'm very open to correction though

Psychology conversion is a bit different though, it's about securing GBC status to be able to progress down the career path. You would need outstanding results plus competitive experience. And potentially to have done certain modules for specific EdPsyD institutions. The institution where you did your psych conversion is less relevant because they're all accredited as meeting the standard for GBC.

I don't mean this in a horrible way, but reading your posts I do think you need to do more research about this path and your different options - irrespective of the question about whether it would have been feasible to do full time alongside a full time job and parenting. Have you looked at the guidance about what your EdPsyD application would need to show to be competitive?

On another note, you asked up thread about tutor contact and assuming that you'd only get tutor interaction with a local institution even if not attending lectures. That's not the case. If you joined a proper distance programme (rather than an in-person programme where you just decide not to attend lectures) then it will be set up to give you that support and interaction. Off the top of my head, aside from the OU, Glasgow is another one with a strong reputation for its online programmes and the psych conversion.

Suednymph · 24/08/2025 19:06

I have done it working full time and I mean 12 months a year full time not just full time term time which is technically part time IMO. Very doable if pre recorded and you have evenings free. I also parent alone and have no second parent but if you have you can utilise your weekends and then you have the many mid term or half term holidays also to study. Good luck with it.

KitsyWitsy · 24/08/2025 18:53

I wouldn't bother. Not for Psychology. That's a lot of work for no payoff. You won't be able to do anything with it other than more study,

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 18:38

TheGreatWesternShrew · 24/08/2025 17:51

I wouldn’t. When would you have any time?

When I'm dead 😆

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CleanQueen123 · 24/08/2025 18:17

I'm currently doing this, not psychology though. DD is 8 and I work full time. Other parent isn't involved at all so I don't get EOW off or anything like that.

I've done mine through the degree apprenticeship route, so I get one full day a week at home to study and do whatever else is needed in the evening or weekends. The course is going to take around two years, the apprenticeship element means you have to be on programme for a certain period of time before you can complete the end point assessment.

TheGreatWesternShrew · 24/08/2025 17:51

I wouldn’t. When would you have any time?

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 17:04

tryingtobesogood · 24/08/2025 16:52

Have you considered the OU for the conversion course?

https://www.open.ac.uk/postgraduate/qualifications/f92

I tutor (psychology) for the OU and have also lectured at Universities and would say that the quality of materials and support at the OU is so much higher.

Really @tryingtobesogood ? I did briefly look at it but maybe naively thought a "real" university (as in, has a building) would be looked upon better.. I'm very open to correction though

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ShuriPouri · 24/08/2025 16:53

I did a masters full time when my son was 6, as a single mom, but was not working. I got a scholarship and bursary. NGL I struggled but passed with a distinction. Your kids sound older more independant, so it is deffo do-able.

Just be realistic with time and be super duper organised. Get stuff / essays etc done as much in advance as you can...because as you know sometimes shyte happens and all of a sudden you are behind. Best of luck what ever you decide.

tryingtobesogood · 24/08/2025 16:52

Have you considered the OU for the conversion course?

https://www.open.ac.uk/postgraduate/qualifications/f92

I tutor (psychology) for the OU and have also lectured at Universities and would say that the quality of materials and support at the OU is so much higher.

netflixfan · 24/08/2025 16:51

A friend same position as you has just completed year 1 of a masters. Kudos.

JasmineTea11 · 24/08/2025 16:50

I admire your ambition OP, and sympathise with your situation, but I did am MSc a few years ago, and I don't think it would be possible as a lone parent working full time. I would say a masters is equivalent to a part time job. I was already quite familiar with the subject matter. Sorry

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 16:50

sonjadog · 24/08/2025 16:49

If you think you might end up doing a PhD, then you will need an excellent thesis at MA level and top grades. I would take two years in that case.

Yes I'm coming round to doing it part time so I can do it really well

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sonjadog · 24/08/2025 16:49

If you think you might end up doing a PhD, then you will need an excellent thesis at MA level and top grades. I would take two years in that case.

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 16:48

whoopdiedoo · 24/08/2025 16:28

It was tough but not horrendous. Although saying that the statistics was extremely difficult to get my head around. I had to do a lot of my own additional learning around that. I got a merit in the end. I completed it in 2020. I have gone on to get a job in a psychological field. I’m a psychotherapist for the NHS.

Well done @whoopdiedoo !
I'm determined to do it somehow

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Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 16:46

Surely not @VickyEadieofThigh 🤣

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VickyEadieofThigh · 24/08/2025 16:43

I'm also going to add, OP, that your romantic vision of you and your two teenagers doing your homework together for hours every night at the kitchen table is utter fantasy.

SpanThatWorld · 24/08/2025 16:43

I also have 3 M level qualifications.

I did my MSc F2F when I working full time but pre-kids. I was at uni 3 evenings a week and then writing my assignments in my annual leave. I like to have a short but focused approach to assessments.

I later did an MA followed by a separate PgDip. The MA was 6 weekends of contact and the PgDip was online. I'd had kids by this point. Again, I tend to do my work in short, focused bursts rather than steadily through the term. I would take several days for each assignment when I would go to the library 9-6 at least. My kids were old enough not to need me too much (youngest was 9 when I started).

It is hard. Each of my courses was split over 2 years rather than 1. I think 2 years for a level M course alongside a FT job is very doable but doing it in one year would be a real slog.

whoopdiedoo · 24/08/2025 16:28

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 16:01

How did you find it @whoopdiedoo and what did you go on to do? How long ago was this?
I do wonder if being a full time working lone parent increases your capacity and tolerance levels for stress.

It was tough but not horrendous. Although saying that the statistics was extremely difficult to get my head around. I had to do a lot of my own additional learning around that. I got a merit in the end. I completed it in 2020. I have gone on to get a job in a psychological field. I’m a psychotherapist for the NHS.

Nappyvalley15 · 24/08/2025 16:23

A conversion course is no ordinary masters. It is condensing knowledge from a degree in a subject that is new to you. It is not going to be like doing a masters in a subject you are already familiar with. Doesn't sound like something to rush through and not properly digest due to.your other commitments - especially if you want to do further study in this new discipline.

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 16:01

whoopdiedoo · 24/08/2025 15:55

Yes it was. I did it online at University of Derby and it was fully online

How did you find it @whoopdiedoo and what did you go on to do? How long ago was this?
I do wonder if being a full time working lone parent increases your capacity and tolerance levels for stress.

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whoopdiedoo · 24/08/2025 15:55

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 14:07

Was this the conversion course, out of interest?

Yes it was. I did it online at University of Derby and it was fully online

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 15:46

VickyEadieofThigh · 24/08/2025 15:16

I've read the full thread. I think you need to work out whether you want to actually LEARN - or just go through the motiins and get the piece of paper

I have 3 (!) master's degrees. The first I did part-time in my 2nd and 4th years of teaching, age 24-26. Attendance 2 night a week was required and obviously, a lot of reading and essay writing, study for exams and the writing of a dissertation. I had no kids or responsibilities other than my (obviously term time only) teaching job. But I took it seriously and wanted to learn.

My second was an MBA, part-time over 3 years, also whilst a teacher. Still no kids. A big workload, but I took it seriously again.

The 3rd was for fun after I'd stopped working full-time.

I'll go back to my earlier comment - is it just for a bit of paper or to actually LEARN? Because frankly, you'll struggle to get through it, let alone learn and retain knowledge, doing it in one year. Which - given your circumstances, is unfeasible.

Do it part-time over 2 years. LEARN from the course.

I want both - I've always had a keen interest in psychology but also recognise that the conversion course is the only way to progress in that field. So yes I suppose a bit of a tick box.

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callfromthemountain · 24/08/2025 15:44

I'm doing an MA part time - over two years. They expect 30 hours per week of study on top of time in uni (that varies but usually 1 day per month). I could not do it on top of full time work, and have needed the summer to write my dissertation. Good luck but it will be very hard.

Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 15:38

herethereandeverywhatnow · 24/08/2025 15:34

For context I work in a Russell group university supporting students studying online, part-time, alongside often challenging jobs. We say 20 hours a week and most of them really struggle to fit this in, so as others have said I think 40hrs without dropping work hours is not possible and over 2 years (if an option) would be tough but more feasible.

depending on the structure of the course it’s all very well saying you do it in your own time, but it’s likely that you’re expected to have covered certain topics/assessments points by set dates in which case you can’t “save it up” and do more in holidays etc. I would really recommend trying to talk to the team supporting students on the course and see what they suggest - if you came to me I would strongly recommend against it as a working full time person, let alone also a parent! No point killing yourself just to get it done more quickly!

This is fair enough and point taken! I am waiting to hear back from a couple of universities about what they would advise.

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Namechangelikeits1999 · 24/08/2025 15:36

vivainsomnia · 24/08/2025 15:24

I totally get where you as I was in the same place 10 years ago. The thing is, it is pointless to do that conversion masters (and costly I assume) if you don't know if you can follow with the next step.

I decided that the requirements for the PhD were too much for me as a single mum. I wasn't going to move and the success ratio was too much of a risk. If I recall at the time, there was offer for 10 applications with applicants being able to show direct experience as psychology assistant roles. My job was related, but I knew I couldn't compete with younger, free to move, experienced applicants.

This is food for thought. There are 24 funded places for the doctorate in EdPsych at my local uni but the current gov funding stops in 2026, and who knows if it will be extended.

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