Page 4 | Email from doctor - does this sound a bit creepy or am I reading too much into it?

KittyKat2824 · 24/08/2025 12:25

FanofLeaves · 24/08/2025 11:39

He’s just thinking of ££ and keen to get some appointments booked in, that’s how I read it.

Same

Freshstart11 · 24/08/2025 12:23

Therapist here 👋. Personally, I think the wording of the message is not something I would say. Clumsy wording. It’s made you feel uncomfortable and that’s something to explore.

Newname25 · 24/08/2025 12:23

Nothing untoward in that message. But if it makes you uncomfortable change practitioner.

Psychologymam · 24/08/2025 12:23

I’m a psychologist and I would say I’ve been thinking of some of my patients (because I have been thinking of them and I do care if they are going through a difficult time - of course I wonder how they are getting on, hoping they are doing well). But if you feel uncomfortable go somewhere else - it’s imperative to have a good relationship with someone for the therapeutic alliance.

How did you leave the last appointment ? Was it that you would have a check in or was it the end of sessions? Who was to make contact if another apt was required? Are you on medications that need to be reviewed? I think you’re making a much bigger issue out of this than it needs to be - transfer to someone else if you prefer and sounds like that might be a good idea for you, but it’s a pretty generic email to be spending lots of time wondering if there’s a secret creepy code behind it (there’s not).

isitme111 · 24/08/2025 12:23

It is clumsy wording I think. I wouldn't read too much in to it other than he's running a private practice and has to source his own income.

Mewling · 24/08/2025 12:22

Not creepy. I actually view it as their way of reassuring you that they’re considering you and your needs. FWIW I work tangentially in mental health and would potentially frame an email in this way.

Thebigonesgetaway · 24/08/2025 12:21

Hoppinggreen · 24/08/2025 12:19

It was a joke
There are various memes etc about saying "I have a Boyfriend" as soon as any man even looks at you
Apologies OP , I think I spend too much time with my Teens

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I think the op is wedded to the idea he fancies her, so took you seriously.

Swiftie1878 · 24/08/2025 12:21

HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 12:16

I am married and he knows this.

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Is your therapy with him about trust issues?
Or being unable to properly read people and their intentions?

You are way off in this. It’s a normal prompt email for you to book your next session.

DreamCircle · 24/08/2025 12:20

Sera1989 · 24/08/2025 12:16

I think it was strangely worded but I wouldn’t think too much into it unless he’s otherwise creepy. I would prefer a healthcare professional to be wondering how I’m doing and want to see me at an appointment than have no clue who I am and no follow up. But if he has overstepped in any way or you have a gut feeling about him generally then I’d find someone new

Agree with this response. Not a great choice of words, but not creepy based on that alone.

Hoppinggreen · 24/08/2025 12:19

Sarover · 24/08/2025 12:17

What a strange suggestion. OP isn’t being hit on by a drunken lout in a pub. It’s her therapist writing an email. He’ll definitely know whether or not OP has a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband etc. She can’t just make something up.

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It was a joke
There are various memes etc about saying "I have a Boyfriend" as soon as any man even looks at you
Apologies OP , I think I spend too much time with my Teens

KittytheHare · 24/08/2025 12:17

HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 12:16

I am married and he knows this.

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I assume that poster was joking. Sounds like you do think he fancies you?

Sarover · 24/08/2025 12:17

Hoppinggreen · 24/08/2025 12:06

Just tell him you have a Boyfriend

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What a strange suggestion. OP isn’t being hit on by a drunken lout in a pub. It’s her therapist writing an email. He’ll definitely know whether or not OP has a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband etc. She can’t just make something up.

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HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 12:16

Hoppinggreen · 24/08/2025 12:06

Just tell him you have a Boyfriend

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I am married and he knows this.

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Sera1989 · 24/08/2025 12:16

I think it was strangely worded but I wouldn’t think too much into it unless he’s otherwise creepy. I would prefer a healthcare professional to be wondering how I’m doing and want to see me at an appointment than have no clue who I am and no follow up. But if he has overstepped in any way or you have a gut feeling about him generally then I’d find someone new

Overnightoatsareyummy · 24/08/2025 12:13

HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 11:38

He’s a psychiatrist working entirely in private practice. He says:

‘Dear HMG,

‘I hope you are having a good summer. I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are? Shall we get your next appointment booked in?

’Best wishes,

<First Name>’

He’s been thinking about me? Really?!

i work as a clinician. This is polite and caring. You are reading too much into it. Be happy that someone has gone out of their way to contact you to check in on your wellbeing.

Swiftie1878 · 24/08/2025 12:12

HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 11:52

This is my thinking too. He is male and significantly older than me.

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He is just worried you haven’t re-booked and wants to chivvy you along. He has a living to earn.

DiscoBob · 24/08/2025 12:11

He wants your money. I wouldn't want a psychiatrist pushing me to book paid appointments. Unless I had a medical need. Not just because they were 'thinking about me.'

So I wouldn't call it pervy but I would call it crass and money grabbing. And the fact you say it feels off means you clearly don't fully trust the motives of this person.

Radiowaawaa · 24/08/2025 12:09

None of our psychiatrists (nor any other professionals) in our team would speak to a client that way. We might say that following on from our last session we were wondering how they were doing or if they’d made any progress.

But we are nhs so maybe that’s the difference.

Turtlerunner · 24/08/2025 12:09

Definitely not creepy. I would use this sort of language to let a client know they've been held in mind (ie Ive not forgotten about you in your absence) & to check if you're ready to recommence after a break/holiday etc. If you have a strong reaction to the idea of being 'thought about' by your therapist that might be useful to explore when you recommence work together.

DappledThings · 24/08/2025 12:09

It's not creepy at all. He has been thinking about you, in the way of anyone who has a client and is thinking about them and when they will see them next. It doesn't mean he's been thinking about you in a sexual or romantic way or anything other than professionally.

Thebigonesgetaway · 24/08/2025 12:07

Op, that’s just a kind message, he’s not hitting on you. He will send the same to many of his patients.

Hoppinggreen · 24/08/2025 12:06

HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 11:52

This is my thinking too. He is male and significantly older than me.

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Just tell him you have a Boyfriend

StrongandNorthern · 24/08/2025 12:05

Not creepy.

Yerdug · 24/08/2025 12:04

Agreed. And same.
it can also be hard to wonder about patients you've deeply cared about - seen healing and recovery and wonder how they are months and years on.

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HoneymoonGirl · 24/08/2025 12:01

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 24/08/2025 11:56

Dear Rudolph,

Thank you for checking up on me. I've been not/doing well and will arrange an appointment for x-date.

Hope you've had a good summer too.

Best wishes,

HMG.

PMSL at the thought of him being called Rudolph.

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