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Husband has got extreme views

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UnsureDifferences · 24/08/2025 01:29

Name change on this to protect myself and family.
So my DH has over the past few years got more and more what I would call extreme views. He is into conspiracy theories, it started off by watching a few videos and being curious and now he full thinks that the illuminati are out to enslave us and talks about the earth being flat, which he is not sure about but goes on about it.
He is also fearful of immigration and is saying he will go on the marches and that we are being take over and that we need to be prepared.
I am an easy going educated person who leans slightly left and believes in science.
This is really getting me down as I am not sure I can be with him anymore if this is who he is now.
Aibu to leave him for having these different views. Or is it managable to continue on.
One part of me thinks it is similar to two people of different faiths being married, is this possible? Has anyone had a good relationship with someone with opposite political or religious views to them?
Any ideas as to what to do here.
Everything else is fine in our relationship

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Meadowfinch · 24/08/2025 01:35

XWKD · 24/08/2025 01:31

You can't force anyone to change their views, but there comes a point when you just can't put up with them anymore.

This.

I could cope with someone holding different but not absurd views (e.g. the earth being flat). I think it's healthy to have differences and be willing to debate them.

But if they get too ludicrous - Bill Gates is trying to enslave us through vaccinations etc, I couldn't continue the relationship because all respect would be gone.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 24/08/2025 01:34

He needs to be prepared for what?

I couldn't stay married to someone who believes the earth is flat, never mind the rest of it.

YouCantProveIt · 24/08/2025 01:34

In this case - like flat earth or the basic six repeatable conspiracies all the easily swayed seem to believe - for me it’s the sheer stupidity and lack of other positive things in their lives that would impact me.

People who are thriving don’t get sucked down these idiotic rabbit holes.

So I guess the question is - do you respect him? If not it’ll be hard to sustain the relationship without change on his part.

UnsureDifferences · 24/08/2025 01:34

FrodoBiggins · 24/08/2025 01:30

Do you challenge him on them and, if so, how does he react?

Yes, but he gets very frustrated and tells me he can respect that I have an opinion but I am wrong and he is right. He will not change what he thinks whatever I say. So we cant debate the topics as he feels that I am 'brainwashed' and I think he is ridiculous.

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Libellousness · 24/08/2025 01:32

I don’t think it’s a case of a simple difference of views - it’s a case of one half of a partnership having lost touch with reality.

XWKD · 24/08/2025 01:31

You can't force anyone to change their views, but there comes a point when you just can't put up with them anymore.

FrodoBiggins · 24/08/2025 01:30

Do you challenge him on them and, if so, how does he react?

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