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To think the sonographer could be wrong?

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:38

I’ve been told girl but I just feel like it’s protruding too much? AIBU to question this or do I just trust what the trained sonographer says? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any parents with girls out here who had similar potty shots? I don’t know whether to book another scan somewhere else

To think the sonographer could be wrong?
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Aliolii · 23/08/2025 22:22

cc99xo · 23/08/2025 22:17

I’ve protected my son from a lot and I am more than capable of hiding my own emotions. The amount of times I’ve happily skipped with him to school and then sobbed my heart out on the way home. The time I threw his birthday party with nothing but a smile on my face whilst actively miscarrying ANOTHER baby. You have no idea the pain I’ve endured, what a vile accusation to make all because a child has a preference on the gender of a sibling - like most do!

Sorry OP - it was just when you said this

I guess I’m worried as my son was there with me and he’s always dreamt of this ‘baby sister’ and I’d feel bad getting his hopes up. Of course he’d get over it but after multiple losses, seeing how excited he was about the thought of a baby sister made me so happy

Sounded like you had been sharing a lot with him.

I don’t think the sonographer would tell you if they weren’t sure fwiw.

IntoTheFringe · 23/08/2025 22:22

cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:48

Yes I have my anomaly scan with a private consultant at 18 weeks but the sex is the last thing on my mind that day but I guess it’ll be nice to have it confirmed 😊

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Yet you have prioritised finding out the sex 2-3 weeks before this so it must be a big deal to you? Assuming all is well at the anomaly scan I don't understand why you can't be excited to have the sex confirmed (as much as they ever will confirm it) that day too. You're not going to get a definitive answer asking here.

dijonketchup · 23/08/2025 22:21

marzipanpan · 23/08/2025 22:07

I would assume it’s a girl then if they were confident. I’ve known people to be specifically told ‘90% sure’ etc

Sorry for your losses. If against the odds it does turn out to be a little boy I’m sure you could easily hype up having a baby brother to your son, if he’s happy and excited about the thought of a new baby in general I doubt he would be too heartbroken.

I was told ‘95%’ confident and ‘been doing this 15 years.’ In the car I realised ok, so they’re wrong 1/20 times. I was the 1/20.

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 22:17

I’ve protected my son from a lot and I am more than capable of hiding my own emotions. The amount of times I’ve happily skipped with him to school and then sobbed my heart out on the way home. The time I threw his birthday party with nothing but a smile on my face whilst actively miscarrying ANOTHER baby. You have no idea the pain I’ve endured, what a vile accusation to make all because a child has a preference on the gender of a sibling - like most do!

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HotHorseRadish · 23/08/2025 22:17

Looks like a dinosaur 🦖 to me!

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 22:14

Aliolii · 23/08/2025 22:12

How old is your son? Sounds like you’ve projected a lot of your emotion onto him.

Excuse me? 🤣 what an odd thing to say. He has no idea about my losses. He’s just been desperate for a sibling for years and has always loved the thought of a baby sister. I’m projecting my emotion onto him because I enjoyed sharing an exciting moment with him?

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 22:12

He’s been asking to come to a scan and see his baby sibling, private ultrasounds like peekababy, window to the womb etc allow family members and children :) I’m glad he came, he absolutely loved it. Obviously he wouldn’t come to an NHS scan.

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Aliolii · 23/08/2025 22:12

How old is your son? Sounds like you’ve projected a lot of your emotion onto him.

johnd2 · 23/08/2025 22:11

To Be honest you don't want to get too hyped up in your minds eye, your baby will be their own person gradually over the next 20 years so get in practice from day one (minus 100?) of taking them as they come!

Zonder · 23/08/2025 22:10

Does it matter?

Time to manage expectations with your son - I'm surprised they agreed to him being present.

CurlewKate · 23/08/2025 22:08

Such a bad idea to take other children to scans!

TheNightingalesStarling · 23/08/2025 22:08

They don't tell you if they aren't sure. They weren't sure on my 2nd DD.

marzipanpan · 23/08/2025 22:07

I would assume it’s a girl then if they were confident. I’ve known people to be specifically told ‘90% sure’ etc

Sorry for your losses. If against the odds it does turn out to be a little boy I’m sure you could easily hype up having a baby brother to your son, if he’s happy and excited about the thought of a new baby in general I doubt he would be too heartbroken.

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 22:03

@marzipanpanHe was sure it was a girl. I guess I’m worried as my son was there with me and he’s always dreamt of this ‘baby sister’ and I’d feel bad getting his hopes up. Of course he’d get over it but after multiple losses, seeing how excited he was about the thought of a baby sister made me so happy. I guess after all the pain and suffering I’ve been through I just question things a lot more and feel a lot more anxious in this pregnancy

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marzipanpan · 23/08/2025 22:01

Did they give an indication of how confident they are?

I think at 15/16 weeks I would assume it’s probably a girl but wouldn’t go all out with a gender reveal or telling people until it’s confirmed at a later scan.

AlligatorTears · 23/08/2025 21:58

Of course they can get it wrong.

yabu to think the randomers of mumsnet know better than a trained sonographer.

Hillarious · 23/08/2025 21:57

You’ll find out soon enough. Is there a special reason why you need to know now?

Lesina · 23/08/2025 21:56

cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:44

Idk I’ve heard stories about getting the sex wrong at 15/16 weeks. Hopefully I’ve got nothing to worry about :)

Why would you worry though?

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:49

@PamIsAVolleyballChampActually this was a private ultrasound at peek-a-baby purely to find out the sex.

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VickyEadieofThigh · 23/08/2025 21:49

I know I'm not the only one who cannot make anything out in that scan shot.

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/08/2025 21:48

It's a salmon steak. Congratulations!

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cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:48

SunnyDolly · 23/08/2025 21:46

If you’re 15/16 weeks just wait a few weeks for your anomaly scan and then you’ll know for sure!

Yes I have my anomaly scan with a private consultant at 18 weeks but the sex is the last thing on my mind that day but I guess it’ll be nice to have it confirmed 😊

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happyLittleAG · 23/08/2025 21:47

Looks like a boy to me. Sometimes they are wrong, especially in the early stages

PamIsAVolleyballChamp · 23/08/2025 21:47

Childanddogmama · 23/08/2025 21:43

Pretty sure they know what they are doing.

Which is not about judging sex, but checking the health of babies..

Vodkamartini3olives · 23/08/2025 21:47

Well it's not an exact science is it. What difference would questioning it make?. You'll know for sure in a few months time.