To think the sonographer could be wrong?

It was purely organisational in my case. I was having twins, and already had a girl, in a small house, so it was to know if I should keep her clothes or clear out.
I personally like the surprise at birth but being told I was having twins was the surprise in that case 😂

I have no idea how to interpret ultrasound scans and I'm not medical, but I've recently had my 20 week NHS scan and was told I'm having a boy, and his penis was VERY obvious on the ultrasound when the sonographer showed me the same angle as your picture.

I already have a little boy and he always talked about having a baby sister, he didn't want a brother because 'he only likes girls'. However, when I told him I had a baby growing in my tummy and the doctors think it's a boy, he didn't even mention a sister, he was just really excited to have a little brother! I'm sure your son will be happy and excited to meet his new siblings, whatever the sex.

Being pregnant is a strange time and it's easy to get anxious, but something like a sibling having a preference will work itself out whatever happens, so try your best not to worry x

It looks like a girl, but it doesn’t really matter. Just let your son know that you won’t know until the baby is born. It’s strange to mention worrying about it, it’s not an issue. If you’re told the baby is a girl and baby turns out to be a boy, it will be a lovely surprise.

Wishing you a safe pregnancy and healthy baby. 🩷

OP had a private scan, this isn't the 20 week NHS scan.

Finding out before birth doesn't take anything away from believing in equal opportunities.

It does amaze me in this day and age of equal opportunities etc that people are so keen to find out whether the baby is a boy or girl.
The twenty weeks scan is for abnormalities and not just looking the presence or not of a penis. It isn't that long ago that we weren't allowed to know.

They can get it wrong, but most of time they don't. I would say it's not obviously a girl or boy in that one image but they will be going off what they saw during the scan as well, the photo might just have been taken at a blurry moment.

You'll have a clearer view in a few weeks at your 20 week scan where many hospitals confirm it if you want to know. Or just book another scan for 2 weeks time.

One of mine was mistaken for a girl at 17weeks. Sonographer did say legs were kind of crossed but was sure it was a girl. I was having scans every few weeks on high risk pregnancy and by 20 weeks "she" had grown a willy 😂
Sonographer was so apologetic and said she'd never been wrong before! but we didn't care. I was still prepared for it to change again at birth just in case

Why would there be worry?

I'm with you on that. We found out with our first (my preference, im not grrat wuth surprises), we didn't with 2nd (DH's preference - we each took a turn) and actually much preferred the not knowing. It was fun trying to guess from the pictures and 'ooh, the sonographer called them a he, do you think that means that are a boy or just always say he was default'. But everyone is different abd no harm either way.

Of course there's excitement in the arrival. Knowing the sex doesn't take away how exciting and happy the arrival is.

I think it must be lovely to wait and not know.
It's also lovely to know and meet your new baby! Surely there isn't a 'right' way to do things.

"Knowing the sex throughout pregnancy means there is no excitement in the arrival" - I can assure you I was extremely excited to meet both of my children.

My apologies. Scans have come a long way since I had DD 25 years ago. Good luck with this pregnancy.

It doesn't even look like a baby to me.

I paid for a NIPT at 10 weeks which gave me a fetal sex result with 99% accuracy as it uses a blood test. Definitely get one if you need to know the sex for sure. Scans are never going to be as accurate.

I have 3 dc and I have no idea what I'm looking at on that scan photo but generally they should know what they're looking at

Can't believe all the people who are rudely saying you're unreasonable wanting to find out. Most people want to find out. I found out early with all of mine because I wanted to be able to project and bond, and wanted a lot of time to think of a name. And I didn't want to think of two names as I'd then be disappointed to not get to use one of them.

Not that any of this matters, wanting to find out is enough of a reason to find out - why on earth not ?!!

Anyway OP, my 12-wk nub theory sonographer got them all wrong, but early scans at 16-wk got them all correct. Mistakes can happen but are unusual. If you want to be totally sure and can afford it there's nipt. I did it (though purely for genetic reassurance as the country where I was didn't allow gender reveal on nipt).

Yes because children's emotional engagement with a given event is absolutely predicted on whether it's funded by the NHS or not 🙄

The waiting and not knowing build expectation but do not put expectation on the child, who arrives as they are - a boy or a girl. It's a joyous surprise. Knowing the sex throughout pregnancy means there is no excitement in the arrival and if the sex is a disappointment that can affect the pregnancy.

The sonographer at my 20 week scan said probably a girl, but wasn't completely sure. I got a private scan to check and they confirmed (as much as possible) it was a girl. I wanted to be able to prepare my DS for what was coming (he'd have preferred a brother!) And i didn't want to have to try and find everything in neutral colours etc. It's OK to want to know.

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Your son will be happy regardless. I feel you. My girl is 13 and wanted a sister. She's a singleton not by choice, and now she wants Charlotte Tilbury contour. Try to enjoy your pregnancy and enjoy your family.

I had a private scan at 17 weeks and they put the gender in an envelope as I wasnt sure I wanted to find out. They were 100% right as it was 4d. Then I had to have a lot of late scans at hospital and they asked if I knew gender as was blindingly obvious by then and I said I did as id checked by them and nhs said yes definitely a girl.