To think the sonographer could be wrong?

It is actually one of the biggest causes of PND. I don’t see why everyone has beef on here about finding out gender. If I have another I’ll be doing another 6 week blood test and having multiple scans to confirm. I like to be organised and have their room done and all their clothes bought

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I did the same with my DD when I had a gender scan for my DS. I wanted the happy moment of the gender scan to be separate from any news at the anomaly scan. I am glad you had a lovely scan experience this time ❤️

Where has anyone said you need to know the sex to bond?

It wasn't that she didn't know the sex, it was that she thought she did know but was wrong.

I'm sure there was more to it but it was definitely a factor. She described feeling as if she was mourning the girl who never existed which made it hard to accept the boy who did. Yes there was probably some gender disappointment in there too, heightened by her thinking she was having a girl when she wasn't. I'm not sure why it's hard to believe that this could contribute to PND.

Exactly. Just wait and find out. No big deal.

When I was pregnant I wanted to keep the gender a surprise and at my 20 week scan baby moved suddenly and we got a clear view of babys bum. We thought we accidentally found out the gender and were convinced it was a boy because it looked like a "bulge". The sonographer knew it was meant to be a surprise so moved away quickly but didn't say anything, we tried to pretend we didn't see it.

I had a girl. I'm not a sonographer but I think yours looks like a girl.

Ignore OP. Seems like from this thread, mumsnet isn’t keen on private gender scans. You crack on my love, sorry for your losses and hope the rest of your pregnancy runs smoothly.

Good luck for your scan at 18 weeks!

Why do people need to know the sex to bond? Did people not bond before scans were around? Of course they cant be 100% it is not an exact science people do have to take some responsibility for their own thinking sometimes

Of course they can be wrong but it's uncommon and that definitely looks like a girl to me. I asked them to check at every scan (I had lots) as I couldn't quite bring myself to believe I was having a girl for some reason, whereas with my son there was such an obvious willy that I could see it on the screen before they even pointed it out! I think it's just girls are a bit less apparent as you're looking for the absence of something, so you'll always doubt yourself a bit, especially if you're hoping for a girl and don't want to be mistaken.

She can’t
She won’t
She isn’t

all explained throughout OPs posts.

I can’t believe she developed PND because she didn’t know the sec or bond before birth.

You bond with your baby surely not because it’s a certain sex, unless you’ve got a high preference for a particular one, in which case you’ve got “gender disappointment” a whole other topic.

She has already explained why she took her son and stated that he won't go to any NHS scans.

The sonographer should have made it clear that they can never be 100% sure. I went along to a friend's 3d scan. It was quite late on in the pregnancy and we got a view that left no doubt she was having a boy but, even then, the sonographer said they never confirm the sex. I found out the sex in both my pregnancies but always had in the back of mind that they might have been wrong because mistakes aren't that uncommon.

I remember years before having my babies a colleague chose not to find out because one of her friends had been told the wrong sex. She struggled to bond with her baby and developed post natal depression because she was mourning the baby she didn't have. That story has always stayed with me.

15/16 weeks is early to check for a baby’s sex. Boys can hide. I don’t think it’s a good idea to take children to pregnancy scans in case it isn’t good news so don’t take your son to the 20 week scan.

Exactly, what a bunch of vultures!

I’ve had one of each. The boy bits were obviously protruding and you could see the baby balls and penis very clearly. The girl bits were in the same position and looked similar to your scan.

Looks like a girl. On my ds ultrasounds, there was a clear ball and penis both times on the potty shot. In the country I used to live in, they would confirm sex at 14 weeks. You could always wait until the anomaly scan to buy anything.

Ignore all these do-gooders questioning why you want to know the sex or worried they're mistaken🙄Umm, maybe because you don’t want to buy a tonne of girl clothes for a boy.

Also, in many countries, you have ultrasounds every month of pregnancy. I had 9 with my first which was a normal and healthy pregnancy. Wish you all the best OP with the rest of the pregnancy. 😊

I never understand the point in people booking a private scan purely to find out the gender at a very early stage, only to not believe it anyway. If you'd waited just a few weeks it would probably have been clearer but even then you know deep down there's always a risk of them getting it wrong.

You'll find out for sure when it's born. Personally I love the surprise. I'm all for people finding out, if that's what they want, but then you need to try and trust their judgement, otherwise it makes the whole exercise utterly pointless.

Good luck OP 🤞at least you’ve not got long till your next scan and think that other poster gave a good explanation to give to your son as it’s never 100%.
I’ve never wanted to find out the sex but I know lots of people do! So many unnecessary snarky comments here.

Of course they are, I'm not sure why you think otherwise.

They got the sex of my baby wrong. I found out during a scan after a fall that I was expecting a girl and not a boy! Of course it matters, because in our case we had started buying clothes, named him, and started bonding with our non existent son!