To think the sonographer could be wrong?

I was told a girl at 16 weeks, and again at 20 weeks. I went for a 4D scan at 28 weeks and was gobsmacked when she said it was a boy and showed me his winky. I almost grieved the girl I was expecting and anticipating for over 10 weeks 😭

Whatever sex it is, it has very cute legs!

Sorry not RTFT but the do graphed would have had more than that one view, they’d have seen the baby from multiple angles so I’d be inclined to think they’re probably correct … especially if it’s their sole job to do sex scans

The op has explained multiple times why she did it. 👍🏼

Why take your son to an early gender scan reveal if you don’t have complete trust in what they’re doing? Surely you just wait until 24 weeks or whatever when it’s way more unlikely to get it wrong?! Very odd.

Do you honestly believe that there is "no excitement in the arrival" of a baby when you already know the sex? So the only thing that is exciting when a baby is born is finding out if it's a boy or a girl? I mean, each to their own, but I find that quite bizarre.

We found out with DD as if she was a girl then I wanted time to get my head around it before she was born. I enjoyed in the end getting to know her and was over it and thrilled when she was born. She is the light of my life and wouldn't change her for the world. I am still glad I found out as after two previous consecutive losses l (she was my third pregnancy) it gave me time to bond. We were meant to be one and done but during covid decided someone was missing. Whilst pregnant with DS we didn't find out. Couldn't have cared less what he was to be honest, would have been equally happy with another girl. He was an emergency in the end so his announcement was a bit rushed. It took me a few weeks to actually bond with him because of the shock of the labour.

My point being that it doesn't necessarily put disappointment on the pregnancy but there are a magnitude of reasons to why people find out.

This makes sense. There's no way I would be able to compartmentalise like that though! I was thinking that, assuming all is well at the anomaly scan, you would then be able to let go of some of (hopefully most of) the stress and then you have that excitement and happiness to take away from the scan.

Anyway, whatever you chose to do I wish you an uneventful rest of pregnancy and every happiness with your new baby.

I couldn’t have said that better myself ! Some really bitter,screwed up people on MN these days !

OK, I’m sorry about your losses too and wasn’t trying to suggest I know more about it than you. I think it’s understandable that you want to have your son there. I only wanted to share my experience to be helpful to you or anyone else who might read my post.

I can’t imagine my son being there in the immediate aftermath either. Both emotionally and practically. I was sent straight to hospital for confirmatory scans, further testing and preparation for miscarriage. In my case, having my son in the waiting room wouldn’t have been much better than having him there in the consultation room.

Again, not saying I’m right and you’re wrong at all, everyone is different. Just sharing my experience.

Your son will be delighted with anything he'll get.

We have 1 boy and 2 girls.

I'm currently pregnant with my 4th and final child. When we we told our son that the 4th baby will be a girl as well, he was disappointed for 2 minutes for not getting a "boy baby".

We explained to him the advantages of having 3 sisters and he then moved on quickly and doesn't mention it anymore.

He now just talks positively about the new baby.

@cc99xo The more I look at it the more I agree girl! With my boys there was no denying it 🤣
Good luck at the anomaly scan; I’ve been there, had three losses and I remember the anxiety before the scans. 🩷

The point l was making was that OP found out about her sons’ disability at a twenty week scan, so wanted to keep finding out the sex of this child separate from any potential bad news.

OP l have no clue why you’re getting such a hard time on here. You made it clear in your updates you’ve had a very difficult time and still people are being snarky. In the dim distant past MN was supportive. Now, unfortunately on seemingly every thread there are the keyboard warriors waiting to pounce and pick apart every word, saying things they wouldn’t dream of saying to an actual person face to face. I think sometimes people forget that they are not just responding to a paragraph or two of words - there’s an actual person behind the post. Not sure when women decided it was fine and dandy to be fucking awful to other women posting for support or advice, but one thing I am sure of, is that it says more about them than the OP they’re aiming their bile at.

ah I see it now thank you. i thought the larger outer shadowed areas were the legs, thought they were a bit of an unusual shape!
still no idea how you could be confident to say boy or girl though. I would be leaning towards girl though as there appears to be nothing obvious between the legs.

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I don’t blame you OP. People have been so unnecessarily horrible to you

I see these gender scan pictures on MN every now and then and I have absolutely no idea what im looking at. can someone please be so kind as to put pointers on this pic and and explain what is what in this pic for those of us who haven't got a clue please.

I think some posters are being right men’s on the OP. It’s her pregnancy which has progressed and she’e happy to share with her son and enjoy this! Don’t be a hater.

also I can see why you would question this babies gender with this image. However after having a scan at the same point it would be more clearer if it was boy as my baby is a boy, also I took my daughter to the scan!

congratulations on your pregnancy and wishing you all the best xx