To think the sonographer could be wrong?

DancyNancy · 27/08/2025 14:00

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and baby girl OP. All good wishes to ye 🤗

Vogt · 25/08/2025 22:02

Abuye · 25/08/2025 21:41

My sincere apologies @cc99xo, I hadn’t read the full thread when I replied and assumed it was yet another of the ‘so disappointed I’m having a boy’ threads. I should have read all your comments before I posted and I am so sorry to hear of your experiences. I wish you a very happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy 🙏🏽

I can't speak for the OP but just to say it's not often at all that someone apologises and admits they got it wrong on Mumsnet. Fair play to you @Abuye

Abuye · 25/08/2025 21:41

My sincere apologies @cc99xo, I hadn’t read the full thread when I replied and assumed it was yet another of the ‘so disappointed I’m having a boy’ threads. I should have read all your comments before I posted and I am so sorry to hear of your experiences. I wish you a very happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy 🙏🏽

Rosscameasdoody · 25/08/2025 19:03

Abuye · 24/08/2025 21:49

Same old same old with these threads. A healthy baby boy would be a crushing disappointment.

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What a fucking awful comment to make about any expectant mother. But the fact that you would make it about the OP who has been clear about the fact that she found out about her sons’ disability on a 20 week scan is beyond disgusting. If you had actually read her posts you would have understood that, and the fact that her reference to ‘worry’ was purely because her little boy was desperate for a baby sister. I’m out of this thread. I simply can’t comprehend the necessity some posters feel to put the boot in to an OP who has posted for support, and who has clearly been through so much. You should be ashamed.

winnieanddaisy · 25/08/2025 14:12

app the sonography is looking for the ovaries not a penis . If she sees ovaries then it’s probably a girl .

Dominoeffecter · 25/08/2025 09:43

cc99xo · 25/08/2025 07:17

Just what the clinic calls them 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Ahh, I’ve have never heard that expression. Congratulations on your baby 🥰 I’m sorry you’ve had some crappy comments on this thread.

NotPerfectlyAdverage · 25/08/2025 07:43

I think it depends on who does the scan. I had a private Bupa scan with a consultant at 14 weeks. He was very confident on the babies sex and he was right. But he was leading nhs consultant doing a side hassle. I then had a nifty test. But I didn't set my heart 100% until they was born. I did this because of previous ds12 week scan on the nhs and my age and therefore raised blood risk for DS.

I'd keep a open mind until 18 weeks.

Whatshesaid96 · 25/08/2025 07:34

cc99xo · 25/08/2025 06:43

@AbuyeHow dare you. I’ve been through hell with multiple, and I mean MULTIPLE, losses AND back in 2020 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy who unfortunately WASN’T healthy and now has a lifelong disability. Nobody wants a healthy baby more than me. Very easy for you to sit there on your high horse when you haven’t been through the trauma I’ve been through. I’d be over the moon regardless, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to know whether I’m having a boy or a girl and not wanting to find out that whatever sex I was told was wrong later down the line in my pregnancy. I also don’t want my son to get his hopes up for a baby sister (which he’s always wanted) if he’s having a baby brother - again, I’D BE HAPPY EITHER WAY, and I’m sure he would eventually too.

OP just scroll on and try not to let it get to you. I had two consecutive losses before my daughter. It took 5 years in total to get pregnant with her, damned was I not going to find out what gender she was. We all have our reasons, sending you lots of love.

Kuretake · 25/08/2025 07:32

IntoTheFringe · 24/08/2025 12:12

Do you honestly believe that there is "no excitement in the arrival" of a baby when you already know the sex? So the only thing that is exciting when a baby is born is finding out if it's a boy or a girl? I mean, each to their own, but I find that quite bizarre.

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It's hilarious - yes the only exciting thing the day you give birth is knowing whether your child has a vagina or a penis. If you've found out before there's no excitement at all. In fact I wouldn't bother even showing up to the birth of I knew the sex already, no point.

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cc99xo · 25/08/2025 07:17

Thank you so much for your kind words 🥰

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cc99xo · 25/08/2025 07:17

Dominoeffecter · 25/08/2025 07:16

‘potty shots’??

Just what the clinic calls them 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Vogt · 25/08/2025 07:17

cc99xo sorry you've had so much flak on this thread. I'm very sorry that you've endured so many losses.

Delighted to read that there is further confirmation of the sex of your lovely little baby - congratulations 💐

Dominoeffecter · 25/08/2025 07:16

‘potty shots’??

Doitrightnow · 25/08/2025 07:13

I know someone told girl but it was a boy.
Consequently I didn't assume I knew the sex for sure until my dc was in my arms.

IntoTheFringe · 25/08/2025 07:01

Abuye · 24/08/2025 21:49

Same old same old with these threads. A healthy baby boy would be a crushing disappointment.

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Same old with these threads. People don't read the OP's posts properly and just make (rude and incorrect) assumptions.

Mumofsoontobe3 · 25/08/2025 06:54

cc99xo · 25/08/2025 06:53

Update: I had a NIPT done back at 10 weeks pregnant but opted out of knowing the sex at the time for personal reasons. I was told to make the decision about the sex and I wouldn’t be able to change my mind. Anyway I took a very slim chance and contacted the company I did my NIPT through and they were able to go back on my files and confirm she is in fact a girl 💗🥰 - so with NIPT saying girl + scan (even if it doesn’t look completely clear to my untrained eye) I think it’s safe to say she’s 99.9% my beautiful daughter. Thanks everyone!

Congratulations on your baby girl 🥰💜 wishing you a healthy pregnancy and safe arrival x

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cc99xo · 25/08/2025 06:53

Update: I had a NIPT done back at 10 weeks pregnant but opted out of knowing the sex at the time for personal reasons. I was told to make the decision about the sex and I wouldn’t be able to change my mind. Anyway I took a very slim chance and contacted the company I did my NIPT through and they were able to go back on my files and confirm she is in fact a girl 💗🥰 - so with NIPT saying girl + scan (even if it doesn’t look completely clear to my untrained eye) I think it’s safe to say she’s 99.9% my beautiful daughter. Thanks everyone!

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cc99xo · 25/08/2025 06:48

Mumtobabyhavoc · 24/08/2025 21:41

Scrotum/penis in centre of legs

Swollen girl bits

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Mumofsoontobe3 · 25/08/2025 06:45

I had 3 boys and the scans were very obviously a boy. Very loud and proud and immediately clear they were boys. I've never seen a scan from a girl though to compare - can you ask to check again on your next scan? A few years ago I gave a huge bundle of boy clothes to a friend of a friend who's scan was incorrect so I know for sure it does happen. Congratulations on your pregnancy OP - hope it's all going well for you!

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cc99xo · 25/08/2025 06:43

@AbuyeHow dare you. I’ve been through hell with multiple, and I mean MULTIPLE, losses AND back in 2020 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy who unfortunately WASN’T healthy and now has a lifelong disability. Nobody wants a healthy baby more than me. Very easy for you to sit there on your high horse when you haven’t been through the trauma I’ve been through. I’d be over the moon regardless, but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to know whether I’m having a boy or a girl and not wanting to find out that whatever sex I was told was wrong later down the line in my pregnancy. I also don’t want my son to get his hopes up for a baby sister (which he’s always wanted) if he’s having a baby brother - again, I’D BE HAPPY EITHER WAY, and I’m sure he would eventually too.

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Mycatsrulex2 · 24/08/2025 22:04

cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:38

I’ve been told girl but I just feel like it’s protruding too much? AIBU to question this or do I just trust what the trained sonographer says? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Any parents with girls out here who had similar potty shots? I don’t know whether to book another scan somewhere else

It looks more like a dinosaur to me! 😄

Fourteenandahalf · 24/08/2025 21:55

Abuye · 24/08/2025 21:49

Same old same old with these threads. A healthy baby boy would be a crushing disappointment.

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I don't think so in this case. The op has had a son with a significant disability already. I think she just wants some happy news at a scan.

Abuye · 24/08/2025 21:49

Lesina · 23/08/2025 21:56

Why would you worry though?

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Same old same old with these threads. A healthy baby boy would be a crushing disappointment.

Broomania77 · 24/08/2025 21:47

cc99xo · 23/08/2025 21:44

Idk I’ve heard stories about getting the sex wrong at 15/16 weeks. Hopefully I’ve got nothing to worry about :)

Our sonographer (consultant) said at 22 weeks (couldn't see baby properly at 20 so had another) "don't paint anything pink but im almost certain its a girl"
MiL went crazy buying unicorns tutus and pink stuff. I bought one thing- a baby vest with leia and darth vader holding hands saying Daddy's Little Princess. I put a post on Facebook saying we were expecting- The Rise Of ..... (our surname)" with the vest.
MIL booked us a 4d scan which i didnt want as im very overweight and didnt think it would work. She couldn't see anything first time, so we were invited back and she said did we want the lights etc. We said the consultant said he wasn't 100% but thought girl but yeah the lights would be cute....
And then the lights came on. They were blue. Yep. Daddy's little princess had a winkle!
Anyway further scans i had (for health reasons) failed to confirm and the first question i asked when baby came out was "boy?"
He's now 5 🤣🤣🤣 nana returned the tutus but the vest is in his memory box as a funny story for him!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 24/08/2025 21:41

Scrotum/penis in centre of legs

To think the sonographer could be wrong?