Is it ever appropriate to hug a naked child?

Think it really depends on the context. My DD has SEN, is 9 and we have to get her dressed/undressed. She'll regularly hug us (both her mum and dad) during this in various stages of undress. We also both bedshare with her if she wants to. Nothing wrong with it but as I said depends on the context.

I think its weird for a teen to be hugging a parent naked (i am assuming actually naked, not like in a towel hugs parent as they leave for work or something) and it's think its weird for a teenager to regularly sleep with a parent.

Only exception would be SEN and then I think its understandable why the child does it but id be teaching her about privacy because id worry about other adults she may be naked and vulnerable in front of

I wouldnt think either thing was weird prepuberty.

And at what point is it the parents responsibility to say that they are not comfortable, if the child never gets to that point?

The parent should not say that they are uncomfortable hugging their child, as that makes it the child's responsibility - they are the one who is changing, if they weren't changing their parent would still be happy to hug them.

Reframe:

Daddy treats women with respect. This means Daddy doesn't hug women naked, he only hugs Mummy/his partner naked. As your body is gradually changing from a little girl to a young woman, Daddy wants to treat you with the same respect. Daddy loves you very much and you deserve that respect.

I would say about 7 or 8. But definitely if any changes happening then no. Although I am not a person who is comfortable with nakedness in general. Like I dont get naked in a changing room. I watched a program about naturist families once and I was wide eyed in amazement that they all just were happy being naked. As long as noone is being innapropriate or has sinister intentions then I think other families can have different views on nakedness and that is ok.

Why is it happening? Is she throwing her clothes off and going for a hug? I’m a bit confused. Mine haven’t done that to me since bath time as toddlers. I rarely have anything to do with them naked these days (10 & 12) although they’re comfortable being nude around us most of the time but it’s more in passing like we’re all getting dressed at the same time rather than actively stripping.

Imagine if the OP just gave the necessary info rather than one word replies prompting other posters to fill in all the gaps. Jesus, like pulling teeth. 🙄

She said she doesn't sleep naked.

I would say they should say they're uncomfortable when they become uncomfortable. Do you have reason to believe the other parent is being inappropriate?

To recap, your little girl aged about 10, 11 years old, has SEN. She stays with her dad regularly and has commented (recently?) that she sleeps without her nightwear in daddy's bed. You are starting to feel uncomfortable with this arrangement. Are you able to talk with dad about this or are relations frosty?

For me, puberty. Not sure why but when the body starts to be less childlike if the child doesn't put boundaries in place the adult probably should. I'm not taking about care needs, if they need support changing or toileting etc.

We all hug, wash and sleep together naked and kids are mid-late primary age. They aren’t bothered and we are not paedos so I don’t really get why it would be inappropriate, it’s natural. Would stop the moment the child expresses discomfort with it though of course.

Cor I love cuddling my naked DC. Well, the 6 year old.
The 9 year old is getting more self
Conscious but quite frankly if she wasn’t I’d be snuggling up too. That lovely warm soft skin!

out eldest slept regularly in our bed (with either of us) until 11.

@Anon8642 not better/worse but highly relevant if posters are answering “until they want to stop” as obviously children with SEN may well develop these boundaries at very different times.

My 6 year old gets hot at night and often loses his pyjamas he'll come and get in our bed in the morning for a cuddle, I don't see an issue with that. How old is she?

Ridiculous to post this without the whole story and more information. Impossible to give an appropriate answer.

For eg does this happen when your little girl is at her dad's? She's what, age 10, 11?

Any SEN?

So between 8 and 14 then 🙄

Why so secretive op?

Until they are uncomfortable. Our now almost 9 year old boy became uncomfortable about six. Our 7 year old girl doesn't care yet. She's neurodivergent if that makes a difference. Our 5 year old girl also doesn't care.

Is this after bathtime and she is wrapped in a towel?

OK I would remind posters at this point to not share details of their naked children, girls or boys.

OP can you articulate your worries?